When Feelings Develop? - Page 3

angihay · 09-23-2003, 05:50 PM

Hello all! I have actually been in a situation similiar to the question posed. Our mfm partner started developing feelings for me that were more then like! He started acting like I was his girlfriend everywhere we went no matter who was around. This caused problems for both me and my husband. We broke of the relationship do to this. It causes problems for anyone and usually heartbreak for one. I feel that some feelings are ok but all involved need to know what lines NOT to cross. Noone is planning on leaving anyone else and this is only friendship with benefits!

Fire_and_Air · 09-23-2003, 07:32 PM

This happened to us. We met a couple who later began fighting with each other. The female of the couple began calling my fiance all the time, while the male of the couple began emailing me and asking to spend time alone with me. At first we tried ignoring it, figuring that they were just going through a rough spell and we would "be there" for them for the sake of friendship... but when we tried playing together and found that the two of them were primarily interested in playing with anyone else except each other, it just wasn't fun anymore. There were times when we even began questioning our own committment to each other because we were still keeping in touch with the separate halves of the couple. Now we've learned not to get involved with anyone unless they have rock solid relationships to begin with, and we'll only play TOGETHER if both of us are equally happy with the other partners. For us, swinging is always about togetherness and equal sharing... not about a person or person(s) seeking one partner over another.

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09-23-2003, 05:50 PM	#31 (permalink)
angihay Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 124 Location: michigan Status: couple	Hello all! I have actually been in a situation similiar to the question posed. Our mfm partner started developing feelings for me that were more then like! He started acting like I was his girlfriend everywhere we went no matter who was around. This caused problems for both me and my husband. We broke of the relationship do to this. It causes problems for anyone and usually heartbreak for one. I feel that some feelings are ok but all involved need to know what lines NOT to cross. Noone is planning on leaving anyone else and this is only friendship with benefits!

09-23-2003, 07:32 PM	#32 (permalink)
Fire_and_Air Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 45 Location: California Status: Couple / Female	This happened to us. We met a couple who later began fighting with each other. The female of the couple began calling my fiance all the time, while the male of the couple began emailing me and asking to spend time alone with me. At first we tried ignoring it, figuring that they were just going through a rough spell and we would "be there" for them for the sake of friendship... but when we tried playing together and found that the two of them were primarily interested in playing with anyone else except each other, it just wasn't fun anymore. There were times when we even began questioning our own committment to each other because we were still keeping in touch with the separate halves of the couple. Now we've learned not to get involved with anyone unless they have rock solid relationships to begin with, and we'll only play TOGETHER if both of us are equally happy with the other partners. For us, swinging is always about togetherness and equal sharing... not about a person or person(s) seeking one partner over another.