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  • Birthday 04/26/1956

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    Married
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    North Carolina
  • Interests
    Riding my GL1800
  • Swinging Experience
    11 Years

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    ncmd_couple
  • Favorite Club(s)
    The Cottage, The Farm

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  1. There really isn't an answer to your question, or others would have chimed in already. But I will share my thoughts at this point. Every relationship is unique in many ways. And honestly swinging is a really big step for the majority of people. It is contrary to how they were raised and societal norms. The chances of you meeting someone who is "swinger ready" are pretty much slim to none. So, if swinging is something you really want to do, then you have to be honest about it. In my case, monogamy was something that was never really important to me. It all depends on your motivations. If you want to find a woman that feels the same way, then you will have to look where the environment is already swinger friendly. If she is there, she leans that way to start off with. I saw a profile of a woman on SLS the other day who was specifically looking for a male swinging partner for a LTR. You might try there. You can also visit venues in your area that are swinger friendly. If you are up front in what you are looking for in a relationship, where ever you meet her, you are gonna have a lot of one and done dates, but then again, you might get lucky! Women at your age are past the raising kids stage, they are in their sexual prime, and you just never know. Good luck!
  2. I haven't had any contacts in the swingers in upstate NY for a number of years, but there were quite a few in the Ithaca area as well as a regular group that did a hotel takeover in Corning that I attended, a good time was had. But as the others have said, what the hell! Taxes are terrible and the laws are worse, I sold my property up there even though I had 15 beautiful acres between Ithaca and Watkins Glenn.
  3. Well, three years have passed and there have been a lot changes in my life and I decided that it would make more sense if I kept the post in the original thread. I guess I am more disappointed that the guy would be an ass out of the gate like that at a family event. I'm thinking about talking to his wife as I used to work with her and know her a lot better.
  4. Well, for some reason I came back to visit here. I guess I miss the open discussions and the open lifestyle of swinging whether it ends up in bed or not. Life has dealt me a number of challenges over the last few years, separation, then divorce, loss of job and out of work for two years. But on the plus side, I'm back to work and have re-married. And things are looking up. My new wife is willing to visit the Cottage in PA, a great club, but it is a long way away and it has been years since I have been there and I'm sure it has changed. Part of the problem is that the attitude of males in swinger couples in NC are really different than they were in the NE when I was active years ago. They are aggressive. We had a party at the house back in July, one couple there I was pretty sure were swingers from the wife that we have known for a few years. After the party, which was a family event, he grabbed my wife and tried to stuff his tongue down her throat, which obviously put her off. When she told me, I'm like what the fuck! Same thing happened with my ex-wife with out first encounter with swingers in NC. And that ended our swinging here. I'm 60 now, I enjoyed the openess, the relaxed atmosphere, The respect for others. It seems that what drew me to swinging has been lost. Back then, if we wound up in bed, it was for the mutual enjoyment, now..... I guess I just miss how it used to be...
  5. Morning Monkey, Sorry for being so late in seeing your post. Ok, my information is nine years old as I escaped Maryland early in 2009. I am not familiar with The Crucible at all. I can't help ya' there. We did go to Tabu several times. The setup wasn't bad. We were in our late 40s at the time. I found the crowd to be younger and it was tailored for the younger crowd. The vibe was more of a city pushy vibe than a laid back vibe. As I said, we went a couple of times on different nights (things change from night to night). Of all the places we visited over the years, I always love The Cottage in Gettysburg, PA the most. The Farm was good and we went there a number of times also. So, if the logistics can be worked out, check out the cottage....
