swinging while pregnant?

[bellajohn]

Do women swing while pregnant? What are the pros (if any) and cons? Is it advisable? Dangers? etc.??? Sorry to sound naive, but we are! Thanks in advance!

Most doctors will tell you that you may continue to have sex until around your last trimester.

I personally believe that sex during pregnancy is not good at all. I firmly believe that the childs mental health is at stake.

Husband of CyberMWCouple

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[lycioos]

Just curious, why would you think that it would affect the childs mental health?
I would think that the biggiest risk would be injuring yourself. You are in a delicate state and while sex itself won't hurt you, you will be with different people other than your husband who may not be as sensitive and gentle with you as he would. Also, Sex can induce contractions toward the end of your pregnacy. Be careful with that. Toward the end of my wifes pregnacy the mid wife told us to "have at it." She said it was a good labor inducer. Tread carefully.

[JustAskJulie]

As far as pros go at least you won't have to worry about getting pregnant.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[bellajohn]

As far as sex in general is concerned during pregnancy, that isn't an issue or a question in our mind. As far as the baby's mental health, that sounds absolutely ridiculous, I've gone to several web sites regarding sex during pregnancy and it is mentioned no where. Just about any doctor will tell you that sex during pregnancy is fine, but there are precautions to take at times and of course you need to be adaptive as far as postions go due to the physical nature of a pregnant woman. Of course there are times whenit is not recommended either, due to the pregnancy and conditions. My wife has a pronounced increase in her sexual appetite while pregnant and she's the first one to admit it.

[lycioos]

If you felt you already had researched it and new the answers, why did you ask for advice?

Originally posted by bellajohn:
As far as the baby's mental health, that sounds absolutely ridiculous

It has been proven that anytime your awareness is reduced thru pain or drugs (and coitus during pregnancy can cause pain), that anything said within your hearing affects your mental state. It is a fact that unborn children are highly susceptable to this, and anything that happens to the child before birth is where the worst mental problems come from.

It's not suprising that you did not find this information online. It is not a very popular fact among the psychology / psychiatry fields as it implies that man is not a stimulus-response animal.

Husband of CyberMWCouple

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Originally posted by lycioos:
If you felt you already had researched it and new the answers, why did you ask for advice?

I agree too!

An added little note to the original poster...I'm sure others have experieced this (or maybe not *lol*), as I have too....

All through our children's early years while growing up, they would ask me about certain things, or recognize certain people/places/things/events/etc....And the only way that they've been "exposed" to these certain "events" (at that point of their childhood), was some time during my pregnancy with them.

I remember asking my parents certain questions too while growing up, and they just gave me this dumbfounded look and said, that that was impossible for me to know this or that, since I wasn't even there, or wasn't even born yet.

Some things that I "remember" was traumatic for me, I thought they were nightmares throughout my childhood, until I finally got old (and bold) enough to ask my parents about these events or so. That's when I started to realize that not only the physical part, but also the "mental & emotional" aspect of an unborn baby is just as critical DURING pregnancy.

Call it what you want ("ridiculous"), but we were just sharing our knowledge & experiences with you, since you DID ask for it.


Wife of CyberMWCouple

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[CanadianCouple]

Wife of CyberMWCouple --

Just me, but I wouldn't be comfortable swinging with a pregnant woman. I'd be too afraid of hurting her somehow.

Dan

[LIZA]

For me an obviously pregnant woman would be a total turn off..............I have BEEN pregnant and toward the end, my sons moved about so energetically that often a foot or elbow would be visible moving across my stomach! I know some men do not want to have sex with their own wife at that time...........let alone strangers! Unless you meet someone with a pregnancy fetish you would just freak a lot of people out!
Early in pregnancy before you are showing, I guess it is ok but I would stick to just touching and oral sex and not have intercourse, it really is not worth the risk involved to have intercourse with different men. Its probably totally safe but do you really HAVE to do it? You are only pregnant for 9 monthes!

[Stratecpl]

Originally posted by lycioos:
Also, Sex can induce contractions toward the end of your pregnacy. Be careful with that. Toward the end of my wifes pregnacy the mid wife told us to "have at it." She said it was a good labor inducer. Tread carefully.

Humm...well that explains why both of mine came the next day after a vigorous night of playing... Had a hot night with hubby at 9 months...next day wham...son 2 years later..hot night with hubby at 8 and half months..wham...daughter.. haha...gee! LOL and oh yes increased sexual appetite during pregnancy..very much so on that one!

Connie

I agree with Liza, and it IS only 9 months, as she mentioned.

And there are pregnancy & sex websites on the net also, along with the fetish of it too.

Again, to each's own...


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LaylaSusanne]

I know, as a nurse, that pregnancy during sex usually does not harm either the woman or the baby. And many women experience an increased sexual appetite, especially during the second trimester.

The obvious caveats to it not doing harm are, of course, if there are any risks involved in the pregnancy, if the woman has had previous miscarriages or preterm labor, or has a low-lying placenta (all things to be checked with your doctor)

Sexual intercourse CAN induce contractions. I also recommend a night of "hot loving" for women who are overdue. But it can also induce contractions in a woman prone to preterm labor. Semen contains prostoglandins, the same hormone secreted by women to begin labor (and for nursing) (that's why sex makes your breasts leak if you're breast-feeding, in case anyone was wondering)

I would also have to agree with Liza, that maybe activities with other men be limited to touching and oral. The actual sexual activity would most likely not be a problem, but sex with other partners DOES carry risks, even WITh protection, and why would you want to take that chance while pregnant?

I also know that pregnant women do turn some men on a LOT. At least, that was MY experience *blush* Be sure the men are gentle with you, and use positions that are comfortable for you. There are plenty of books and websites addressing sex during pregnancy that can offer advice on sexual positions. Myself, I found lying on my side, rear-entry to be the most comfortable. (I had VERY large babies)

Just be careful, and check with your own doctor to be sure sex is okay for you at all.
*and it IS only 9 months*
After that, sex will be the LAST thing on your mind for a while, anyway! SLEEP will take on a MUCH greater importance!

Layla

[bellajohn]

As far as researching things, it was the sex aspect, not the swinging aspect that I referred to earlier. I was wondering if there were any women out there who had done it. It sounds as if it's not very common amongst swingers. Although my wife has indicated that she may want to do it, I'm leaning towards waiting until after the pregnancy. We actually haven't even had our first experience, and I think that it would be best to wait and if the interest is still there, then try later. Thanks to all for the responses.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by bellajohn:
I'm leaning towards waiting until after the pregnancy. We actually haven't even had our first experience, and I think that it would be best to wait and if the interest is still there, then try later. Thanks to all for the responses.

I would probably aggree with that thought. Mainly because you haven't had your first experience yet and you want it to be as good as possible. There's enough to worry about when you are thinking about your first experience without adding the possibilities of what this might do to your pregnancy. Plus you'd hate to get into it in the first couple of months then have to take a few months off for the rest of the pregnancy and possibly lose some good connections you made due to lack of contact.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com