Black Fetish

I am an attractive 37 year old married white woman. My husband and I have enjoyed a number of experiences with other married couples over the past 7 years, and every couple we have had sex with was from a common origin - two married couples that simply found enough in common to begin a typical social friendship, until lust took hold. Hence, the "search and find" approach offered on the web never entered the picture. So, everything was going fine until about a year ago when a certain fantasy of mine, which I think is not uncommon to a number of white women, blossomed into now what has become an overwhelming obsession. I feel I can't go on much longer without being ravaged by a good looking, exceptionally well hung black man. This is growing totally out of control. I mean if I'm at the mall or someplace and happen to spot a good looking black guy, right there and then I get a rush and the shivers. Further, I fantasize that my husband is there watching me go out of my mind like he's never imagined. Yes, I admit it, I would feel great sexual pleasure in the black man and me making him feel cockold, if only for the moment. You see, how should I put it - my husband is measurably underendowed.

Finally, my question - Do you think I am sick? Is this something for which I should seek professional help? Is there any thread of normalcy in what I've just told you? If I'm not sick, please don't suggest that "communication" with my husband is the route I should take. I know him well, and if this comes to fruition, it will be because I force fed him. Christine

[JustAskJulie]

I take it by your last statement that your husband has no interest in seeing you with a black man?

If that's the case, then you probably should do something about this fantasy before you get much further enwrapped in it.

However, if your husband would like to see this happen as well, then go for it. There are plenty of black guys willing to service white women.. and depending on where you are located, I could give you some contacts for groups that do just that.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[bicpl4u2pa]

Do you have a perceived Black Fetish because u assume all black men are hung like a horse? They're NOT! (As nudists we see alot).....since admittedly your hubby is underendowed...perhaps a penis extention would satisfy your desires 4 the time being?

In any event......Have Fun!

[pelagic argosy]

Go to a bar on your own and hook up with a black man. Give him a hand job-if he's big enough, fuck him. If not, wear him out with your hand. Maybe by scratching the itch, you'll work it out of your system.

[LIZA]

I find black men to be attractive and their penis size never crosses my mind. From my experience SOME black men are a little larger than the average, but most men in general are very similar in size.

Prety racist to assume the only reason she is attracted to black guys is because she thinks they have a bigger one!

[L]

>a certain fantasy of mine,

love those fantasies!!!

>black man.

we often want what we do not have. we are often attracted to that that is different than what we have.

as a white, i find black to be beautiful, intriguing, alluring. i often think and fantasize about being with a black woman. how nice it must be.

>sick?

not necessarily. normal, really in most respects.
depends on how it makes YOU feel!

>professional help?

what kind of "professional" do you have in mind? a psychiatrist might help in some ways. a professional lover might help too! in different ways certainly. but then, if you're footin' th' bill, what's your choice?

>any thread of normalcy

absolutely. positively. closer to normal than what you might think!!!

>don't suggest that "communication"

why not!!!??? communication is absolutely mandatory! hell! with communication something very nice might actually happen. think of a most exciting scenerio...

and

with some planning, it might actually take place!!!

don't talk about it!!! and it'll weigh heavy on y'r mind... result in negative feelings... negative energy... and

well shoot!

we all know what comes from negativity!


if you an' y'r man have been involved with others before... find a black couple to share with. have y'r hubby pay f'r a black male escort f'r y'r burthday, or somethin'!

be creative. thin of the something exciting

and go get it!

have fun.

black IS beautiful!!!

L

[Atlanta43]

I don't think there's really anything wrong with the fantasy really...I mean, can't tell you how many men have Asian women fantasies...

Now I would worry if the fantasy starts to take over your life. There's no real way to measure what "taking over" reall means. So far, all I can see though is that you really wanna get laid ;-)..nothing wrong with that...!!!!

Good luck!!

A and L

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by LIZA:
but most men in general are very similar in size.

I have to agree. I've always been attracted to black guys but I've nver really understood the stereotype. The first 3 black guys I was with were about the same size or SMALLER than the white guys I had been with. Since I've been doing my website I've ran into more of the BIG black guys, but even now a large % are still on the small to average size.

[LIZA]

Yeah I would say the very few really BIG ones I have seen are black men, but it is still relatively few

And my boyfriend years and YEARS ago was a pasty faced pudgy white kid who had a monsterous one!

[shawn00sa]

I seem to be obsessed with the same fantasy. I just really want to see my wife with a black man. It is a combination of different reasons. Some of them being size, taboo, contrast of skin color, even a little of the cuckold, and some of her being sort of "ravished". She also likes the idea, but that is as far as we have gone.

Julie, where are the clubs that you were talking about? Any near the MI/IN/OH area?

[JustAskJulie]

Check out http://www.mandingoclub.com The main group is based in NY but I believe they have a chapter in Chicago. The NY guys do travel some tho, so you may still want to contact them and see what you can set up.

For the record, I know the guy that runs the NY Chapter and he's an awesome guy (so are most of the guys in his group - I say most because I haven't met them all).

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Originally posted by JustAskJulie:
I've always been attracted to black guys but I've nver really understood the stereotype.

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I think it's a holdover that's been passed down since the 1800s when the Europeans were still "exploring" Africa. There are sources from these "explorers" that comment on the largeness of the Africans, but if you think about it, it's quite simple. If you're used to running around with pants on all day and keeping your genitalia nice and unexposed, when you go see a bunch of people in loincloths, you're probably going to notice that they seem larger than average. But you'd notice the same thing if you went into a men's lockerroom shower, where it's nice and hot.

It's just that we are passing down a bit of folklore that started because of the opposite of shrinkage.

[Sweetdevil]

As an Black man, I do not understand this sexual desire to be ravished and taken by a black male. I do understand the some of the reasons why, but those reasons are not based on personality nor, both sexual and intellectual attraction.

Are we as black men to be the beast and give the woman what she deeply desires, so she will not be responseble for what happen? To make her do things that her husband cannot nor will do? I like to think that what attraction is between a woman who is white and myself is based our sexual desires as stated above and being swingers, along with compatibility.

I am a man who is passionate and love to reach the depth of a woman's sexuality to achieve the most we can sexually at the moment.

I do like the contrasting skin tones and the eroticism it brings but this is not exclusive with white and black.

[ 05-07-2002, 03:56 PM: Message edited by: Sweetdevil ]

[HappyCampers]

Amen to Sweetdevil

It is sad to admit that despite the 40 or so years since the civil rights movement, there is still a lot of misunderstanding between the races of human beings.

I admit (with a certain amount of shame) that I expected my first black man to make love like a savage. In fact, he was a thoughtful, gentle individual (which is a shame, because at the time I wanted a savage). Sometimes I want to play a certain role. At the time I wanted to be Jane to his Tarzan. Part of the beauty of swinging is that we can experience different partners and play different roles. Still, we have to realize that people are people. In every group there are savages and there are prudes, there are geniuses and there are assholes.

[pleaseu]

I / we have same fantasy, been married about the same time and we acted on fantasy of mfm. Both enjoyed it tremendously but wife insists we have to return to "real Life". I have overwhelming desire to see a big black c__k stretch her still. I have the guy (professional businessman...10+ and thick)picked out. If you are able to get to new orleans maybe we can act it out and both of us scratch our itch. My desire comes from my wife being so sexy watching her make love and my overwhelming desire to please. my email is pleaseu@37.com and this guy is about 6'3, great shape, and handsome. let me know.