Same room couples?

lynn3 · 03-06-2003, 08:31 AM

My husband and I are new to the Lifestyle. The main thing that turns both of us on is the idea of seeing each other with some-else's spouse.

For us, the idea of having sex with another person alone with-out our S.O. around does nothing for us. The REAL turn-on is having each other in the same room/bed.

However, we've begun to feel like we may be rare. We went to a club and it seemed that alot of the people there were in it for sex with others. Regardless of where their spouse may be.

We are an extremely close couple, and so far the fantasies have greatly enhanced our sex-life, and brought us closer together in general.......Is it going to be that hard to find another couple, in the Lifestyle who feels the same as us?

fun_pairTX · 03-06-2003, 08:45 AM

We only play together, same room, preferably same bed and have no problems at all finding others like us. Don't take clubs, especially off-premise clubs, as a barometer of swinging or people who swing. We found over time that people have a "club-persona" that doesn't necessarily transcend to what they are like in a more intimate setting. We avoid off-premise clubs for this reason. There are plenty of people out there that feel as you, and we do.

**TNT** · 03-06-2003, 09:04 AM

I don't think it will be very hard for you to find a couple that is also into same room swap.

Most of the couples we know are only into same room although, a few will do same room as well as play separately.

Only do what you are comfortable with.

Good Luck,

Teresa

Handyman69 · 03-06-2003, 10:23 AM

lynn3,

Just to let you know we are the same as fun_pairTX. We definately play together as this is why we entered into this lifestyle. Have always done same soom but prefer same bed. We like the more interaction between everyone involved. We have gone to a few clubs and enjoy them but prefer the more intimate setting.

So you are not alone in your ideas, as many of us think the way you do.

Keep looking......you will find the type of couple you are looking for.

Good luck...

Rhonda

dave_susie2001 · 03-06-2003, 11:45 AM

Same room, same bed. This has so much more to offer for us. It’s not just swapping. We can have FM-FM, FFM, MMF, FF….what ever turns us on. We like to have one 4-some, not two 2-somes.

MattMann · 03-06-2003, 01:46 PM

I don't think you are out of the norm at all. Watching your significant other being pleased and knowing they are enjoying watching you being pleased (and of course you and your current sex partner pleasing each other) is all part of the fun. I think so, anyway.

lynn3 · 03-06-2003, 11:05 PM

Thanks to everyone who replied. You have all helped us feel much more comfortable about what we want. As well as feeling we are more common than we thought.
J&J

nicecouple10069 · 03-09-2003, 02:38 PM

We agree with most people in these posts. same room same bed most of the time. We have never done the club thing. We are looking for more like friends. NOt just sex you can get that anywhere. We like the trading and sharing seeing and hearing your partner being pleased. Wish that you guys were closer.LOL

Brian and Jo · 03-10-2003, 01:50 PM

We also agree with the previous posts. For us same room sex where we can watch each other performing with another partner is a huge turn-on for both of us. This applies if we are just with another couple or in a larger group of several couples. Also when we are all in the same room the combinations of partners are greatly enhanced and we enjoy the opportunity to have sex with whomever we want, no matter what gender the other partner may be nor the number of partners we have simultaneously.

Brian and Jo

OhioCouple · 03-10-2003, 02:49 PM

We began as strictly same room only and then strayed a couple of times to separate rooms which did not work out well for us. Our fulfillment comes from same room only. There we have the security of each other and the enjoyment that comes from watching the person you love give the same pleasures to another person that you have the every day benefit from. I love watching my husband thrill another woman in the same way that he does me, as much as he does watching another man do the same that he does for his partner. The thrill and excitement is as much a pleasure as it is a learning experience.

I don't think you are rare at all. I think the majority of couples feel the same way. As funpair_TX said, don't gauge clubs as being the norm for swinger activities. We haven't found it to be the norm with any of the couples we have met outside of clubs.

Lori

Brit_Pair · 03-10-2003, 02:58 PM

We'll add our voice to the chorus and say that in our limited experience, same room entertainment is far more pleasurable because it's pleasure shared with the person you care about most.

kycpl4bifem · 03-10-2003, 04:31 PM

We do same room 90% of the time because it is our preference also BUT we have met several cpls where the man had so much either performance anxiety or homophobia about other nude men that they could not swap same room and get an erection. They functioned normaly seperate room.

