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jamther

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  1. Shelly!!!....Thanks for the encouragement!!! You are such a blast!
  2. And to think I didn't post anymore thinking this was old news!!! How exciting to have a following.....! So....where were we???......Well, we never ended up hearing from our "man" on that fateful Saturday night. Which in all honesty was fine with us. We were so tired from the night before that we were in bed and asleep by nine. And the fact that he called at 2 o'clock as promised was all I needed. So fast forward to Wednesday night (Thanksgiving Eve). We plan to go out as ourselves....husband and wife. I was really needing to just be the trophy wife for the night. I was not in the "gaming" mood. Anyhow, we ended up with 4 other couples planning to meet us also. All friends of ours so it was great. We danced, drank, and had an awesome time. Hubby was very turned on by my dancing and the fact that I had many "admirers" sharing my dance space......hmmm....it was great. I LOVED flirting around with these "boys" and then looking over my shoulder to see Hubby completely in awe. I was his and he was loving this.....it was a HUGE turn-on! So....in between songs, hubby whispered "Go to the car and call "him"". I was totally against this due to the fact that we were with other people and I was not expecting to play....but that didn't last long. Once I get the "itch" implanted in my head, it doesn't take long for me to have to "scratch" it. So, inconspicuously, I headed to our car to make the call. Unfortunately I got his voicemail twice. Oh-well.....for all I knew he could have been out of town for the holiday. No skin off our backs, we were still having a blast. But admittedly so, I was watching the door everytime it opened. A girl has to have a goal....... So we enjoyed the rest of the night. I was eating up the attention...... Interrupt for a little relevant background on me, we have had three children in six years. That also includes two miscarriages. So with basic math, I have been pregnant and/or breastfeeding FOREVER in seems. To top it off, all this baby making had left me 35 lbs heavier then I had ever been. Over the last few months, I have shed that 35 lbs plus some and am back into my pre-marriage body. I know this sounds strange to mention but I wanted you all to understand the big deal this attention is. I was always able to "catch an eye". But obviously, my "Mommy" status put that on the back burner. To now have it back again is fabulous! It has done wonders for my confidence. And for my sex-drive. Ok.....my soap box is done......anyway, hubby and I leave that bar and head to another for a night cap (I was DD by the way, I had like 1/2 a beer all night) and can anyone guess what happens??!?!? Yup......HE'S there. We spotted his car in the parking lot and OMG....I was instantly 4000 degrees. Do we go in? Should just I go in? Should I call him again? Should we just leave????? We decide I will go in alone and I will call Hubby when I feel it out. So I walk in and see him. He's chatting and doesn't notice me. I sit across the bar, watching him and waiting for him to catch me watching him. He does and I think he smiled but I really couldn't see. He was under a really bright ceiling light. But......he was with someone. A very pretty lady in which I recognized as the girl he had described to me as his on again/off again girlfriend. As soon as I realized this, I knew that I had to back off. The "game" couldn't continue in this circumstance. And I have to admit, I felt really awkward. And I assume he did also. We said hello, he introduced me to his friends and we had some small talk. I called Hubby, let him know that it wasn't a good time to "play" and he came in to meet me. He had a beer while we sat across the bar from our guy. I haven't contacted him since. I'm not even sure what I would say. It may not even have been awkward for him. I have a HUGE tendency of over thinking things. Any advice? I'm confident this chapter will provoke some postings and I look forward to it. And I know that this whole "girlfriend" development will raise the red flags.......I'm prepared. But be easy, I cry easy.
  3. Oh yeah.....I forgot to mention.....Hubby was very impressed with my choice of a "friend". Well-spoken, handsome, smart, clean and very open and understanding. Did he really expect any different??? I picked him to marry after all...my taste has standards!!! And it's now 6:30 and I'm still waiting......even if it doesn't happen tonight, at least we get a good nights sleep after a great lay with each other. And the knowledge that this will almost definately happen. Updates to follow...............
