We're an interacial couple, will we have a problem finding others to swing with?

[YZF]

My girlfriend is black. From what I have gathered most of the couple on here are white. Would my girlfriend being black cause a problem. She is a Beyonce/Halle Berry type and pleasing to look at, but I am worried that once it comes time to be intimate, race may make a difference.

[Just_us49]

Regardless of race, size, shape, personality etc. People are people...some will find you guys hot and some will not. It's probably good you're aware it could cause some people to shy away, but it's certainly not a big deal in my opinion.
In fact you could be soon wishing people weren't so attracted to her!
If she looks like what you said, I'd find her attractive.

-D

[LikeMinds321]

If you use ad sites to search for playmates, as long as you make it clear that you are an interacial couple and your girlfriend is black, there should be no need for concern about it affecting intimacy with others.

LM

[SexhoundDog]

YZF,
You say your girlfriend looks like a Beyonce or Halle Berry type and you're wondering if race would make a difference????? Good Gawd brother, are you serious?? I've got to believe that even neo-Nazi rednecks would give their left testicle to jump in bed with women that looked like that!! They are two of the most beautiful women on the planet, white or black or purple!

I get the opinion from this board that most of these people are liberal and very non-racist. If anything, I think your lady would be regarded as a trophy amongst most people who've never had an interracial swing or sex experience. You'd probably be wondering when you'd get your turn with her again as Just us49 said!

I look at it this way. If you got redneck vibes from a couple, you wouldn't want to swing with them anyway, would you?

[JustAskJulie]

For some it will, for others it won't. There will probably be a lot of white guys who will be very interested in her just because she is black ("I've never tried that flavor"), and others who won't have anything to do with her for the very same reason.... and still others who just don't care what color she is.

[mikeandjung]

Don't let this be a major concern. We are interracial also, as long as you find good people to be with, race dhouldn't get in the way. It can be a good thing actually, hope you will find it that way.

[YZF]

Originally Posted by SexhoundDog

YZF,
You say your girlfriend looks like a Beyonce or Halle Berry type and you're wondering if race would make a difference????? Good Gawd brother, are you serious?? I've got to believe that even neo-Nazi rednecks would give their left testicle to jump in bed with women that looked like that!! They are two of the most beautiful women on the planet, white or black or purple!

Beauty is one thing, but race is another. She grew up as an Army brat and then served as an Army Officer for 6 years. She never experienced racism until after she got away from the Army. We were getting an apartment and everything was fine, since I was handling everything myself. It was when she showed up with that all of a sudden, there was "a problem."

I know swingers are a little more open minded (Duh!) bunch but I still worry.

[SexhoundDog]

Originally Posted by SexhoundDog

YZF,

I look at it this way. If you got redneck vibes from a couple, you wouldn't want to swing with them anyway, would you?

I'll repeat it.


Also, you can't help but experience people from time to time that will have undesirable traits, be it racism, selfishness, being inconsiderate, intolerant religious fanaticism, and the list goes on and on. I'm sure that even if racism didn't appear to exist in the military, she certainly knows it exists among some people, be they black or white.

If you two have a strong foundation between you and have discussed that it could be a possibility, I'm guessing you both know how to hold your heads high and are smart enough to walk away from any racism you'd encounter. Believe me, you won't find it everywhere, and your girlfriend certainly knows she's #1 with you anyway and that's all that matters.

And as I said in my first post, if she looks like you say she does and has a personality to match, I don't believe there would be many non-racist guys who wouldn't jump at the chance to be with her. And aren't those the ones she and you would be looking for anyway?

I wouldn't worry so much. If you're like the rest on this board, you'll have some bad swing experiences along with hopefully a lot more good ones. Just don't let the bad ones bring her down.

[JustAskJulie]

I was flipping through some old threads and saw this one that I thought you might want to read. There are several other threads dealing with similar issues in that archive as well.

[Alura]

One of our favorite experiences was with a mixed couple, white man, black woman.

Although I can't say she resembled Halle Berry, she was slender, very attractive and an enthusiastic treat in bed.

Soon after our play-date, she shipped out for Iraq and she and her husband decided to divorce. He just couldn't quit squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle.

My guess is that there will be as many, if not more, men who are turned on by her race than put off by it. Hell, y'all wouldn't want to play with a guy like that anyway.

Mr. Alura

[RNDNV]

Originally Posted by YZF

We were getting an apartment and everything was fine, since I was handling everything myself. It was when she showed up with that all of a sudden, there was "a problem."

First of all, you should know that if you were "prevented" from getting this apartment, you were illegally discriminated against, and if it was recently, you should talk to a civil rights attorney. You might get some money.

Secondly, and unfortunately, there are narrow minded and racist people everywhere, AND, not everyone is that way. But one thing I can tell you for sure is that as a general rule, the people you will encounter as swingers, percentage wise, are the most open minded and least racist people you will ever encounter as a group. I am hard pressed to think of any group or association of people with more open minds than what you will find at a swing club. SO COME ON IN, THE WATER IS GREAT!

Lastly, so your baby looks like Beyonce/Halle Berry? Listen, we will be at the Lifestyles Convention this July in Las Vegas, and if you think you can make it then contact us, and we will introduce you around to about 50 or so couples (some interracial like ourselves) that we know out of the 1,200 or so that attend on average, and by Thursday (the 2nd day of the convention) I predict you will have to beat the crowd of couples wanting to play with you guys back with multiple baseball bats!... including us...

[YZF]

Originally Posted by RNDNV

Lastly, so your baby looks like Beyonce/Halle Berry? Listen, we will be at the Lifestyles Convention this July in Las Vegas, and if you think you can make it then contact us, and we will introduce you around to about 50 or so couples (some interracial like ourselves)

She does not look like Beyonce or Halle Berry. She is a Beyonce/Halle Berry "type." Very light skinned. Light brown hair, hazel eyes, athletic body (Volleyball Scholarship to the University of Texas) and mandatory "Bah-donka-donk" butt.

Our as Vegas trip is planned for October. A bunch of my brother Army Rangers and I who fought in Somalia during the "Blackhawk Down" incident get together there on the weekend following the anniversary of that battle.

[chgocupl]

What was more interesting about your comments, was that only OUT of the Army did she realize any racial problems. Having retired from the Army myself, and having been in swinging for > 20yrs, you come to realize something about people. For the most part, the military is so diversafied, that race ususlly doesn't matter, it's people that count. I can also tell you that we swung with an interracial couple, he was black, and she was white, and they were one of the nicest couples we knew. She was a professional, he was prior military, and a skilled maintenence person. They were wonderful people, and that's my point----they were people, and the color of their skin was irelevant. I think swinging, like the military, have more liberal educated people in their ranks, and recognize that it's the person (s) that counts, not race or ethnicity. (wish we had spell check!!!)

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by YZF

My girlfriend is black. From what I have gathered most of the couple on here are white. Would my girlfriend being black cause a problem. She is a Beyonce/Halle Berry type and pleasing to look at, but I am worried that once it comes time to be intimate, race may make a difference.

If someone is attracted enough to you to get to the point of being intimate I don't think race would even come into the picture. If race was you wouldn't even get to first base with them to begin with. And if it is a factor, they are idiots who are not worth your time anyway.

Mr. WS