Can spouses who have cheated ever be trusted with Swinging again?

[incommunicado]

Thank you for your answer. I think I will always take circumstances into consideration, but I will only give one reprieve.

Originally Posted by BorisNatasha

I ended a 6 year co-habitating relationship over infidelity. I did it because I knew I could never trust her again. I know I made the right decision because now I'm with a lovely, wonderful, faithful woman who has been through the same thing I have and knows the pain it causes. We also both know that if either of us does cheat, it will be the end, whether it happens at 5 years or 25 years.

Some people can handle cheating and recover from it, some cannot. It's not a knock on you either way, so please don't take it that way.

[Vicktoria1958]

If you have truly healed the wounds of the past, then there is no reason to avoid something you both find enjoyable. Simply make clear between you that the swinging will be about doing it together and sharing the experiences. Sometimes surviving the hurtfulness of cheating makes a couple stronger and imbued with a much healthier perspective on what's important in a marriage. That alone can make the joys of swinging available without hurting the relationship and with the possibility of continuing to strengthen it through shared pleasures AND JOYS.