Ever tempted to get pregnant on purpose when swinging?

[lovers]

Originally posted by Elusive BiFem:

"Well, must admit...you could have blown me over with a feather, lovers. Had no idea such things took place. And I'll always wonder why."

So will we. As if on cue, we got this e-mail this morning:

"I am a 37 years old blonde slut wife with swelling belly and
growing 40 DDD tits. Just got knocked up recently and I am hornier than ever. Impregnation could have happened at a black gang bang, but could be also a result from sleeping around with regular fuck buddies without any protection.

We are thinking about setting up regular interracial gang bang parties during my pregnancy to fill my moist hole(s) with hot cum. I am looking for a pregnant fuck sister who wants to have some dirty, nasty fun too while being knocked up. Love girls eating my cumfilled pussy. creampie play and double dildo fucking. Central or SW Fl would be great, must be horny and into bareback (no
condom) fucking & interracial.

Sluts who want to be bred for real could join in too, I have a group of black breeding bulls that we'd like your hubby to join."



Why we get this stuff I'll never know.

[lovers]

BTW, has anybody noticed that one person responded to "considered to do it" and another responded to "actually tried it"?

[Elusive BiFem]

I did notice the "considered" and "actually" lovers. But a question for you...don't you find it horribly and terribly offensive that someone would e-mail you this type of stuff...as if your contribution to humanity is nothing more than that of a "black breeding bull" with no thoughts of the outcome for the child one might give life to...that sort of thing?

I guess my naivete is showing once again, but I had no idea this type of stuff took place and find it nothing less than disgusting. Especially disgusting to think that anyone would show such disregard for a black man. But I guess there must be black men that are agreeable...otherwise those types of e-mails would cease to exist.

Thanks for opening my eyes to something I would have never dreamed of. - EBF

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by Karen12345
...first of all my question was about temptation - many of the postings argue with consequences (financial, emotional, legal...). I think temptation is not thinking about consequences. Thats the next step: doing it or not - thats why we are humans and not animals! Many answers avoided to deal with temptation - why? I can also say that i would NEVER do it, but could i be tempted...? i have to admit: yes. This gave me a lot to think about - what is swinging really about? only fun? Or do i want to sleep with other men, because some part of me wants them to become a father? Hard questions and answers!

Karen

PS: i have read a statistic that about 15% of us have other fathers than we think...

But how many of us can be "tempted" without thinking of consequences? You are right - separates us from animals. But no, I can't say that I can answer based entirely on temptation without giving thought to the consequences. Just like I can't speed down the street even when tempted because of the consequences. Therefore...I would never be tempted to become preganant from a swing partner without that persons knowledge and agreement.

You said you have been tempted. May I ask why? And were you tempted to proceed with the idea of pregancy without the knowledge/agreement of the man?

Few of us can separate the moral, legal, ethical aspects and implications from "temptation." Those things, and more, are the sum total of who I am and who I am results in my responses.

- EBF

[lovers]

Originally posted by Elusive BiFem:

"don't you find it horribly and terribly offensive that someone would e-mail you this type of stuff...as if your contribution to humanity is nothing more than that of a "black breeding bull" with no thoughts of the outcome for the child one might give life to...that sort of thing? "


Do I find it offensive? Sure I do. But there a lot of women in the lifestyle who want to be with black men because they will dominate them and it is taboo (among other reasons). This is one (rather extreme) aspect of that. The best that I can do is to avoid these people and leave them to black men who have no problems being a "black breeding bull" (as there are quite a few out there who truly have no problem with that).


BTW, I strongly suggest that readers of this thread check out a book called Sperm Wars by Dr. Robin Baker. It deals with the premise that sexual behavior is driven by biological imperatives programmed into humans millions of years ago. His theory goes something like this: Men are programmed to not only "knock up" as many females as possible, but to assume that he is going to compete against other males to get the job done. Females are programmed to seek out the best genetic stock and get "knocked up." If you read the book, you'll find that Baker touches on a lot of the subjects in this thread.

[neil1]

I have to admit that this is an option for my wife an I. We have been unable to have children and want them very much. We were thinking of going to a different city to swing with a single male for a few nights and then go home and never see him again and hope that she was pregnant.....with "our child"...........We haven't done so yet

[Chris&Amelia]

Ugh. The very thought is disturbing.

I had one woman who we knew for only a week at the local club try to "sneak" the condom off of me during play. That was awkward, and we decided to go our separate ways when that happened. I later heard rumors that her husband was infertile, and she was looking to get pregnant.

I guess I should have been flattered. But she would have been disappointed!

