when is the right time to say the relationship is over?? - Page 5

alabamafuntonig · 08-02-2003, 05:02 PM

i learned of the external force being the man the day she came home or i should say at 130 am on friday! she is confussed and does seem way to out of it but alcohol and a strong feeling of a affair will do that. she is confussed if she wants to stay with me or to leave ,she is confused why she cant be with him and why he did give her closher! these are difficult things but i will do what it takes to resolve things on my side..things will be tough and probly will not be for the best intrest of me! all she wants to do is sleep! so she dont have to think! well let me say i will let her do that its her reality ..im just along for the ride at the moment!

azwildcat · 08-02-2003, 05:19 PM

well, bama,
it's ok to be along for the ride but don't let it carry you away, don't let it take over the person we know and love here on the board. hold on yes, but if your more unhappy then happy is it really worth all the pain ?
please don't change to make someone, happy you'll be unhappy for it. sometimes it's best to let go even if it hurt's like hell to do so.
i know that maybe, it seems that i'm no longer going through this, but believe me i've gone through this more then once in my life. hell, remember i've been married three times so, i've gone through this more then i've cared to.

only time will tell true but don't hurt yourself in the process,ok

alabamafuntonig · 08-02-2003, 06:08 PM

thats my plan she says only time will tell well i know it will she is going to stay or going to leave . at the moment it is a day to day event, but in my heart if she were to keep going in this depresion over this guy much longer im going to call it quits..im strong but i am still human and i do have feelings and they do get hurt. im in pain but i can function, the truth sucks but i no longer have to wonder.

jen · 08-02-2003, 06:18 PM

Better days Bama bam bam, better days are up ahead for you.

azwildcat · 08-02-2003, 08:51 PM

bama,
just remember we're here for you ok.

hey, if you ever feel like you need to get away your welcome to come to az, ok.

can go fry someone while your here flamethrow like my
ex- hubby

Welcome always, bama, alrighty

alabamafuntonig · 08-04-2003, 10:26 AM

it has been a rough weekend but i held in there and things are looking up for know.we worked on us all day on sunday we showed each other a lot of well needed love and talked about feelings and did some soul searching. there are a lot of things my mind and heart have to forgive but i asked her back so i will have to deal with them the best way i can and then go a step further. will she stay..it looks like a yes ..can i deal with it! yes! has this changed our lives , yes...she said she needs me and wants me in her life and that she relizes that they were false feelings she had ...she is maybe not fully over this but she will cope in a healthy way that we can work on us...and the kids will be much better with that happening! ill let all of you know

**Alura** · 08-04-2003, 10:35 AM

Lookin' good, Bama! Keep up the hard work; it'll be worth it!

Mr. Alura

azwildcat · 08-05-2003, 02:53 AM

so, glad to hear things are looking better for ya, bama, i tell ya hanging in there and staying strong is well worth it, just as long as you hold your ground when it get's a little bumpy it'll get better
it's always hard to handle things when they hurt you, but you deal with what you can when the heart is involved.

i'm so, so, glad things are looking up for ya, now you can smile for us again!

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08-02-2003, 05:02 PM	#61 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	i learned of the external force being the man the day she came home or i should say at 130 am on friday! she is confussed and does seem way to out of it but alcohol and a strong feeling of a affair will do that. she is confussed if she wants to stay with me or to leave ,she is confused why she cant be with him and why he did give her closher! these are difficult things but i will do what it takes to resolve things on my side..things will be tough and probly will not be for the best intrest of me! all she wants to do is sleep! so she dont have to think! well let me say i will let her do that its her reality ..im just along for the ride at the moment!

08-02-2003, 05:19 PM	#62 (permalink)
azwildcat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 363 Location: phx. az. Status: ~~feline~~	well, bama, it's ok to be along for the ride but don't let it carry you away, don't let it take over the person we know and love here on the board. hold on yes, but if your more unhappy then happy is it really worth all the pain ? please don't change to make someone, happy you'll be unhappy for it. sometimes it's best to let go even if it hurt's like hell to do so. i know that maybe, it seems that i'm no longer going through this, but believe me i've gone through this more then once in my life. hell, remember i've been married three times so, i've gone through this more then i've cared to. only time will tell true but don't hurt yourself in the process,ok

08-02-2003, 06:08 PM	#63 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	thats my plan she says only time will tell well i know it will she is going to stay or going to leave . at the moment it is a day to day event, but in my heart if she were to keep going in this depresion over this guy much longer im going to call it quits..im strong but i am still human and i do have feelings and they do get hurt. im in pain but i can function, the truth sucks but i no longer have to wonder.

08-02-2003, 08:51 PM	#65 (permalink)
azwildcat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 363 Location: phx. az. Status: ~~feline~~	bama, just remember we're here for you ok. hey, if you ever feel like you need to get away your welcome to come to az, ok. can go fry someone while your here flamethrow like my ex- hubby Welcome always, bama, alrighty

08-04-2003, 10:26 AM	#66 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	it has been a rough weekend but i held in there and things are looking up for know.we worked on us all day on sunday we showed each other a lot of well needed love and talked about feelings and did some soul searching. there are a lot of things my mind and heart have to forgive but i asked her back so i will have to deal with them the best way i can and then go a step further. will she stay..it looks like a yes ..can i deal with it! yes! has this changed our lives , yes...she said she needs me and wants me in her life and that she relizes that they were false feelings she had ...she is maybe not fully over this but she will cope in a healthy way that we can work on us...and the kids will be much better with that happening! ill let all of you know

08-04-2003, 10:35 AM	#67 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,144 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Lookin' good, Bama! Keep up the hard work; it'll be worth it! Mr. Alura

08-05-2003, 02:53 AM	#68 (permalink)
azwildcat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 363 Location: phx. az. Status: ~~feline~~	so, glad to hear things are looking better for ya, bama, i tell ya hanging in there and staying strong is well worth it, just as long as you hold your ground when it get's a little bumpy it'll get better it's always hard to handle things when they hurt you, but you deal with what you can when the heart is involved. i'm so, so, glad things are looking up for ya, now you can smile for us again!