Pregnancy and swinging

[Stephen]

We are experienced swingers (2 years in our mid 40s) and my partner has just found out that she's pregnant. What has been the experience of other couples in the early stages of pregnancy? Do you carry on swinging, or is it a bit weird to do that and do you stop?

At the moment the idea doesn't appeal for her:do couples soon change their minds and try and have some fun before the later stages of pregnancy arrives?

We have arranged to meet a cple in 3 weeks time and aren't sure about whether we should cancel or not. We may be cool about it in a few weeks time.

What have other people's experiences been swinging when the female half is pregnant or with a cple with a pregnant wife?

[Alura]

Be very careful, of course, to not pick up any sexually transmitted diseases, even the more harmless ones, easily treated with penicillin. You don't want to complicate the pregnancy.

We had an experience when Mrs. Alura was six months pregnant but it was with a couple we'd known for fifteen years who had had no outside sex for that period of time. The other man had never had sex with a pregnant woman and so was able to fulfill a fantasy.

Be very, very careful. If there is any question at all, we'd suggest not doing it.

Alura

[CanadianCouple]

I'd concur with what Alura said, but would like to add one more point.

If you do decide to cancel, please be considerate of the other couple by not waiting until the last minute to cancel out. Make your decision ASAP.

Dan

[Stephen]

Hi, we are an experienced swing cple (only 2 years tho)M42,F45. The wife is newly pregnant!

(6weeks). We'd like to know other cples experiences of what they do in the early stages of pregnancy.

Do you continue to meet cples to swing?

When would you stop playing with couples-how many months in?

If you stopped altogether how did you satisfy your horny urges?

Or are you put off the idea for a long time, coz your focus is elsewhere?

We had arranged to meet a couple in a few weeks time and are unsure of what to do. At the moment the pregancy makes us think we should stop playing but when the excitment dies down will we go back to thinking horny thoughts <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" />

ps we think we conceived after a long bout of post swingplay sex with each other!

[AllieGirlCincy]

We were just talking about this at dinner 2 nights ago. We're (my husband and I--you have to count him too!) not pregnant yet, but we're planning to start trying for our first child after the first of the year sometime.

Anyway...we also were planning on going to Hedonism sometime next year too. We kinda forgot that it's possible that I could be 3 or 4 months pregnant at that time. D'oh!

So...we started wondering about if playing in the lifestyle during pregnancy would be a good or bad thing. How taboo would it be, etc. We figured that some people would be really turned on by it, and that some people would be really turned off by it.

Any thoughts out there?

= )

--Allie

[BedroomAccess]

Be an adult - of course she should stay away from the lifestyle for the duration of pregnancy. There are health risks associates with any adult play and for the sake of the child she should wait for 9 months at least.

[Stephen]

Hi, is this a bad topic or something but no one has answered it at all? Did I pose the taboo issue incorrectly or what??

[TNT]

I don't think it is a taboo issue. I just think that most people here are past that stage in their lives.

For us, our 'baby' is 11 years old, and no, there won't be any more here, so we will never be faced with this issue.

I can tell you that during all of my pregnancies, I would not have wanted to play with anybody. I was extremely horny during my pregnancies, but also very self conscious about my looks as well.

A pregnancy is a very special time for both soon to be parents. I just would not have felt comfortable at all sharing that with anyone else.

There are those out there who probably would and do feel comfortable playing at this time.

We did have some friends that we had played with and when she did become pregnant, they wanted to continue playing, but neither of us (myself and hubby) were comfortable with it, so we politely turned them down. It just was not our thing.

Do what you both feel comfortable with and be honest with those that you do play with. Just remember, at this time it is no longer just the two of you, you have to worry about, there is a little one on the way that you must also consider now.

Good luck,
Teresa

[kissyface]

Well I just had a baby last month, and for us we did not play while I was pg. At first I was so sick with morning sickness that sex was the last thing on my mind... then during the second trimester when I was always horny I wouldn't have wanted anyone else to see me. Hubby thought I was beautiful but you know how woman are, bashful when it comes to our growing bodies...

Now I am so tired what is sex???

[JMR]

My husband and I started going to a swinger club last October and I was 8 weeks pregnant. We continued to go until March because my now 6 month old decided to arrive early. We have a wonderful sex life and when we talk about the things that we wanted to do after the baby was born, that thought alone got both of us very horny. You can still go to parties and have a good time dancing and getting to know people and then proceed to have great sex with your wife. We decided that we did not want to harm our unborn child so we did not excange partners, we only had great same room sex with a great couple that we still talk to. Hope this helps if even a little. <img border="0" alt="[Kissing]" title="" src="graemlins/kissing.gif" />

[Stephen]

Hi, thank you very much for useful comments.

I had no idea it was posted elswehere Just Ask Julie, it really was my mistake. I wondered where the original had got to and posted it again. I wasn't perturbed by any answers because I hadn't read any.

We'll probably not be swinging for up to 18 months we reckon when one considers the breast feeding scenario. But where there's a will there's a way and swing clubbing and own partner sex may be a nice option.

We love this message board, it's full of mature, intelligent, critical and intriguing commentary. Keep it up you're the best!! <img border="0" alt="[fun]" title="" src="graemlins/fun.gif" />

[IndyDuet]

We have friends that are dealing with this same situation. Unfortunately they are not dealing with it very well and I hope, if you do choose to play during this time, you can avoid the same pitfalls. Having been there (pregnant), there are hormone induced emotions that cannot be controlled, including a woman's views of her changing body. The female half of this couple has made comments of feeling like she has the plague because no one touches her...as if she's contageous.

And while this couple has always been a "plays together" couple, it seems the male half feels he shouldn't have to miss out on anything just because she's not getting any attention. I have witnessed him answering are they open swing questions in the affirmative with the explanation that his wife is pregnant.

I know we are new to the site, and I am not at all suggesting that this is bound to happen with all couples, just an observation made that I hope others can avoid.

Good luck with your decision and your upcoming birth. The fact that you are asking about it shows you are putting a great deal of thought into your decision.

[JustAskJulie]

Ouch, sounds like a bad situation, but a very good point.

Welcome to the board IndyDuet, I hope you will continue to share your insight on other topics as well.