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03-06-2003, 08:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
lynn3 Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 36 Location: B'ham, AL Status: couple	Same room couples? My husband and I are new to the Lifestyle. The main thing that turns both of us on is the idea of seeing each other with some-else's spouse. For us, the idea of having sex with another person alone with-out our S.O. around does nothing for us. The REAL turn-on is having each other in the same room/bed. However, we've begun to feel like we may be rare. We went to a club and it seemed that alot of the people there were in it for sex with others. Regardless of where their spouse may be. We are an extremely close couple, and so far the fantasies have greatly enhanced our sex-life, and brought us closer together in general.......Is it going to be that hard to find another couple, in the Lifestyle who feels the same as us?

03-06-2003, 08:45 AM	#2 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Shouldn't be a problem at all....... We only play together, same room, preferably same bed and have no problems at all finding others like us. Don't take clubs, especially off-premise clubs, as a barometer of swinging or people who swing. We found over time that people have a "club-persona" that doesn't necessarily transcend to what they are like in a more intimate setting. We avoid off-premise clubs for this reason. There are plenty of people out there that feel as you, and we do. __________________ fun_pairTX

03-06-2003, 09:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,004 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 24	I don't think it will be very hard for you to find a couple that is also into same room swap. Most of the couples we know are only into same room although, a few will do same room as well as play separately. Only do what you are comfortable with. Good Luck, Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

03-06-2003, 01:46 PM	#6 (permalink)
MattMann Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 185 Location: NC Status: Married Man	I agree I don't think you are out of the norm at all. Watching your significant other being pleased and knowing they are enjoying watching you being pleased (and of course you and your current sex partner pleasing each other) is all part of the fun. I think so, anyway.

03-06-2003, 10:23 AM	#4 (permalink)
Handyman69 Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 553 Location: MI..God's country.so we thought. Status: Couple SLS Name:handyman69	lynn3, Just to let you know we are the same as fun_pairTX. We definately play together as this is why we entered into this lifestyle. Have always done same soom but prefer same bed. We like the more interaction between everyone involved. We have gone to a few clubs and enjoy them but prefer the more intimate setting. So you are not alone in your ideas, as many of us think the way you do. Keep looking......you will find the type of couple you are looking for. Good luck... Rhonda

03-06-2003, 11:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
dave_susie2001 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 284 Location: Michigan Status: Married Couple	Same room, same bed. This has so much more to offer for us. It’s not just swapping. We can have FM-FM, FFM, MMF, FF….what ever turns us on. We like to have one 4-some, not two 2-somes.

03-06-2003, 11:05 PM	#7 (permalink)
lynn3 Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 36 Location: B'ham, AL Status: couple	Thanks to everyone who replied. You have all helped us feel much more comfortable about what we want. As well as feeling we are more common than we thought. J&J

03-09-2003, 02:38 PM	#8 (permalink)
nicecouple10069 Registered Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 5 Location: Southern Colorado Status: Couple	We agree with most people in these posts. same room same bed most of the time. We have never done the club thing. We are looking for more like friends. NOt just sex you can get that anywhere. We like the trading and sharing seeing and hearing your partner being pleased. Wish that you guys were closer.LOL

03-10-2003, 01:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
Brian and Jo Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 213 Location: Ontario	We also agree with the previous posts. For us same room sex where we can watch each other performing with another partner is a huge turn-on for both of us. This applies if we are just with another couple or in a larger group of several couples. Also when we are all in the same room the combinations of partners are greatly enhanced and we enjoy the opportunity to have sex with whomever we want, no matter what gender the other partner may be nor the number of partners we have simultaneously. Brian and Jo

03-10-2003, 02:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	We began as strictly same room only and then strayed a couple of times to separate rooms which did not work out well for us. Our fulfillment comes from same room only. There we have the security of each other and the enjoyment that comes from watching the person you love give the same pleasures to another person that you have the every day benefit from. I love watching my husband thrill another woman in the same way that he does me, as much as he does watching another man do the same that he does for his partner. The thrill and excitement is as much a pleasure as it is a learning experience. I don't think you are rare at all. I think the majority of couples feel the same way. As funpair_TX said, don't gauge clubs as being the norm for swinger activities. We haven't found it to be the norm with any of the couples we have met outside of clubs. Lori __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

03-10-2003, 02:58 PM	#11 (permalink)
Brit_Pair Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 3,634 Location: UK Status: Couple	We'll add our voice to the chorus and say that in our limited experience, same room entertainment is far more pleasurable because it's pleasure shared with the person you care about most.

03-10-2003, 04:31 PM	#12 (permalink)
kycpl4bifem Active Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 31 Location: Central Kentucky Status: Cpl	We do same room 90% of the time because it is our preference also BUT we have met several cpls where the man had so much either performance anxiety or homophobia about other nude men that they could not swap same room and get an erection. They functioned normaly seperate room.

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