Is there a difference between the sex with your wife and with others?

[2dreamyangels]

To all you males out there is Sex just Sex no matter who its with? Do you take as much time pleasing your wife as you do pleasing other women? Is there as much romance in your bedroom as is in others? I ask this because it seems that in our relationship, sex is just sex anymore. We seem to spend more time pleasing others than we do each other. Sad isn't it? I ask all of you males out there to search your hearts, and tonight take time to please your spouse. Make them feel special. Let them know how much you love them in the bedroom as well as everyday life. Have fun tonight.

[J&T Indiana]

Sorry to hear that's going on in your relationship... but since you asked...

Our sex life is superb! Wife just figured out how to multiple orgasm about 2 years ago, and since then she has out-orgasmed me by at least 3 or 4 to one. Sometimes she cums 8 or more times in one session.

I usually orally please her at least twice before she gets "ticklish", then she cums a couple more times thru intercourse... then she's OK for the oral again.

Now, at the club... people watching and/or participating with us are AMAZED at how easily she can cum. Two females that were in on a same-room-sex thing last Friday said they were JEALOUS of her.

But of course it's more than orgasms... she also gets all the other attention she needs.


Have you talked to your husband about these issues? Is it possible he doesn't KNOW that you are unhappy?

[Miss_Piggy]

Okay, I'm not a man, but I'm going to go at this one anyway.

First my personal situation (since you asked):
I have found that swinging has actually improved our sex life. We have both learned a hell of a lot about ourselves and each other. Every new trick we learn, we get to take back to our own bed. Making us want to spend even more time in bed together Furthermore, Kermit makes me feel special every day of my life.

Now about you:
I would not say that your problems are the result of swinging. What you need to do is communicate with your husband about how you are feeling and what you think is lacking in your relationship. If you feel like swinging is magnifying the problem then you might want to consider taking a bit of a break while you work on building your own relationship back up.

Just my thoughts,

~Piggy

[NotsoNew]

Although I am the female half here, swinging has improved our sex life.

While it has always been good, our experiences with others just enhance our lives together.

I agree that you need to talk this out. Does he feel the same as you do?

[fun_pairTX]

I make love to my wife, I have sex with others, never the twain shall meet. There is no comparison.

[tazzie_n_truck]

Speaking for the both of us, swinging has improved our sex life. We have both learned new techniques and other things from swinging, so we can say that swinging has greatly improved our sex life.

[Avantgarden38]

We'll agree that swinger sex is different than sex with your spouse. We can't say it is better or worse as they are both enjoyable but different. We enjoy the blend of the two.

We think sex is more comfortable with your spouse and the emotion behind the sex is much different. But 25 years of sexual familiarity leads to loss of excitement. Actually, we read a study that showed that loss can happen four to seven years into the marriage and is quite common. Swinging can restore that excitement and carry across into your married sex.

As for performance, we always give 100% of what we can to our new partners as we do for each other. Just because we share something with someone else doesn't make it less special to us. We only see our swinger friends for a short time, so why not get the most out of it. After they go home we always fuck each other like crazy anyway. . .

[2dreamyangels]

Thank you for all of your replys. I feel like I am the only one out there who feels like their sex life isn't what it usd to be. I love my husband dearly, and I just want him to be as romantic with me in the bedroom as he is with others. I want him to take time to please me, like he takes time to please others. Am I asking for too much in a married relationship? Although having other sexual partners is exciting and adds spice to our lives and we llove that aspect of it, I still need to know that I'm not boring to him. I do know he loves me, am I asking too much of a married relationship? Does it always have to turn stale after a few years? Doesn't anyone else have this problem???? If not, than I will admit to myself that I am asking too much of any marriage

[SluttyWife]

Sex with Sir Mike couldn't be better...especially on Viagra nights. Who could compare with a man you love on
sex steroids?!

