Interracial swinging

[jmacohio]

Ok....now I'm new to the board and I just thought I would dive right in and see what opinions I can find. So here it goes......


I'm a married black male in a biracial marriage. My wife introduced me to the lifestyle over a year ago and so far it has been and eye opening if not wonderful experience! I had never know untill now how many people in our own community and beyond who have been swingers only from time to time are who enjoy it on a regular basis.

We are both very open,honest and sexually adventurous couple. both very voyeuristic, and exhibitionistic.We've had group sex, and singles sex with others, as long as we know who the other is with. This lifestyle seems so perfect for us. Still, I had reservations about being the ony black man at most of the clubs and private parties we have been to. You can imagine my surprise when most of the time I would find myself in very high demand!

Here's my question? Are there a lot of couple with interracial fantasies that they would love to play out. I have had so many husband who have enjoyed watching me with their wives. I have always enjoyed interracial sex and have found the demand in the swing community to be very high! Is this unusual or just a very normal desire between swinging couples!

Me and my wife have great stories to tell and look forward to hearing from all of you in the future......

[Pepper & Drew]

Apparently it's a fairly popular fantasy....just look at some of the sex websites out there, or some of the Forum stories. We are an interracial couple too. I (female) am black and my husband is white. If I had a quarter for every time the guy of the couple we were playing with said that being with a black woman was a fantasy of his, why, I'd have a $1.25! I chalk it up to intrigue about the unknown, as well as wondering if the stereotype about black men, in your case(you know which one I'm talking about ) is true. I've always viewed it as a positive in terms of the lifestyle. Perhaps it has contributed to our meeting some really great couples.

Oh, and Welcome to the board! It's a great place!

Pepper

[EvilMJ]

It's funny that you bring that question up as I was having a converastion with my friend the other day similar to this.

I have no idea how we got on the topic but she asked if I had ever had sex with a black man before. I told her yes, as I have had a couple of boy friends in my past who were black. She seemed really surprised by this... and then had a ton of question. It struck me funny because I never thought of it that way, I dated those guys because I liked them, they were nice and our personalities just clicked, I never saw them as being anything other than say Joe or Bob. She seemed to see it as something almost shocking (she came from a very strict religous background) and exciting.

So I guess to some people there is an aura of the exotic to it? To me, a guy is a guy and I am attracted to personality first and foremost. (a hot body is bonus though )

[good times]

It may be a bit of a regional thing but at the club we go to their are at least a half a dozen interracial couples who attend regularly. In fact, last Saturday we visited with a couple (black male/white female) for a couple of hours that attends at least twice a month. We have never noticed that they are in any more or less demand than non interacial couples. We could care less, as it's more about mutual attraction and personality for us, if we hit it off we are willing to play, if we don't hit it off we won't. The racial thing just isn't important to us. In fact our most recent playmates would included at least a black male, a lot of caucasions, and at least one asian female (although I didn't know I might be tested later so I didn't compile a complete list ) . I would tend to think that if you do better than most that it would have more to do with the fact that people just like you than it has to do with what color your skin is.

[jmacohio]

Please don't get me wrong.....I have never had a problem being the subject of a interracial fantasy.ME and my wife are big fans of role playing. Like she's the cheerleader and I'm the football pllayer,the nurse and the doctor,or my personal favorite,the slave and the master. Just like PepperandDrew were saying"It's a sterotype", Much like the asian woman attraction that many men have. Sometime I almost feel guilty for feeding into that role,but it is fun when a husband tells me what a turn on it is to see me with his wife. My wife tells me It's the taboo of it, or the contrasts of skin color,and of course the old BIG BLACK COCK theory. Not that I'm lacking in that area...thank you very much!!! But it would be a lie if I didn't say I didn't enjoy it too. I'm just surprised that this black/white role playing is so strong in this lifestyle

[SexhoundDog]

jmac,
I'd say you've got the best of both worlds, and the right attitude to go with it! I hear about the black cock fantasy with some women, and you're giving some a chance to live it out. I'm sure I'd be glad to be "exploited" in a group of nice looking black women who wanted that white cock fantasy, and I know I'd even have a big smile on my face! Enjoy the ride!

[Alura]

We've only been fortunate enough to play with one mixed couple, white husband, black wife. It was a real treat for both of us but race didn't seem to be a factor.

Since we've only played with five couples in our "swinging career," I suppose 20% interracial ain't bad!

Mr. Alura

[vancpl]

I am curious to know why there is so much emphasis about black/white interracial relationships. I think the most common interracial coupling is that of Asian/White and somehow that does not cause the same attention as does the black make-white female coupling....

In Canada, we are much more relaxed about this and no one gives a second thought...

[lovers]

I'd say a lot of people have a desire to go interracial.

My wife is Asian and I'm black. What we find is that one or both parties in a couple may have a fantasy to live out (women want to be with me because of the black myth thing and guys want to experience an Asian woman). Sometimes it's the husbands wanting to set something up with their wives to life out a fantasy. For example, there's a couple where I service the wife while the hubby watches and my wife takes pics for them. They have a huge interracial sex fetish and hubby gets off on watching as well as looking at the photos later. We get a lot of requests for that.

Whatever floats your boat I guess..... We're not complaining.

[DBL D]

Thanks for the question jmacohio,

I think Fem D has had thoughts of being with another race besides white (US) and I know I have. Very happy to see that you have been so well received.

I once had a chat with a lady in a bi-racial marriage on Swing Lifestyle. She had the same concerns: like whether the dances we went to had inter-racial couples. I told her they did and to come on out and enjoy. She was very private in her responses, i.e. didn't seem to want to get into detail about what they were really looking for, but, whatever you want is out there. It may take some searching to find who you want though just the same as with people who are looking for couples within their own race.

I think some people think that everybody is a mind reader and things will just naturally "happen". You have to be willing to ask the questions you want answered and not be bashful about it (which you haven't been).

Good luck!

Male D

[bear_and_babe]

Great timing on this question. This just situation just came up this past weekend.

Bear and I were at a club and this guy starting talking to me. Nice guy to talk to. Over the course of the evening, Bear and I found ourselves in a room with the door open. The guy stood in the door and I asked him to come in and join us. So we had a great 3 some, and after he left, Bear says, "So how was it, your first black man"? I just looked at him. I never noticed that he was black! It was not important to me. All I knew was he had a nice dick!

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is more important to me that the people I play with are nice people, and I am not all that worried about skin color. I guess I never had that interracial fantasy. I have plenty of other fantasies to play out!

[DBL D]

Thanks bear_and_babe,

I also tend not to look at color in the lifestyle. Glad you were able to too.

M.D.

[Greg & Sheryl]

There is a huge market of white couples out there who share the fantasy of the wife having sex with a black man. Unfortunately, in our experience, it seems that the husbands are typically much more interested in watching their wives with Greg than they are in playing with Sheryl. We don’t care for encounters where someone is more of a watcher than a participant, so we try to avoid couples like that. That is one reason why we are beginning to seek black and interracial couples more so than white couples. We have experienced great difficulty in finding white couples in our area who are color blind in this regard.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

To me, a guy is a guy and I am attracted to personality first and foremost. (a hot body is bonus though )

Dito

I've never understood the whole taboo thing about interacial sex. People are people to me.

[good times]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Dito

I've never understood the whole taboo thing about interacial sex. People are people to me.

Dito , Me too.