Couples from India in the Lifestyle?

Indian_couple · 03-08-2003, 10:21 AM

Hello all
I've been reading the posts for a while now, and though we are from a different culutural background (from India), I think I can relate to many of the posts here, and I share some of the fantasies too, I must say.

My question is, have you ever come across or heard of couples from India in the lifestyle?

I still have concerns about some things. I am yet to openly discuss this with my wife. Perhaps she would be shocked - but I have a feeling that after she gets over the shock, she may consider it. I know, I have to take my time, however exciting this idea may be to me...

would appreciate any comments/suggestions...

- Male half of Indian_couple

dave_susie2001 · 03-08-2003, 10:44 AM

First let me say, Welcome to the Swingersboard Indian_couple!

Second, I am sure that there are cultural differences between you and me. Not that it’s a bad thing. There are cultural differences between people living in my own neighborhood and me. However, since the people living in my own neighborhood are closer to me and I can actually see how their culture works, I understand it just enough to keep me from embarrassing myself. Since you are from India and are living in Seoul, there are lots of differences that I’m sure I wouldn’t have the slightest clue about.

For me to give you advice on swinging might turn out to be a worse faux pa than me giving you (a person from India) advice on the best steak house in my neighborhood.

However, the advice that I can give you will be similar to the advice that others here will no doubt suggest. Read through the forums here on the site, especially the New Swingers forum and the Archives about getting started. Once you feel comfortable discussing it openly with your wife, have her read some of the posts with you and discuss them.

I have met many couples at swinger functions that were ethnic to me. Native Americans, Asians, African Americans, Haitian, Jamaican, Mexican….the list goes on. However, I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone from India at a swinger’s function. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t any swingers from India out there.

Good luck in your quest for information and we wish you well in your adventure as you embark in the swinging lifestyle. Keep us posted on your progress, and let us know if we can help you with any specific questions.

Indian_couple · 03-08-2003, 10:53 AM

Thanks, dave_susie2001 - I really appreciate your warm message. Though off-topic, I couldn't help noticing that many westerners do not think of India when they talk about Asians - though we are Asians, too ! Can't blame you though, and it's no big deal, anyway. Thanks again for your reply. I am also concerned that our first experience (whenever it happens) should turn out to be good for both of us... I'm thinking, instead of starting by going to a swingers party, it's better for us to meet a couple more privately. Also, personally, I too would prefer intimacy.

dave_susie2001 · 03-08-2003, 10:56 AM

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Originally posted by Indian_couple
I couldn't help noticing that many westerners do not think of India when they talk about Asians - though we are Asians, too !

Exactly my point about cultural differences! I'm glad you weren't offended by my error. Good luck and happy swinging.

OhioCouple · 03-08-2003, 07:57 PM

Dave_Susie pretty much summed up everything I would have said. Out of curiosity though I did go to one of the pay sites we belong to and did a search for Eastern Indians. It would only let me search for a 500 mile radius and in that there were 28 couples in which at least one was of Indian descent and there were 3 single males. I would have to say that in answer to your question, yes, at least in America there are lifestyle members of Indian descent. As Dave_Susie said, we too have come across all cultures at clubs though we never really tried to determine what cultural background they are from.

Please be sure to read through the topics here and feel free to ask your own questions. Oh YEAH! Welcome to the board!

Lori

Indian_couple · 03-08-2003, 08:52 PM

Thanks, OhioCouple. I get the feeling that even when we get around to the point of actually "trying out", it's going to be tricky finding that 'right couple' to get started with. Hmm. let's see...
I'd like to say, that I really like the 'look and feel' of this site and the message board - and the tone of the messages. Thanks again.

OhioCouple · 03-09-2003, 07:32 AM

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Originally posted by Indian_couple
I get the feeling that even when we get around to the point of actually "trying out", it's going to be tricky finding that 'right couple' to get started with.

This is where there is no cultural difference whatsoever! Finding the 'right couple' is difficult no matter where you live. You'll find many threads throughout the "Help" and the "New Swingers" formus that are devoted to just that subject.

Please join in on the conversations here and read through the various topics. Do not hesitate to ask questions and offer your own point of view. I hope to be reading more of your posts and for the most part we are a pretty likeable community with all variances of cultures that post with regularity. Chances are someone has experienced something similar to your questions or someone out there may need your experienced point of view too.

Welcome aboard!

Lori

**Alura** · 03-09-2003, 11:04 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Indian_couple

My question is, have you ever come across or heard of couples from India in the lifestyle?

- Male half of Indian_couple

Whether swinging is right for you and your wife can only be answered by you and your wife.

I wouldn't let culture deter you. Wasn't swinging invented in your native country? Surely anyone who has visited the "Love Temple" (I can't recall the name of the city, damnit!) in India would think so!

