interracial couples

Rae and Lynn · 05-29-2002, 09:17 PM

Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........

frisson · 05-29-2002, 10:46 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Rae and Lynn:
[QB]Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....QB]

We are an interracial couple--wife is Asian, husband is white. We have never encountered any prejudice, if that's what you mean. In five years in the lifestyle we have never seen race be an issue except in a positive way (i.e. somepeople tend to be attracted to races different from their own).

It's certainly true that the population of swingers tends to be overwhelmingly white, more so than the national population. Nevertheless, we have never known race to be an issue. Swingers seem to have other things on their minds...

Good luck to you and your wife.

Sinbad925 · 06-05-2002, 04:47 PM

Both myself, black male, and my wife, white female have been in the lifestyle for over 5 years. We have never experienced any prejudiced in the lifestyle. We feel that most of the people are very open to different races although most in the the lifestyle are white. Being open minded is the key to it all.

Bill O · 06-07-2002, 05:27 PM

Been at it about 5-6 years. I'm black, she's brown (latin). I've been amazed at the lack of overt prejudice expressed here in the South. Given the intimacy of the lifestyle, I thought there would be more.

To say there is none is a lie. Some people don't want to talk, let alone play, for reasons of race. But they do the same with the tall, the obese, the short, the small titted and the big dicked. It's sex and it has to do with interpersonal chemistry and race definitely plays a part. But I guess that's the way it should be. This is the one place I can easily accept it.

At a hotel party, I was told of a fight out in the hall and the fact that security escorted a couple off the premises. Later, my friends told me it was my fault. Seems the woman came in our room and allowed me to pour her a glass of wine. I'm sure I was flirtateous but I certainly don't remember. Her husband became enraged, took her out in the hall and hit her because she's not supposed to be fooling around with black people. Back in the room, the party continued....

That's the worse racially motivated thing I was aware of - and it wasn't my problem!

It's all about feeling good about yourself, believing those around you are OK too, and enjoying those you are attracted to.

CanadianCouple · 06-07-2002, 05:43 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Bill O:

At a hotel party, I was told of a fight out in the hall and the fact that security escorted a couple off the premises. Later, my friends told me it was my fault. Seems the woman came in our room and allowed me to pour her a glass of wine. I'm sure I was flirtateous but I certainly don't remember. Her husband became enraged, took her out in the hall and hit her because she's not supposed to be fooling around with black people. Back in the room, the party continued....

Hi Bill. Unfortunately, there are A holes in every walk of life. Fortunately, to the extent of the example you listed they're few and far between. However, one guy at work told me a story from back in the '70's. He and some male friends walked into a bar in Boston, and immediately noticed they were the only white faces in there. All the other patrons were black, including the bartender, who informed them 'we don't serve white people in here'.

Guess racism is indeed colorblind.

Dan

brave · 06-08-2002, 06:42 PM

ray, my wife is hispanic and is 37 and i'm 38 (white). we both have never done any swinging. how did you convence your wife to explore this lifestyle.

Rae and Lynn · 06-16-2002, 11:14 PM

First, Rae is a lady and Lynn is the guy.....I got her interested in swinging by showing her XXX movies and pointing out the threesome scenes, getting a tape about swinging and joining SwingersBoard and showing her all the message boards...then reinforcing it by stories from SwingersBoard, Literotica, and Erotic Stories...then I took her to a swingers club just to look around, then I took her a second time to the same club which had an hour orientation which we both got a lot out of...then a third time to the same club as the first two times on a busy Saturday night and she saw enough hot sex to set her on fire and we had some great sex....now we are ready for our 4th visit to a different, bigger club with an very sexy outfit that she picked out herself on her own...so check with me on the 29th of June..........anymore questions email us at azlynnmac@hotmail.com.....

