Swinging and Pregnancy Worries

[dragonblade]

Well, I had been on depo for a little over a year and gained 100 lb in that year. Everyone I've talked to that took the depo gained a LOT of weight on it. Birth control pills for someone my weight aren't very effective. I had the Mierena for 3 years (before hubby and I decided to have another baby) and now that my newest is 6 weeks old I am trying to get another put in. Periods were practically non-existant, and the level of progesterone that is in your system is so low, there are few if any side effects from it other than light to no periods. That's the best route in my opinion.

~Blade~

[JacobSky]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

all sorts of birth control is not always there when it counts.

when deciding to swing, just be sure to know there may be a chance she will get pregnant even if birth control is used.

sperm does spread from lips to the vaginal area and from finger to the inside of the vagina.

I agree with TerryforSex, the two of you need to agree together that pregnancy is still a possibility. It would be best for a couple to aknowledge that they will love their partner just the same if pregnancy occurs, or atleast agree to give 100% effort to keeping the mairrage together.

Yes, use the ideas that others have recommended. Just be prepared to love your partner through thick and thin.

[TerryforSex]

Some people go into Swinging knowing the risks of getting pregnant. There are some parties that are planned I attended where there were really wild rules.

No one could use birth control or condoms. No guys with vasectomys either. This was one Wild party where someone might get pregnant. That was the most extreme I have participated in.

From that one party 4 were pregnant. But that was the risk and before hand knowledge of the risk. Some attended with that intention. Their husbands had low sperm counts so this was better than spending thousands of dollars in a clinic.
Pick your parties and partners wisely.

[wifes_sex_slave]

I got fixed a while back becasue I already have 5 children but my wife is somewhat younger than I and is still in her sexual "birth years" prime. She is taking the birth control shot (helps with prgnancy as well as menstral control) we will still make sure that both myself and the other man will be wearing condoms. Even though I am fixed, we want to protect from STD's as well.
There is NO 100% guarantee for anything, just precautions and awareness.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

No one could use birth control or condoms. No guys with vasectomys either. This was one Wild party where someone might get pregnant. That was the most extreme I have participated in.

How incredibly irresponsible and sick...

Sorry - but when the kink involves pregnancy (and thus an innocent life) I tend to bristle.

All though to be fair and honest, I don't think this party ever actually happened. I think this is a tall tale similar to "Bloody Mary", snuff films and Bigfoot - and there does seem to be a bit of a theme to your posting interests.

Spoomonkey

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

Some people go into Swinging knowing the risks of getting pregnant. There are some parties that are planned I attended where there were really wild rules.

No one could use birth control or condoms. No guys with vasectomys either. This was one Wild party where someone might get pregnant. That was the most extreme I have participated in.

From that one party 4 were pregnant. But that was the risk and before hand knowledge of the risk. Some attended with that intention. Their husbands had low sperm counts so this was better than spending thousands of dollars in a clinic.
Pick your parties and partners wisely.

Crazy kilt man does not approve of this post.

In fact it made him curl up into a ball and cry a bit.

Please, think of Crazy kilt man before you post.

[MoonLightKiss]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

How incredibly irresponsible and sick...

Sorry - but when the kink involves pregnancy (and thus an innocent life) I tend to bristle.

All though to be fair and honest, I don't think this party ever actually happened. I think this is a tall tale similar to "Bloody Mary", snuff films and Bigfoot - and there does seem to be a bit of a theme to your posting interests.

Spoomonkey

Spoo, as always you hit the nail on the head. If this party happened, (which I doubt) your participation in it is just as irresponsible and sick as everyone elses. The thought that one of those people could have gotten pregnant scares me. Only because, if people are that stupid, how in the hell can they raise a child?

However, as much as this subject burns me up, I must agree with Spoo once again. Spoo calls it a "tall tale". No arguments here. I would say its starting to smell of troll, but it may still be a bit premature for that.