Mr. Alura

Indian_couple · 03-09-2003, 11:19 AM

I wouldn't let culture deter you. Wasn't swinging invented in your native country? Surely anyone who has visited the "Love Temple...."

Hello Alura
I never let culture come in the way of my thoughts and about my understanding of life

. I'm not sure swinging was invented in India, though - I wish it had been

. However, I think people in ancient times did have a lot healthier attitude about sex and clearly did not make it into a taboo to be discussed or expressed in the arts such as sculpture, painting and literature. The "temple" you are referring to is probably "Kajuraho" where there are a lot of erotic sculpture, and of course, I'm sure you know about the "Kama Sutra". In fact, many of the ancient temples have sculptures where the feminine beauty and sensuality are truly celebrated. I don't know why or how it changed to such an extent where it's difficult to have an open relationship even before marriage, especially in small towns... It's changing for the better though, but too late for us

**Alura** · 03-09-2003, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Indian_couple
I wouldn't let culture deter you. Wasn't swinging invented in your native country? Surely anyone who has visited the "Love Temple...."
The "temple" you are referring to is probably "Kajuraho" where there are a lot of erotic sculpture, and of course, I'm sure you know about the "Kama Sutra".

I'm not sure if that is the "temple," Mr. I-c. It has been a long time. I'll never forget the sculptures. In fact, I believe I still have some postcards I bought there. I'll try to find them and perhaps post one or two here. There is no doubt that the figures are swinging, in my opinion, and I know of no earlier evidence of intermarital sex. Do you?

Mr. Alura

BradAndJanet · 03-10-2003, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Indian_couple
Hello all
I've been reading the posts for a while now, and though we are from a different culutural background (from India), I think I can relate to many of the posts here, and I share some of the fantasies too, I must say.

My question is, have you ever come across or heard of couples from India in the lifestyle?

I still have concerns about some things. I am yet to openly discuss this with my wife. Perhaps she would be shocked - but I have a feeling that after she gets over the shock, she may consider it. I know, I have to take my time, however exciting this idea may be to me...

would appreciate any comments/suggestions...

- Male half of Indian_couple

Your wife may be shocked, but perhaps not.

Get her in a relaxed mood, ask her to tell you her fantasies and see where they lead. She'll likely ask about yours. Make sure she understands that you love her, that you are commited to her and that this is something you'll do together and only if you both agree. Then show her this site. That's what worked for me...

Welcome to the board!

-B

ratimadan · 03-25-2003, 11:59 AM

Dear ICouple:

To answer your question if there are Indians who swing, the answer is a resounding yes. We are married couple from the Indian subcontinent living in the USA and very much interested in the Lifestyle. All men and women have sexual fantasies. Couples from India are no exception. We have been approached by many couples living in India who are into swinging. Swinging apperas to be practised by a large number of affluent urban professional couples. Please look up sites like Indianbibi.com on Yahoo and you will be able to connect with quite a few couples that are interested in swinging with you. In ancient times the Indian society was very open sexually. Intermarital sex between couples was very common. When and how this changed is a subject of much discussion.

The diaspora living outside the Indian subcontinent is very much into swinging and open to swapping spouses for all manner of sexual interaction including intercourse.

As for your wife, she may be resistant at fist to the concept of enjoying sex and having intercourse with someone other than her spouse. As suggested on other posts here, you need to take her into full confidence. You may start with having her read articles on swinging, visiting swingersites and chatting on-line with other Lifestyle couples.

Happy swinging.

Madan

Chicup · 03-25-2003, 01:34 PM

While I know there are a lot of Indian swingers in India, and I've even seen a lot of 'swingers stories' from India, I personaly haven't seen any in the US.

Its most likey just due to there not being THAT many Indians in the US that I haven't run into any.

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03-08-2003, 10:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
Indian_couple Registered Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Seoul, Korea Status: Married couple	Couples from India in the Lifestyle? Hello all I've been reading the posts for a while now, and though we are from a different culutural background (from India), I think I can relate to many of the posts here, and I share some of the fantasies too, I must say. My question is, have you ever come across or heard of couples from India in the lifestyle? I still have concerns about some things. I am yet to openly discuss this with my wife. Perhaps she would be shocked - but I have a feeling that after she gets over the shock, she may consider it. I know, I have to take my time, however exciting this idea may be to me... would appreciate any comments/suggestions... - Male half of Indian_couple