Bill O · 06-17-2002, 04:55 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Bill O:
[/qb]

Hi Bill. Unfortunately, there are A holes in every walk of life. Fortunately, to the extent of the example you listed they're few and far between. However, one guy at work told me a story from back in the '70's. He and some male friends walked into a bar in Boston, and immediately noticed they were the only white faces in there. All the other patrons were black, including the bartender, who informed them 'we don't serve white people in here'.
Guess racism is indeed colorblind.
Dan[/QUOTE][/QB][/QUOTE]

Huh? Dan, what was your point? I respond to a question about interacial swinging and you cite some anecdote about white guys in a bar in the 70s. Yes, there are a-holes everywhere and racism is pervasive. But what does that add to a discussion of swinging?

I read one of your other posts... you seem to have a problem with society's treatment of non-white males versus white males like you. That's fine, but keep it to your self please.

CanadianCouple · 06-17-2002, 05:23 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Bill O:

I read one of your other posts... you seem to have a problem with society's treatment of non-white males versus white males like you. That's fine, but keep it to your self please.

Well Bill, I'll explain it in finer detail for you. I have a problem with society treating any one particular group differently than others, positively or negatively. Does that make me a flaming racist in your mind, Bill?

Sorry if you took offense, but I believe I'll share whatever opinions in here I damn well feel like, Bill. Or do you have a problem with the first Amendment as well?

Dan

DarqmanSC · 06-23-2002, 07:26 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Rae and Lynn:
Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........

I'm a widower who started in the lifestyle w/late wife almost 14 years ago and thought I'd add my two cents......I think racism is still alive and well within the lifestyle, although I think most of it has a male/male focus.....don't think your wife will run into any problems, as those who feel that way are usually up front about it. I've gotten into some insightful conversations around the fact that I've 'conditioned' myself to introduce myself as a Black man in order to put it on the table early.....worst experience was when I called an 'adult' motel in TN (we were on the road, saw an ad and feeling risque), told them we were Black.....when I walked into the lobby, the three naked folks in the hot tub (2f, 1m)started bitching about "no N*****s allowed and shooting any that tried".....the irony.... considering their obesity, they did me/us a favor.....

21mfmarried · 05-24-2003, 09:31 PM

Well I don't know about in other relationships, but I know in mine race does not matter. As a matter of fact, my wife would like to get a black man in bed just to say she did. And I personally think it would be interesting to screw a woman from every ethnicity

OhioCouple · 05-25-2003, 08:07 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by 21mfmarried
As a matter of fact, my wife would like to get a black man in bed just to say she did. And I personally think it would be interesting to screw a woman from every ethnicity

Now that is a healthy sexual attitude, which I am sure spills over into your non-sexual lives! Can you imagine a world in which race does not matter?

Two Thumbs Up Here!!!

21mfmarried · 05-25-2003, 08:16 AM

As I have said in other posts, I always try to look at the very best side of things,and keep a light heart about it all. Life is to short to just bitch about everything and hate people. Especially because they have a different color of skin. Its like hating me for wearing a blue coat when you have a red one on. To me, it all sounds stupid.

ktown · 05-26-2003, 11:02 AM

We have been to a number of clubs in the states and around the world and have only had a problem in France for some reason,but after talking to a french guy on the net he says that is a problem at some so called high class clubs,but after I wrote the owner and he wrote back it seems like he was going to take action.The only person I would look out for is Dan from the earlier posts because he is pissed at minority folks since we get so many imaginary freebies.

21mfmarried · 05-27-2003, 12:20 AM

It is a shame that people would give you troubles at clubs, but it is VERY good to hear that after you called the club owner that he was gonna take action. It shows that everybodies not a bad person!

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05-29-2002, 09:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rae and Lynn Registered Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 5 Location: El Mirage, Arizona Status: couple	interracial couples Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........

