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all great advice... I can't cut him off. I dont think he would care or to be more exact he would tell me he didn't. But I am sure it would hurt him. He is in counseling (for other things). Now on the masturbation: how long does it take? Do I give up to soon? If I use a vibrator will it make it more difficult to orgasm with a man? I am seriously considering getting the video and book suggested earlier. Will my husband be hurt if he knows I am masturbating? When we have sex, I tell him softer or move his hand and he still will do what he wants. What turns him on. Which hurts me emotionally. Do I go somewhere else for sex? Do you have any more links on masturbation? With all that you guys have said I think that is the key. I am sure there is nothing physically wrong with me. I never had issues with my ex husband or ex lovers. Do I tell my husband I have always faked it and risk damaging his ego more? Because ever since I told him that I don't like what he does etc etc he has given up and nothing happened for what seemed like forever and than he suggested M F M to see if someone else could get me off. I guess to put the blame elsewhere. So what do I tell him?

He once told me that he's just not interested in it anymore. AND the biggie was when I did tell him I am far from being satisfied. He took that as such a big blow to his ego that he gave up. Later (months later) he suggested M F M to see if someone else could get me off. I am assuming his male ego is so bruised that now he thinks its me and no one can get me off. But I believe he wasn't M F M so he can go and do something with someone else.And I have a BIG problem with that. My issues I know but he was unfaithful to me twice three years ago. they meant nothing. But they meant everything to me. So I think it is a combination of things. When I suggest something like videos he says no.We just bought a camcorder and I suggested using it. He said no. I have tried to seduce him so many times and been rejected that i dont try anymore. I dont know what to do. Its really getting to me. I just dont know, I haven't gained weight or anything. i look the same as I did before we were married. I dont know what it is. And when we do have sex, he doesn't even touch me it is pull pants down put it in and he's done. I NEED to feel more. I have talked to him. he says nothing. and he says its not important anymore and he doesn't know why BUT he still masturbates every morning. so the drive is still there. ANY help is great the help I have gotten so far is helping thanks Any ideas I will take with all seriousness and apply them. PLEASE help me

I am really really embarrassed by this, but I dont know how to masturbate. I know you say touch & explore where it feels good and go for it. But when I do, I get frustrated and then I stop. Because it feels better having him touch me anyhow, even it is not very often. i dont know how or where to even begin. I know I sound stupid. But it is true. I am so tired of being frustrated. i am at my wits end.I love him and I dont want to feel like the only way for me to have physical.sensual pleasure is to cheat on him. I don't know what to do.I know I sound like I should be 13 instead of 33 but.. I am at my wits end. Please give me suggestions. anything

We've been together for five years. When I was with my first husband I did. It was a great sexual relationship. I made the mistake of faking it for the sake of his ego w/ my husband now.He doesn't know that.. but he knows it doesn't happen very often. The only way I can orgasm through masturbation is by squeezing my muscles. And during sex, I will try to tell him what I want or need, but does what he wants. He is actually the one that suggested the M F M, to see if someone else could get me off. BUT in my opinion, my H doesn't try, I guess eh thinks that he tried it didn't work and that is that. We don't have foreplay and I yearn for it. So should I try to learn to masturbate on my own, manually or with a vibrator rather than squeezing my leg muscles. He orgasms every time, but he is bored ( i think) BUT he wont try anything new.And this is the only thing he has suggested to try. I am ok with it, if it was to be M F M,I am not ok with I'm being with another woman. We are not there yet or may never be there. But I am frustrated and when I talk to him...he does not talk back and than it is even a longer time until we have our two minute sex again. So I guess I am open to this because I am super super frustrated. I don't know what to do. Or what I can do.

My husband and I are weighing the pros and cons of swinging. we have not yet done it. I have a BIG question. One of the reasons we want to try it, is for sexual satisfaction. I want to have an orgasm. I haven't in 10 years. Maybe if I'm with someone else I could? Is this ok? Our idea is a MFM threesome. Will this put people off?