03-08-2003, 07:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	Dave_Susie pretty much summed up everything I would have said. Out of curiosity though I did go to one of the pay sites we belong to and did a search for Eastern Indians. It would only let me search for a 500 mile radius and in that there were 28 couples in which at least one was of Indian descent and there were 3 single males. I would have to say that in answer to your question, yes, at least in America there are lifestyle members of Indian descent. As Dave_Susie said, we too have come across all cultures at clubs though we never really tried to determine what cultural background they are from. Please be sure to read through the topics here and feel free to ask your own questions. Oh YEAH! Welcome to the board! Lori
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03-25-2003, 11:59 AM	#12 (permalink)
ratimadan Sexploration Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 163 Location: USA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ratimadan	Indian Swingers Dear ICouple: To answer your question if there are Indians who swing, the answer is a resounding yes. We are married couple from the Indian subcontinent living in the USA and very much interested in the Lifestyle. All men and women have sexual fantasies. Couples from India are no exception. We have been approached by many couples living in India who are into swinging. Swinging apperas to be practised by a large number of affluent urban professional couples. Please look up sites like Indianbibi.com on Yahoo and you will be able to connect with quite a few couples that are interested in swinging with you. In ancient times the Indian society was very open sexually. Intermarital sex between couples was very common. When and how this changed is a subject of much discussion. The diaspora living outside the Indian subcontinent is very much into swinging and open to swapping spouses for all manner of sexual interaction including intercourse. As for your wife, she may be resistant at fist to the concept of enjoying sex and having intercourse with someone other than her spouse. As suggested on other posts here, you need to take her into full confidence. You may start with having her read articles on swinging, visiting swingersites and chatting on-line with other Lifestyle couples. Happy swinging. Madan
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03-08-2003, 10:44 AM	#2 (permalink)
dave_susie2001 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 284 Location: Michigan Status: Married Couple	First let me say, Welcome to the Swingersboard Indian_couple! Second, I am sure that there are cultural differences between you and me. Not that it’s a bad thing. There are cultural differences between people living in my own neighborhood and me. However, since the people living in my own neighborhood are closer to me and I can actually see how their culture works, I understand it just enough to keep me from embarrassing myself. Since you are from India and are living in Seoul, there are lots of differences that I’m sure I wouldn’t have the slightest clue about. For me to give you advice on swinging might turn out to be a worse faux pa than me giving you (a person from India) advice on the best steak house in my neighborhood. However, the advice that I can give you will be similar to the advice that others here will no doubt suggest. Read through the forums here on the site, especially the New Swingers forum and the Archives about getting started. Once you feel comfortable discussing it openly with your wife, have her read some of the posts with you and discuss them. I have met many couples at swinger functions that were ethnic to me. Native Americans, Asians, African Americans, Haitian, Jamaican, Mexican….the list goes on. However, I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone from India at a swinger’s function. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t any swingers from India out there. Good luck in your quest for information and we wish you well in your adventure as you embark in the swinging lifestyle. Keep us posted on your progress, and let us know if we can help you with any specific questions.

03-08-2003, 10:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
Indian_couple Registered Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Seoul, Korea Status: Married couple	Thanks, dave_susie2001 - I really appreciate your warm message. Though off-topic, I couldn't help noticing that many westerners do not think of India when they talk about Asians - though we are Asians, too ! Can't blame you though, and it's no big deal, anyway. Thanks again for your reply. I am also concerned that our first experience (whenever it happens) should turn out to be good for both of us... I'm thinking, instead of starting by going to a swingers party, it's better for us to meet a couple more privately. Also, personally, I too would prefer intimacy.

03-08-2003, 08:52 PM	#6 (permalink)
Indian_couple Registered Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Seoul, Korea Status: Married couple	Thanks, OhioCouple. I get the feeling that even when we get around to the point of actually "trying out", it's going to be tricky finding that 'right couple' to get started with. Hmm. let's see... I'd like to say, that I really like the 'look and feel' of this site and the message board - and the tone of the messages. Thanks again.

03-09-2003, 11:19 AM	#9 (permalink)
Indian_couple Registered Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Seoul, Korea Status: Married couple	I wouldn't let culture deter you. Wasn't swinging invented in your native country? Surely anyone who has visited the "Love Temple...." Hello Alura I never let culture come in the way of my thoughts and about my understanding of life . I'm not sure swinging was invented in India, though - I wish it had been . However, I think people in ancient times did have a lot healthier attitude about sex and clearly did not make it into a taboo to be discussed or expressed in the arts such as sculpture, painting and literature. The "temple" you are referring to is probably "Kajuraho" where there are a lot of erotic sculpture, and of course, I'm sure you know about the "Kama Sutra". In fact, many of the ancient temples have sculptures where the feminine beauty and sensuality are truly celebrated. I don't know why or how it changed to such an extent where it's difficult to have an open relationship even before marriage, especially in small towns... It's changing for the better though, but too late for us

03-25-2003, 01:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,092 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	While I know there are a lot of Indian swingers in India, and I've even seen a lot of 'swingers stories' from India, I personaly haven't seen any in the US. Its most likey just due to there not being THAT many Indians in the US that I haven't run into any.