05-29-2002, 10:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
frisson Here to Stay Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 80 Location: East Central Kansas	quote: Originally posted by Rae and Lynn: [QB]Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....QB] We are an interracial couple--wife is Asian, husband is white. We have never encountered any prejudice, if that's what you mean. In five years in the lifestyle we have never seen race be an issue except in a positive way (i.e. somepeople tend to be attracted to races different from their own). It's certainly true that the population of swingers tends to be overwhelmingly white, more so than the national population. Nevertheless, we have never known race to be an issue. Swingers seem to have other things on their minds... Good luck to you and your wife.

06-07-2002, 05:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
CanadianCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 1,139 Location: New Brunswick, Canada Status: Married Couple	quote: Originally posted by Bill O: At a hotel party, I was told of a fight out in the hall and the fact that security escorted a couple off the premises. Later, my friends told me it was my fault. Seems the woman came in our room and allowed me to pour her a glass of wine. I'm sure I was flirtateous but I certainly don't remember. Her husband became enraged, took her out in the hall and hit her because she's not supposed to be fooling around with black people. Back in the room, the party continued.... Hi Bill. Unfortunately, there are A holes in every walk of life. Fortunately, to the extent of the example you listed they're few and far between. However, one guy at work told me a story from back in the '70's. He and some male friends walked into a bar in Boston, and immediately noticed they were the only white faces in there. All the other patrons were black, including the bartender, who informed them 'we don't serve white people in here'. Guess racism is indeed colorblind. Dan

06-17-2002, 04:55 PM	#8 (permalink)
Bill O Registered Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 7 Location: Durham NC	quote: Originally posted by Bill O: [/qb] Hi Bill. Unfortunately, there are A holes in every walk of life. Fortunately, to the extent of the example you listed they're few and far between. However, one guy at work told me a story from back in the '70's. He and some male friends walked into a bar in Boston, and immediately noticed they were the only white faces in there. All the other patrons were black, including the bartender, who informed them 'we don't serve white people in here'. Guess racism is indeed colorblind. Dan[/QUOTE][/QB][/QUOTE] Huh? Dan, what was your point? I respond to a question about interacial swinging and you cite some anecdote about white guys in a bar in the 70s. Yes, there are a-holes everywhere and racism is pervasive. But what does that add to a discussion of swinging? I read one of your other posts... you seem to have a problem with society's treatment of non-white males versus white males like you. That's fine, but keep it to your self please.

06-05-2002, 04:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
Sinbad925 Registered Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 3 Location: Michigan	Both myself, black male, and my wife, white female have been in the lifestyle for over 5 years. We have never experienced any prejudiced in the lifestyle. We feel that most of the people are very open to different races although most in the the lifestyle are white. Being open minded is the key to it all.

06-07-2002, 05:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
Bill O Registered Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 7 Location: Durham NC	Been at it about 5-6 years. I'm black, she's brown (latin). I've been amazed at the lack of overt prejudice expressed here in the South. Given the intimacy of the lifestyle, I thought there would be more. To say there is none is a lie. Some people don't want to talk, let alone play, for reasons of race. But they do the same with the tall, the obese, the short, the small titted and the big dicked. It's sex and it has to do with interpersonal chemistry and race definitely plays a part. But I guess that's the way it should be. This is the one place I can easily accept it. At a hotel party, I was told of a fight out in the hall and the fact that security escorted a couple off the premises. Later, my friends told me it was my fault. Seems the woman came in our room and allowed me to pour her a glass of wine. I'm sure I was flirtateous but I certainly don't remember. Her husband became enraged, took her out in the hall and hit her because she's not supposed to be fooling around with black people. Back in the room, the party continued.... That's the worse racially motivated thing I was aware of - and it wasn't my problem! It's all about feeling good about yourself, believing those around you are OK too, and enjoying those you are attracted to.

06-08-2002, 06:42 PM	#6 (permalink)
brave Registered User Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 2 Location: arizona	ray, my wife is hispanic and is 37 and i'm 38 (white). we both have never done any swinging. how did you convence your wife to explore this lifestyle.