I'll give you a tip and that is to team up and together make love to the party who joins you. Works like a charm everytime! (Not my hotwife charm, mind you...this is when we have married bi fem with us (haven't met the elusive single bi one, yet. )




Slutty Wife

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by 2dreamyangels
... I love my husband dearly, and I just want him to be as romantic with me in the bedroom as he is with others. I want him to take time to please me, like he takes time to please others. Am I asking for too much in a married relationship? Although having other sexual partners is exciting and adds spice to our lives and we llove that aspect of it, I still need to know that I'm not boring to him. ...

Ummm..have you told him this, just like you wrote it above?

It was nicely put, and no, you're not asking too much. That's what people who love each other should do for each other.

Lay that on him and see how he responds.

-B

[imsnowman]

Originally posted by 2dreamyangels
Thank you for all of your replys. I feel like I am the only one out there who feels like their sex life isn't what it usd to be. I love my husband dearly, and I just want him to be as romantic with me in the bedroom as he is with others. I want him to take time to please me, like he takes time to please others. Am I asking for too much in a married relationship? Although having other sexual partners is exciting and adds spice to our lives and we llove that aspect of it, I still need to know that I'm not boring to him. I do know he loves me, am I asking too much of a married relationship? Does it always have to turn stale after a few years? Doesn't anyone else have this problem???? If not, than I will admit to myself that I am asking too much of any marriage

Have you tried giving him what you want for yourself? I know that I appreciate it when my wife takes the time and gives me the kind of attention that you want from your husband.

[TheGirleeGirl]

I give him everything I can. He loves attention, and we swing every weekend. If it were up to me, I would only do it once or twice a month, but he needs it every weekend, so I do that for him. I always let him know how handsome I think he is and how sexy he is.... and yes, I've let him know all of my thoughts and feelings about this. I always give him blow jobs in bed, he rarily does the same for me, but he does it for all the other women we see. (and in case you are wondering... I am clean! Shaven, Smell Nice, do not have any infections or diseases). I think I am just coming to realize that he loves pleasing and getting attention from others, but that its not that important to get it from me... afterall, he already has me, why does he need to impress or please me? I may not be able to give him everything he needs, but I give him everything I have. What more can I do? Any suggestions?

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by 2dreamyangels

To all you males out there is Sex just Sex no matter who its with? Do you take as much time pleasing your wife as you do pleasing other women? Is there as much romance in your bedroom as is in others? I ask this because it seems that in our relationship, sex is just sex anymore. We seem to spend more time pleasing others than we do each other.

Sometimes I feel like we spend less time pleasing each other, and many times it is true. It's not because sex between us is boring, but rather that life is busy. We rarely have an hour alone much less several hours to play unless we are out, away from home and the kids, which usually is when we are with other people. By the time the house is buttoned down for the night although we would love to have a long sex session, we are usually so tired we settle for a quicky. Or a quicky before work as we are getting ready, etc.

Is sex just sex? With others, yes. I've likened sex with other women to a one-night stand. Fun physically, but nowhere near the emotional and soul satisfaction that even a quicky with Mrs. WS gives me. Both gets me off, but only Mrs. WS fills my soul.

Mr. WS

[fun4Ds]

this one got me thinking after 26 years married 30 together sittin here with my first cup of java this morning. im gonna have to get back with you on this one. you definatly have a valid question but im a guy and its gonna take some thinkin on the long drive to work how to explain. thanks for puttin this one out this morning.its definenatly not an easy one for a guy to answer. i hope you can give your hubby some time to answer its not one that could be answerd quickly.way to serious. thanks

[angelrose85053]

You aren't the only one. We have been together for 5 years and only married since last June. After year #1 we started slowing down our sexual activity to once a week and that continued for quite awhile. Our first year together, we were so care free and young and didn't have too many stresses. Since then, we have lead very stressful lives and I blame that loss of passion and fire, on that. It's easy for us to be with new people because it's detached and when we are together during a group scenario, the sex is hot! I'm not sure what category that puts me, lol