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    Default When talk first, then Pics = no attraction

    Online finally shows you pics after talking for weeks. And there is just no way you are attracted in the least. But you like them as friends what do you do? How do you tell them?

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    Honesty works. That is what this is supposed to be about. Not just with your spouse but all others you meet in the Lifestyle.

    We all have our preferences of what we like and don't like. We can have friends without having sex with them.

    I think that is one reason we still pretty much to meeting people at the club. You know what they look like right up front and they know what you look like. That way there is no misunderstanding and having to deal with all of that.
    You all laugh at me because I am different. I laugh at all of you because you are all the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasLee
    Honesty works. That is what this is supposed to be about. Not just with your spouse but all others you meet in the Lifestyle.

    We all have our preferences of what we like and don't like. We can have friends without having sex with them.

    I agree honesty is the way to go. But I have had people blow up at me andwent completely crazy. For the most part I just tell them they aren't our type and I would still like to be friends with them. Usually that goes well. Every now and again people go nuts! LOL

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    Look at it this way. The ones that go nuts you don't want to have as freinds anyway. Now if you have led them along for a long time then told them I can see maybe getting a bit upset. Since you know a great deal of this has to do with the way the people look get the picture part, or meeting to see what they look like out of the way soon. Don't drag it out.
    You all laugh at me because I am different. I laugh at all of you because you are all the same.

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    hahah well I wasn't looking for advice just trying to string up conversation. But thanks anyway for you input

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarriedNY'ers69
    hahah well I wasn't looking for advice just trying to string up conversation. But thanks anyway for you input


    That's not fair.

    Maybe this is letting you know that if you had a nice time talking with them that looks aren't all that important. Otherwise get it out of the way. So what if they're pissed. They'll get over it and so will YOU!

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    Watch out M.D. That sounded a bit like advise to me.
    You all laugh at me because I am different. I laugh at all of you because you are all the same.

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    LOL sorry guys not trying to be a bitch lol I really am nice hahaha. Just want you to know not everything I post is a personal one haha. Just kinda trying to get an idea of what others do. I know what I do LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarriedNY'ers69
    LOL sorry guys not trying to be a bitch lol I really am nice hahaha. Just want you to know not everything I post is a personal one haha. Just kinda trying to get an idea of what others do. I know what I do LOL
    Hey Vegas...my advice would be to watch out for gals like this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DBL D
    Hey Vegas...my advice would be to watch out for gals like this one.

    M.D.

    Why ? Must be you think I am a bitch LOL Oh well not everyone can like me. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarriedNY'ers69
    Why ? Must be you think I am a bitch LOL Oh well not everyone can like me. LOL
    I was just having some fun with you...like you have had with us, that's all. I didn't think you were a bitch. You'd probably be a lot of fun to meet and talk to.

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    haha ok I was just checking still trying to feel all the dynamics of this board be easy on the newbie LOL I try to be alot of fun. :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarriedNY'ers69
    haha ok I was just checking still trying to feel all the dynamics of this board be easy on the newbie LOL I try to be alot of fun. :P
    Sweetie, this is the best board you could ever be associated with. Have fun but know that we ain't stupid! (As a whole...although I'm sorta stupid.)

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    LMAO MD You guys are making me feel very welcome. Thanks! I'm loving this board already.

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