What kills a relationship? - Page 3

**TNT** · 07-24-2003, 01:13 PM

Alabama,

Hang in there, even in the best relationships bumps in the road do appear. It's how you chose to react to those bumps that matters. Remember, nothing worth having is ever easy. Take a step back, breath deeply and jump right back in.

Teresa

M&B · 07-24-2003, 01:41 PM

Hey, buddy. I am very sorry to hear about problems at home. I really hope that this bump in the road smoothes out for you two. I hope, too, that both of you always remember that you have a lot of friends and support in this world.

Our thoughts are with you and fingers are crosssed.

Anything more than that and people around here will start yellin "Get a room!"

alabamafuntonig · 07-24-2003, 01:58 PM

thanks guys i will try to remember that today and the next. i wish it was just a bump it feels more like a pot hole in the only super highway i ride! i had fights with the wife as many people have had in there lives ,its the emotional disconection that my wife seem to make with me that bothers me to no end. im one for handling everone elses problems ,but when its my turn i cant seem to put my thinking cap on!

OhioCouple · 07-24-2003, 02:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
...im one for handling everone elses problems ,but when its my turn i cant seem to put my thinking cap on!

That is not at all uncommon, Bama. When you are emotionally involved in a situation it is hard to see clearly. That is when you turn to your friends for objective advice as they aren't a part of it. They can usually see through the thunderstorms and help you find the rainbow.

Know we are all here for ya, if you need us.

alabamafuntonig · 07-24-2003, 02:29 PM

thanks. im not sure .but ill try to see straight ,i guess i have no choice.its all i can do i guess

Michcouple · 07-24-2003, 02:39 PM

We agree with Julie.....

Swinging is not the issue....It's communication

BradAndJanet · 07-24-2003, 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
thanks. im not sure .but ill try to see straight ,i guess i have no choice.its all i can do i guess

Hey man, I really hope you can work it out. Relationship problems are no fun. I can speak from experience, 'cause we've had our share in the past. We were able to get past them though, because we both cared about each other and our relationship. Best of luck! Let us know if we can help you out.

-B

alabamafuntonig · 07-24-2003, 06:01 PM

just to let the board know you are all my freinds but my wife called a little while ago and said we were going to divorce. at least i know now . i guees i have not lived up to her expectations . i have not seen my kids in 2 days and im just a little hurt . i wish i could cry sometimes over things but i dont have it in me ,thanks for all the support

pammyjgcurious · 07-24-2003, 07:23 PM

When there is not much people have in comon, it usually does not work after awhile. "Opposites attract" for relationships is futile, I believe. Exciting for awhile, till you want to do your thing and the other doesn't want to play that way anymore.You also can't change anyone. They have to make the choice to change.

jen · 07-24-2003, 07:48 PM

Bama bam bam,

I'm so sorry to hear, I wish I had good words - the kind that make things better -

Just please Bama, if it does have to come to the D word, be honest with her no matter what, be fair, be strong, and be the best dad cause your kids need that!

Like all the others said, you can find me here if there is a way I can be helpful.

You rock Bama bam bam!

OhioCouple · 07-24-2003, 09:59 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by pammyjgcurious
When there is not much people have in comon, it usually does not work after awhile. "Opposites attract" for relationships is futile, I believe. Exciting for awhile, till you want to do your thing and the other doesn't want to play that way anymore.You also can't change anyone. They have to make the choice to change.

I strongly disagree. My husband and I are COMPLETE opposites, but he is strong where I am weak and vice versa. We compliment each other in that manner. Communication and love are the key to keeping our relationship stable. It works for us, and it's been 10 years. Right now it is his turn to be the strong one....and he is doing a fine job.

M&B · 07-24-2003, 10:59 PM

Please, both of you, listen to Mrs O and Jen.

WORK at it! Both of you!!!

I hate the D word.

pammyjgcurious · 07-25-2003, 05:13 PM

OhioCouple,
I'm happy you two are together strong. You are right the word is "communication". When you are acccpted as you are, unconditionally, love is terrific.