  6. I'm 59 and have effectively been married for 41 years. Got married at 18. Young women? Yeah, they are like a Ferrari, nice to look at, but who the hell wants to own one? My girlfriend has saggy boobs, she lost a lot of weight so she has wrinkles. C-section scar. All of the battle scars of life. Just like I am turning grey and losing my hair, don't have the muscle tone that I once had. Between us we have 5 kids and a passel of grand kids. She wants to get a boob job and tummy tuck. I don't want her to have either of those done. There is nothing more beautiful to me than her sitting on the deck naked, with all the faults that I don't give a damn about, sipping a cold beer watching the sun set. There is one thing that you are not taking into consideration. Yes, we see the changes in you. But what we really see is the sexy 18-20 year old woman that is still there, underneath it all. And with all the changes, we wouldn't undo any of them. They are what make you the woman that you are! Yes, there are men who don't accept that those changes are a part of life. They still long for that tight young 18-20 year old woman and you see them chase them. Damn fools if you ask me. I have a friend who is like that. I told him one day that he was like an old dog chasing a car. If he caught it, he wouldn't know what to do with it. Hahaha Your husband doesn't sound like he is one of those. So stand proud babe. Revel in the mature loving woman that you are. I bet if you asked your hubby the right question, you would find out that his answer that to the question about which of your bodies he preferred is more that he wished that you were both younger and knew what you knew now....
  7. Mcat, Don't be worried about anal. Have him use lubriderm as a lubricant, and plenty of it, and have him start out slow. You will find that if done slowly at first to give you time to adjust, you will find that it is very pleasurable if you want it to be.
  8. Sadly, it probably is the club ownership that is the problem. At my favorite club, the owners were very clear on what the rules were and one strike your out. Sounds like the clubs you have been visiting are more interested in the money.
  9. I never had a chance to visit TPA, and as I lived in Carrol County, the others were closer. I understand the money issues for sure and we all have our challenges to deal with, so no worries. As far as the jerk is concerned, they were there also, so they can't really out you without getting busted themselves. And if you do find yourself in the situation where you have to interact with them, just be polite like you would be at the grocery store and move on.
  10. MDcouple121211, I too am curious which club you went to. Granted, I escaped from Maryland in the spring of 2009 so my experience is dated, but... The Cottage in Gettysburg is an awesome club and was my first experience. I don't know if the couple that owned it back then is even still alive, but they were transitioning management to their son, and I'm sure that it is still a great venue. You can also rent a room for the night which we did after the first visit and made a weekend of our visits. The Farm is ok, but I didn't enjoy it as much. Taboo in down town Baltimore was a much younger crowd than we were. The dynamics of every club is different. At the Cottage, we had a dozen or so couples come by and check out "the new couple" and we made some friends that we really enjoyed. The Farm was different, and pretty much like your experience was, but we did eventually meet a couple that we still stay in contact with. Taboo.... well, the age dynamic put us out of the range of the twenty somethings that were predominate there. So if the dynamic at the club you were at isn't what you were looking for, check out a different club! If I was still in the area I would offer to take ya' to the Cottage and show ya' around without obligation for anything else. Remember, your visit to a club is what you make it to be. Always go with the anticipation that the two of you will have fun together in a relaxed environment. And if ya' do meet some folks, it is a bonus!!
  11. Swinging isn't so much a lifestyle, as a state of mind. A disability can cover a wide range of things. If you are just thinking about sex, then that is one thing. Swinging is more about sharing, normally with a partner. As a single male, I get that. Personally, my affinity to swinging is more about an openness.
  12. Well, had to update my profile on SLS today, the ticker rolled over 58 yesterday. On the plus side, I had a great birthday. I found a new Bi hopefully single female close to me on there this morning. I reached out to her, I guess I will find out if there is any interest on her part.
  13. Having followed the growing threat situation in the US for several years, I honestly don't think that a swinger's club is in any more danger than any other venue, and in several ways probably low on the list. The terrorist look for targets that will get the maximum shock value, and honestly, to most Americans, swingers just aren't on their list of people to care about. The risk is high nationwide, but swingers not anymore than anyone else. These days if your head isn't on the swivel and you are not paying attention to your environment, you are at a greater risk walking down the street in an city. I exercise my right to conceal carry at all times, where it is legal to do so.
  14. I thought I would check in. I have had contact with a couple of women through SLS. Nothing has come of that as of yet. I'm just taking my time, but I wish I didn't have to work Friday night, singles night at the local club.
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