Just tried full swap and fear being pregnant

[sweet_tna]

Safireblues, I agree with Lovethenights on this one, though I can sympathize. I cannot take hormonal birth control for the same reasons as you. My husband and I have used condoms effectively for long periods throughout our marriage (11.5 years) and never had a problem. So I (personally) consider condoms to be safe enough for play partners. Illness and stress can often cause delayed periods--believe me, I've had it happen.

If, after taking some time to calm down and really think about it (and talk to your hubby), you still feel you cannot go full swap while fertile, then so be it. When you're ready for a more permanent birth control method, then you can always revisit the issue.

=)

[safireblues]

Thanks to all for your perspectives. I do think the full swap option has to be off the menu for me because the concern of pregnancy is too overwhelming for me at this time. I'm thinking that when I'm older, once I've had a kid, I will get an IUD, and that plus condoms will be enough for me. Until then, I will continue to give the world's best blow jobs.

It was really hot to get fucked though! Why must the best things in life be the scariest?

[2ofakind33]

I feel for you. We have three great kids and Ive had an hysterectomy(due to medical problems), so only thing I worry about is STD's. My husband is very fertile.. so he worries about getting someone pregnant. He is considering getting surgery, but not until after xmas. Dont let this stop you from having fun, just play smart. In my op, I think you are fine. But like someone else stated.. dont forget pre-cum has sperm also.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by safireblues

Also, I feel like there's no acceptable level for me, even if it was .000001% chance, I would still be terrified. I don't want to become pregnant with the child of another man, ergo, I cannot fuck another man while that is a possibility.

Didn't see it with that clarity before.

I didn't try full-swap with hubby until after I had my wings clipped, and even then I had twinges of panic. But I reasoned that, being a healthy woman in her early 30's, and having a healthy sex life with my husband and no sign of pregnancy in sight, there was no reason whatsoever why I should be more likely to become pregnant by another man than my husband.

If your fear of the risks overpower your enjoyment of it, or if it causes you undue stress afterward, you're right to stop while you're ahead. You can always reasses at a later time to see if these fears are still as strong.

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by safireblues

Why must the best things in life be the scariest?

...or the most fattening? Or the most expensive? LOL

[fordman460]

Im getting myself disconnected in mid December. I cant wait, the wife and I have been doing the pull and pray since March of '96.

[ShellyM]

The thing that people must remember is the fact that full swap is NOT for everyone. There is no one way to swing, and its not a tier system. We have met couples who are almost in competition, like there is some sort of graduation when they are able to full swap. If you do not prefer full swap for whatever reason that is okay, its not a big deal as long as you are honest with other couples.

[safireblues]

Yay! I got my period. Now I can look back and laugh.

Yeah, the funny (sad) thing was that having intercourse with him was more my idea than my husband's, and the reason I wanted to was because he had this crazy big dick that I wanted to feel inside me. I was dickmatized. I could see nothing else. And I'm pretty bi, like for years I wasn't all that into dick but this uncut big dick on a hot 25 year old and I wanted it. Granted, I waited for like 6 months so there's something to be said for reserve, but DAMN. And it felt fucking incredible, and fucking him in front of my husband was a total hot turn on. (there was another woman there too, my ultimate unicorn girlfriend who has only been with women and had never fucked a guy and she's hot and 27~!)

It was only after when the girl and I went to dinner and we started saying "What If"...what if I got pregnant and I didn't know if it was my husband's or the other man's baby? We started out joking about it, I kept saying well if the baby is born and has a huge penis, it will be the other guys. Later that night, the panic set in, what WOULD I DO???? My husband really wants to have a child with me, so if I was pregnant and there was a chance it was his, he probably couldn't live with an abortion, especially since his first girlfriend had one and it has haunted him ever since.

On the other hand, raising a child that isn't your own or where you know it might not be, holy mother of god. That has generational implications.

Thus, the terror of that scenario happening was more than I could bear.

I am so happy it's over.