  4. Hi All.... I know this thread has been played out for a long time but we have an update. Hubby and I went out last night as "strangers"......He wanted to see me in action with other men (flirting, dancing) and I of course wanted to see "HIM". "HIM" being the man that I was given permission to see and fuck on a Saturday morning and the "HIM" who turned us down for a MFM at my horror and disappointment. Well, I called "HIM" at around 9:00 pm to tell him I was out and wanted to see him. He was feeling under the weather for a but agreed to meet me anyway at the local club. He called me to tell me he was on his way and I instructed him that after his initial appearance and said his hello's (we live in a small town), I would meet him at his car so I could blow him. He was obviously game. And this suggestion was from Hubby. He wanted to get this guy all horned up so we could approach him again. The only stipulation was that I not let "HIM" finish....no cum. We wanted to save that for later. "He" walked in just as planned and it was instant wet panties.....within 15 minutes we were back at his car. Blow job under way I took it very slow and teasing....all the while gearing up to tell him hubby was just inside the bar waiting for us. Needless to say, he was quite taken aback and I let him know that I completely understoood.....He was basically blind-sided and that wasn't nice. And he was literally fearful of a "Passion's Crime"...his words. To make a long story short at this point, my husband very nicely approached him after we made our way separately back inside and asked him to go outside to discuss this. Our "man" very nicely obliged. As they walked by me, my husband murmured me to "Stay put!"....that was a turn on in itself.....the whole control thing really gets me going. After 15 life-long minutes, they both came back in smiling and laughing. Hubby walked over to me and whispered "Meet your new "Fuck-buddy".....OMG,OMG,OMG.....I was speechless. So we spent the next 1 1/2 hours talking, laughing and drinking. We talked about how this is sparking our marriage and he said he was more then happy to play our "Dr. Phil".....it was really great. Although we never ended up together as he was really under the weather, he told us he would call today at 2 pm to plan to come over tonight. All day I was on the verge of puking....so worried about the rejection of no phone call. But as he promised, my cell phone rang at 2 pm exactly. He was still pretty sick and said he would call later to set this up if he started to feel better after taking some meds. And that is where it stands. It's 5:45 and I'm just waiting to hear something. This is truly surreal.....and last night is a complete blur. Standing in between my husband and fantasy fuck was WAY more then I could handle. It snowed here last night but at no point was I cold.....I was sweating bullets all night. My palms were slippery...and I couldn't get to sleep at all. It could have been that hubby and I went at it for two hours upon our return home or it could have been that I could have kept going for two more. Either way.....the baby had me up at his usual 6:30 am.....so it was a very early reality check....... So we're just waiting......MFM here we come. I will make you all proud.
  5. It certainly was awesome and it's all I find myself thinking about! I even forgot to put the laundry soap in the washer and ran the cycle with the water only. I couldn't understand why the baby's bibs were still all crusty!!! Looking really forward to the next time. Hubby and I are like teenagers again. Trying to steal minutes and hide to make out with reckless abandom!!! Only this time it's our kids we are hiding from...not our parents! It's really nice to feel good.