[intuition897]

TerryforSex, I noticed this post:

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

controlling your wife is not a way for her to enjoy a swining party. she may have a comfort zone very different from the husbands. when you are out of the swinging room she is in, maybe she enjoys herself the way she wants.

i cant imagine my husband telling me how to swing.
i prefer him out of the bedroom. what i do is my own business.

This is about the only one I've seen that doesn't somehow deal with a fertility fantasy/fixation. And the view expressed in the above post doesn't really strike me as particularly balanced...which I've always thought was necessary to get the most from the experience. Otherwise I'm guessing it would be unbearably shallow.

To each his own when it comes to kinks and fantasies...but when the by-product of those fantasies is a human life, I have to disagree with it.

[SouthBond]

Originally Posted by sinsinbad

Hi, my girlfriend and I are thinking about getting into swinging, but have concerns about her becoming pregnant. Since I had a vascetomy many years ago, she isn't on the pill. Of course, we would use and insist on condoms, but condoms do break or other accidents.

I guess the best answer is for her to start taking the pill, but I hate for her to take something she doesn't have to.

Any suggestons/ideas?

Thanks

If she gets pregnant and you don't want to keep it, may we suggest the following:


# Suction Aspiration
# Menstrual Extraction
# Dilation & Curettage (D&C)
# Dilation and Evacuation (D&E)
# Saline Abortion
# Urea Abortion
# Prostaglandin Abortion
# Hysterotomy
# Hysterctomy
# Abortion Pill (RU-486)
# Partial Birth Abortion (D&X)

[TerryforSex]

WOW....A BUCH OF no fun people...go get a fun life and quit while ..never mind...

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

WOW....A BUCH OF no fun people...go get a fun life and quit while ..never mind...

Are you fucking kidding me??? You think it's FUN to get pregnant by god knows who? You think having unprotected sex with a lot of different men at once is FUN?

We have a LOT of FUN. RESPONSIBLE people do not go to parties with the intention of possibly getting pregnant (playing Russian-rulet with our bodies), putting ourselves at HIGH risk for an STD (playing with multiple partners is "risky" enough in my book), or having your husband impregnate someone else and having THAT drama for the rest of their lives.

Let's imagine THAT conversation, "yes, Susie, you were conceived during a wild swing party. I'm not sure who your daddy is." OR, having some kid show up on your door step during family dinner hour. "Hi Dad! Oh look! My other brothers and sisters! Hi guys! I'm your dad's child conceived from a wild sex party back in the day."

If this is a FETISH of yours, I can safely answer the question on the "are intellectuals more prone to fetishes" thread. The answer is NO.

Dude. I get the "rush" -- but you've got to think outside your dick every once in a while.

[spectraschain]

WOW....A BUCH OF no fun people...go get a fun life and quit while ..never mind...

[LOL_OMG]

Just an FYI, you guys have totaly hijacked this post. Sin asked a very reasonable question and it's gotten lost.

VCF makes a good foam=spermicide that coupled with condoms would give you a better piece of mind. It also acts as a lubricant.

MR.

[peabody]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

Some people go into Swinging knowing the risks of getting pregnant. There are some parties that are planned I attended where there were really wild rules.

No one could use birth control or condoms. No guys with vasectomys either. This was one Wild party where someone might get pregnant. That was the most extreme I have participated in.

From that one party 4 were pregnant. But that was the risk and before hand knowledge of the risk. Some attended with that intention. Their husbands had low sperm counts so this was better than spending thousands of dollars in a clinic.
Pick your parties and partners wisely.

I have never heard of something like this. I have heard of one couple doing it on the sly to get pregnant, but an entire party dedicated to getting pregant. Can this really be true?

[daisy girl]

I am 34...prime preganancy time, well sort-of. WE don't want children and have been stingent about birth control during the entire time of our relationship.

I think there are lots of benefits to the pill for me. Your partner should go to her doctor and review the risks/benefits of each method and make an informed choice.

Birth-control is serious...it's not fair to bring a new life into the world that is unwanted! As swingers, we owe it to ourselves and our partners to be responsible.

Regarding the "parties without contraception"- sounds like an urban legend.