Pammyjean

azwildcat · 07-26-2003, 03:47 AM

well, what kill's a relationship ??
well, if my hubby keep's on with his bullshit, we'll find out what i use on him

then i can tell ya what did it .

OhioCouple · 07-26-2003, 04:29 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by alabamafuntonig
just to let the board know you are all my freinds but my wife called a little while ago and said we were going to divorce. at least i know now .

Bama, I am so sorry to hear this. Sending you great big hugs from Ohio...

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07-24-2003, 01:13 PM	#31 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Alabama, Hang in there, even in the best relationships bumps in the road do appear. It's how you chose to react to those bumps that matters. Remember, nothing worth having is ever easy. Take a step back, breath deeply and jump right back in. Teresa
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07-24-2003, 01:41 PM	#32 (permalink)
M&B Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 808 Location: Southern Cal Status: quo anti bellum	Mr Bama, Hey, buddy. I am very sorry to hear about problems at home. I really hope that this bump in the road smoothes out for you two. I hope, too, that both of you always remember that you have a lot of friends and support in this world. Our thoughts are with you and fingers are crosssed. Anything more than that and people around here will start yellin "Get a room!"
	__________________ EGBOK!

07-24-2003, 02:39 PM	#36 (permalink)
Michcouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 845 Location: Michigan Status: couple	Julie Gets My Nod We agree with Julie..... Swinging is not the issue....It's communication

07-24-2003, 07:23 PM	#39 (permalink)
pammyjgcurious Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 38 Location: IL Status: F1/2couple	Relationships When there is not much people have in comon, it usually does not work after awhile. "Opposites attract" for relationships is futile, I believe. Exciting for awhile, till you want to do your thing and the other doesn't want to play that way anymore.You also can't change anyone. They have to make the choice to change.
	Last edited by pammyjgcurious; 07-24-2003 at 07:32 PM.

07-24-2003, 01:58 PM	#33 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	thanks guys i will try to remember that today and the next. i wish it was just a bump it feels more like a pot hole in the only super highway i ride! i had fights with the wife as many people have had in there lives ,its the emotional disconection that my wife seem to make with me that bothers me to no end. im one for handling everone elses problems ,but when its my turn i cant seem to put my thinking cap on!

07-24-2003, 02:29 PM	#35 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	thanks. im not sure .but ill try to see straight ,i guess i have no choice.its all i can do i guess

07-24-2003, 06:01 PM	#38 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	just to let the board know you are all my freinds but my wife called a little while ago and said we were going to divorce. at least i know now . i guees i have not lived up to her expectations . i have not seen my kids in 2 days and im just a little hurt . i wish i could cry sometimes over things but i dont have it in me ,thanks for all the support

07-24-2003, 07:48 PM	#40 (permalink)
jen Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 1,118 Location: above a rainbow Status: un dolce uno	Ouch Bama bam bam, I'm so sorry to hear, I wish I had good words - the kind that make things better - Just please Bama, if it does have to come to the D word, be honest with her no matter what, be fair, be strong, and be the best dad cause your kids need that! Like all the others said, you can find me here if there is a way I can be helpful. You rock Bama bam bam!
	__________________ April in Tulsa - it's fun for everyone! Last edited by jen; 07-24-2003 at 08:02 PM.

07-24-2003, 10:59 PM	#42 (permalink)
M&B Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 808 Location: Southern Cal Status: quo anti bellum	Bama, Please, both of you, listen to Mrs O and Jen. WORK at it! Both of you!!! I hate the D word.
	__________________ EGBOK!

07-25-2003, 05:13 PM	#43 (permalink)
pammyjgcurious Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 38 Location: IL Status: F1/2couple	relationships OhioCouple, I'm happy you two are together strong. You are right the word is "communication". When you are acccpted as you are, unconditionally, love is terrific. Pammyjean

07-26-2003, 03:47 AM	#44 (permalink)
azwildcat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 363 Location: phx. az. Status: ~~feline~~	well, what kill's a relationship ?? well, if my hubby keep's on with his bullshit, we'll find out what i use on him then i can tell ya what did it .

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