  6. Hi guys...It's the Mrs. here..... Regarding last night....boy oh boy..... At dinner hubby could tell that I was feeling really frisky and I had told him so. All day I was just really looking forward to the kids bedtime....So that was when he told me to go out and "find someone". In all honesty, I knew that wasn't going to happen. I was not comfortable bringing a stranger home.....ewwwww. It's just not safe and a bad idea all together. "He" should be someone that we both meet and get to know. So, I just used this for our benefit. I walked into three different bars...by myself, which just about gave me an anxiety attack, as if I owned the places. I felt good, I knew I looked good and I wanted to exude an aura of confidence. This worked...I saw the "boys" eyeing me up and it excited me even more. I eyed them right back and didn't look away until they did. I never stayed long enough to really have to "beat" anyone back and always walked out with a crowd as to never be alone. I was on my way home by 10:30pm, having phone sex with hubby the entire way. I barely got into the garage before our clothes were off. That was proceeded by the most intense love making session I think we ever had. My body did things I never knew it could. So in effect, being desired after all these years of being a homebodied mommy has completely brought our level of sex to an all time high. And we are looking forward to continuing to raise the stakes. As far as my MFM, I have no doubt it will happen, just need a little more time and it needs to be a joint effort. Don't get me wrong, if I had run into my "fling" last night....(the one who blew us off last Friday for the MFM), I would have asked him again to come home. But it's only because I already know him and am comfortable with him. Everyone deserves a second chance. So although I think hubby was initially a little disappointed when I let him know I was heading home alone, his mood was brought UP again with the mind-blowing attention I shared with him..... This is really great.....we are really great and are so excited with this new spark. It's almost so good, I'm nervous for a black cloud. Always a little pessimism to bring things back to the ground. Staying in tonight though......I'm not sure we can sustain this level of sex....it's EXHAUSTINGLY awesome!
  7. So I am sitting in a nice restaurant tonight and look at the Mrs. and realize she looks stunning. I figure I am feeling a little excited so I figure why not get the Mrs. a little excited as well. Out of the blue while we are enjoying our dinner with our kids, I say I'll give you 2 hours to go out and find a man to bring home. Her eyes lite up and she could barely sit still as we discussed it further. After dinner we came home. She put the lttle one to bed and started preping for her evening. She has been gone 1 hour and things are looking good per a cell phone conversation we had a few minutes ago. She said many guys looked very interested in her. The excitement in her voice alone makes me realize this is definetly worth it, let alone the pay back later on! I figured I would share this with our new friends because every day friends just don't understand. Thanks again all for your advice to the latest newbies. Mr.
  8. So again, thanks to all for their well-spoken and well received advice. We are moving on from this experience with the newfound knowledge that this is a very big turn-on for us. Although certainly not a lifestyle for all, it works for us and can be the "spark" our marriage needs. Not that we have the time, energy or desire to practice this on a weekly, or even monthy basis, it is a tool we can use when we feel it's due. I go away from this knowing: A: I "got" the guy I always wanted. B: He DID want me again, I just can't do that without hubby. and C: I am a very lucky lady. My husband is amazing. And oh yeah....I've still got it after all these years....!!!
  9. You know guys, I have been completely beating myself up over this whole thing....And I'm tired of it. I feel really F'ing pissed, more so at myself for letting this get the best of me. I'm really mad that I can't get a grip and get over the whole ego end of this. I feel like a 10th grader. Part of me just wants to call him again and say "Ok....lets do this, just me and you....". With hubby's blessing of course, but he's not so sure of that happening again. That was really hard on him. Letting me go off to meet this guy for the sole purpose of a fuck was VERY unselfish and completely unheard of (at least in our social circle....). So unless my intended agrees to come home with me, I can't see it happening again. And honestly, even though this guy said no to the MFM, and I told him I couldn't meet him alone, I was still hoping he'd beg. Pretty ridiculous huh?!?!? I really think that it's being desired by someone else that is enticing to me. After being married 10+ years and having three children....this feeling of "someone wanting to fuck me" is very addicting. For the first time in 6 years (since starting my baby days), I feel attractive and like I'm being noticed. And what better way then to go after the guy I didn't get to have. It's not the way it's supposed to be I know. I think I'm mixing in some variables into this and complicating things way too much. What are my new friends thinking??? Be honest, I can take it. I need it.