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by neil1
I have to admit that this is an option for my wife an I. We have been unable to have children and want them very much. We were thinking of going to a different city to swing with a single male for a few nights and then go home and never see him again and hope that she was pregnant.....with "our child"...........We haven't done so yet

First off, welcome to the board, neil1 !

I must ask, have you considered the consequences that can occur by doing this? First and foremost, what if there is a genetic defect that is prominent in his heritage? Are you willing to be loving and generous to a child that may not be perfect, a child which shares lineage to another family, unknown to you? What if the only person that can save this child's life that you have grown to love as your own, suddenly needs something that only the sperm donors biological side can be a slimmer of hope to save his/hers life. What then? You would have no choice but to go public with the situation and do what any parent would do to save the life of the child they love. Would you rather explain that you had adopted the child and had no idea of who the parent was? That wouldn't work, because there would be no adoption papers and you couldn't claim you didn't know without pointing a finger at your wife for having had an affair without your knowledge. Sounds to me like your only viable option is becoming part of the fodder-feast-fest for the Springer or Maury show.

I know this potential consequence (alone) would bother me greatly. While I sympathize with your situation, and if placed in your shoes, I would look for a donor that I knew. I'd make sure the legal paper work was in place and that they were well aware of what they were doing and giving up. Concessions would most likely have to be made on both sides, but I know for a fact, this has and does work...I've seen it, personally.

[lovers]

Before we beat up on this couple, consider this. It has become commonplace to a degree for a single woman who wants to have a child to simply go to a bar, get to know a guy and then get knocked up with or without the guy's knowledge. How different is that from the situation that neil1 is describing? It may not be entirely fair if the guy doesn't know and it is far from being the ideal situation, but it does happen.

[lovers]

By the way, I'd love to know who actually "tried it and succeeded."

(Anybody know where I can find condoms that are 100% effective and can't be sabotaged?)

[Chemistry_0518]

I agree that it would not be a good idea. But in the same vein I am aware of polyamory situations that produced offspring. Some were disastrous while a few others were able to withstand the resulting emotional storm without scars.

But who knows how the children will accept the knowledge when they are old enough to understand and appreciate the uniqueness of the situation?

[neil1]

This is Neil again....the one who started this.........I have read everyones opinion and they make some great points.......But here is our situation in detail........I am unable to produce enough sperm to get my wife pregnant.......If we go to a sperm bank and years later the child gets sick and needs a transplant or something we still couldt get the information. Our only hope right now is to find someone to get my wife pregant. We dont want the other person to know because of the custody issues later on. What if he wanted custody? All we want is for my wife to get pregnant with a stranger who will never see us again. It would be in a far away city from where we are over the course of 2 or 3 nights. I guess we are willing to make the sacrifice and hope everything turns out ok.

[GirlieZ]

Originally posted by neil1
....I am unable to produce enough sperm to get my wife pregnant.......If we go to a sperm bank and years later the child gets sick and needs a transplant or something we still couldt get the information. Our only hope right now is to find someone to get my wife pregant. We dont want the other person to know because of the custody issues later on. What if he wanted custody? All we want is for my wife to get pregnant with a stranger who will never see us again. It would be in a far away city from where we are over the course of 2 or 3 nights. I guess we are willing to make the sacrifice and hope everything turns out ok.

I understand your dilemma. I understand more than you will ever know. However, think about these things:

What if the man does have some hereditary disease? Think about Tay Sachs....Cystic Fibrosis. At least in the donor centers they test and screen. Its important to know what you are going to get. You are talking about your future here. I don't think that chance and sacrifice can figure in here.

What if the man is HIV+? Not only have you infected your wife, but an innocent child as well. Not to mention all the other horrible STD's that can really harm a baby. I am certain that you would be selective...but just remember joe schmoe could look really healthy and be very clean but have some nasties growing in his blood.

I don't understand how the risks here outweighs the benefits of using a donor bank.

Low sperm count? Have you tried wearing boxers...not taking hot baths. Sperm have to stay at 98.6 in order to thrive....maybe you are wearing whitie tighties and soaking in the tub too long? Sometimes the acidity of your lady's vagina can kill off sperm...try changing the PH to a more neutral PH..I know that can be done. I hope that maybe you haven't tried the above and maybe I have helped.

Custody, IMHO, is the least of your worries.

I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do...

Take care!
Zgirl

[meowkittyhascla]

Besides having your wife get preggers by another man....there is always the choice of adoption! Have you considered that?

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by meowkittyhascla
Besides having your wife get preggers by another man....there is always the choice of adoption! Have you considered that?

Glad to see I'm not alone in having had that particular thought.