06-16-2002, 11:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
Rae and Lynn Registered Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 5 Location: El Mirage, Arizona Status: couple	First, Rae is a lady and Lynn is the guy.....I got her interested in swinging by showing her XXX movies and pointing out the threesome scenes, getting a tape about swinging and joining SwingersBoard and showing her all the message boards...then reinforcing it by stories from SwingersBoard, Literotica, and Erotic Stories...then I took her to a swingers club just to look around, then I took her a second time to the same club which had an hour orientation which we both got a lot out of...then a third time to the same club as the first two times on a busy Saturday night and she saw enough hot sex to set her on fire and we had some great sex....now we are ready for our 4th visit to a different, bigger club with an very sexy outfit that she picked out herself on her own...so check with me on the 29th of June..........anymore questions email us at azlynnmac@hotmail.com.....

06-17-2002, 05:23 PM	#9 (permalink)
CanadianCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 1,139 Location: New Brunswick, Canada Status: Married Couple	quote: Originally posted by Bill O: I read one of your other posts... you seem to have a problem with society's treatment of non-white males versus white males like you. That's fine, but keep it to your self please. Well Bill, I'll explain it in finer detail for you. I have a problem with society treating any one particular group differently than others, positively or negatively. Does that make me a flaming racist in your mind, Bill? Sorry if you took offense, but I believe I'll share whatever opinions in here I damn well feel like, Bill. Or do you have a problem with the first Amendment as well? Dan

06-23-2002, 07:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
DarqmanSC Registered User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 1 Location: Charleston,SC	quote: Originally posted by Rae and Lynn: Hi everyone! My wife who is African-American is brand new to swinging, that is, we went to a club last Friday night just to scout it out....she has never been exposed to the lifestyle before then...now she is very curious about the lifestyle....I am a white male who has been to clubs before....she would like to hear of experiences -- good or bad -- as well as any experiences with interracial couples such as us....we found no other black females and one black male last Friday....she would prefer white male (s).....any info would be helpful for her....thanks........ I'm a widower who started in the lifestyle w/late wife almost 14 years ago and thought I'd add my two cents......I think racism is still alive and well within the lifestyle, although I think most of it has a male/male focus.....don't think your wife will run into any problems, as those who feel that way are usually up front about it. I've gotten into some insightful conversations around the fact that I've 'conditioned' myself to introduce myself as a Black man in order to put it on the table early.....worst experience was when I called an 'adult' motel in TN (we were on the road, saw an ad and feeling risque), told them we were Black.....when I walked into the lobby, the three naked folks in the hot tub (2f, 1m)started bitching about "no N*****s allowed and shooting any that tried".....the irony.... considering their obesity, they did me/us a favor.....

05-24-2003, 09:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
21mfmarried Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 62 Location: Moraine, OH Status: Couple	Well I don't know about in other relationships, but I know in mine race does not matter. As a matter of fact, my wife would like to get a black man in bed just to say she did. And I personally think it would be interesting to screw a woman from every ethnicity

05-25-2003, 08:16 AM	#13 (permalink)
21mfmarried Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 62 Location: Moraine, OH Status: Couple	As I have said in other posts, I always try to look at the very best side of things,and keep a light heart about it all. Life is to short to just bitch about everything and hate people. Especially because they have a different color of skin. Its like hating me for wearing a blue coat when you have a red one on. To me, it all sounds stupid.

05-26-2003, 11:02 AM	#14 (permalink)
ktown Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 27	we have had good times We have been to a number of clubs in the states and around the world and have only had a problem in France for some reason,but after talking to a french guy on the net he says that is a problem at some so called high class clubs,but after I wrote the owner and he wrote back it seems like he was going to take action.The only person I would look out for is Dan from the earlier posts because he is pissed at minority folks since we get so many imaginary freebies.
ktown Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 27	__________________ sf

05-27-2003, 12:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
21mfmarried Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 62 Location: Moraine, OH Status: Couple	It is a shame that people would give you troubles at clubs, but it is VERY good to hear that after you called the club owner that he was gonna take action. It shows that everybodies not a bad person!

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