  10. Well...to all that have been following this and/or offering great advice, I finally touched base with the intended who we were supposed to meet up with last night..... He lost his nerve....he words were "I could never do another man's wife with him there, I'd be wondering and waiting for the ax to my back....". So apparently he was mistrusting of me, him, us and the situation. He said he's had several MFF's but never the way I asked. Also said I was way OVERTHINKING this and basically acted like he was annoyed that he was having to have this conversation. Oh well.....I really F'ed this one up. I should have just left it as it was with my hubby letting me have that great fling on Oct 20th. Now I feel like he thinks I'm a complete basket case. First I come and blindside him with a Saturday afternoon romp after 13 years, then ask for him to come home with me, with Hubby, then I act like an emotional wreck when he backs out.... Should have left it where it was still erotic...now it's just a fantasy taken to far and fizzled out... Wow.....we need some more work. I think we'll be lurking here for awhile before our next big date. Thanks to all who have shown their compassion.........
  11. Purple, You are absolutely right.....I need to think about what "he" is perceiving this as. Hubby and I have talked and talked about this whereas he can just think only what he knows....which is really not much. We totally rushed into this with him. We were just so darn excited...at least I KNOW I WAS!!!! Oh well.....Kids going to grandpa's for an overnighter and Hubby and I are going out for Prime Rib. Maybe we'll see him out and I can wink across the room.
  12. You are right.....and I feel so ridiculous....... I can't even imagine what he is thinking. It was very presumptious of me to assume he would be into this. But like you said....I'm sure he never expected our first encounter to lead to another one with my husband present. Although I am not a liar....he may not have thought I was telling the whole truth the first time. How do you possibly go about finding a man? I don't have any other interests other then this particular guy. I'm beginning to think that the fantasizing is a hell of a lot easier and much more fun then the actual act.....this is really hard.
  13. Thanks guys. Still no word and I even left a nice message this morning. I said that If I offended him in anyway I was certainly very sorry and understand his avoidance. I also mentioned that I was feeling very embarrassed about this considering it was a pretty bizarre request and my only hope was that he call so I could have piece of mind. Kind of surprised, mad, sad, pissed, irate, depressed, embarrassed, mortified, rejected and just plain confused. When I originally approached him for this he has asked for one more time with "just me". I couldn't give him that for which I'm sure he understood. I am a faithful wife....and cannot fathom betraying my husband like that. Especially after what he has done for me. Our intended did indicate to me that he was very unsure of my husband being present for this....so I'm assuming his shyness has taken over. But I'm still thinking he is totally disgusted with me and that is really bothering me. Even though I sit here and answer my own questions in this posting....I can't help but feel horrible about this. And really, really sexually frustrated. Hubby and I have to make the best of this tonight......looking forward to it.
  14. Ok....now I'm really feeling very awkward. I called our intended today to set up the details for tomorrow night. I asked if it was a good time to talk and he said to give him a few hours. I know that he is very busy during the day. Well, I gave it 6 hours and called. No answer. I called an hour later and left a voicemail message. Hmmmmm....is he questioning this??? I feel like such a fool.....so embarrassed that I asked him this. Of course I will feel better if he calls back but what if he doesn't??? How incredibly uncomfortable.
  15. Thanks for the advice to all!! I want say when I sent my wife out for her "playdate" which I completely orchestrated and sprung on her 9 am the morning of, my emotions were all over the place. Afterwards I felt hopelessly in love with her, couldn't get enough of her, I had never, ever felt like this about anyone before in my life. So it was a little hard for me to control my emotions - not exactly the emotional type. I understand what I was feeling and I am really sooo good with the MFM she wants. Like I had said earlier, we were both very sexual people early in our relationship, it seems as if we have been dormant all these years. What we, I think I can speak for the Mrs. as well here, have felt and expereinced over this last month has brought us sooo close together. When my wife is on, there is no better. I asked her 10 minutes ago about the session we had 2 nights ago, we agreed niether of us had experienced anything better. Then it goes beyond physical, the way she looks, the way she looks at me, the way she talks to me and that smile I feel like I am falling in love all over again. I am absolutely crazy for this woman - my wife and I know having a MFM will take her to a level she has never been to - a level that I can't even imagine!!!!!!
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