Getting pregnant

[catherine1962]

I am pregnant....I can't believe it......I have always made my partners use condoms...my husbnad doesn't know yet...I just did the Walmart pregnancy test kit and it came back positive.....
What now? I have always prided myself that I make the person I am having sex with use condoms.

[Spoomonkey]

Are you sure this is not your husband's?

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Are you sure this is not your husband's?

Spoomonkey

That's what I'm thinking. What would make you think it is one of your playmates and not your husbands?

Mrs Spoomonkey

[wildwife1010]

We agree with the others, why do you not think it is your hubbys?

[JustAskJulie]

From reading your past posts and your statement that (with the one expection you previously posted about which was too long ago to matter) you have made your swing partners use condoms, I would go on the assumption that it is your husbands.

[confunktion]

Not trying to pile on, catherine, but take a couple of deep breaths and chill for a second...there, that's a little better.

Don't want to sound insensitive to your situation, but we don't know enough about the story here to make a clear call or give you very helpful advice. Why do you feel it's someone else's? What took place in the last X number of days? If I had to read between the lines (not my favorite pastime), it seems as though very recently you had some sort of encounter with another man and did not use protection. Am I right or off-base? We want to help, but we're stuck making assumptions at this point. Help us help you...

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by catherine1962

We always use condoms even though I'm on the pill.

Did you stop taking the pill?

I also, remember your posts from awhile back. You stated your rules were condoms only, and nobody cums inside you but your husband. So, I'm with Julie- it's probably your husband's.

[HotCoupleGnS]

Everyone has there own opinion here on how to handel these types of situations. Here is mine & hubby's opinion. If something were to happen, we would have it taken care of & not have it. This world is cruel & kids already have a lot more to deal with growing up then most of any of us has ever had. (My 16 yr old brother is already into things I am just now finding out about at 22!) Families are so blended & messed up. Working for an attorney that does divorces, I see families fight over kids so nasty like it would make you sick. Hubby & I have our 2 kids. We may want another one, one day. If it were to happen by accident, that would be ok. But I would NEVER take a chance of having a kid that might be antone else's other than my husbands.

Now if you always make every guy use a condom, you might be pretty safe. I would sit down with your hubby & tell him. Then go to your Dr & get a professional test done. When i had my kids, the Dr. was able to tell me my exact conceivment date, within a day or so. That might help you. But as I said the most important thing to do, is t to your hubby. You guys got into this together, so you should deal with problems together.

[J & K]

Yep---we agree with everybody else.

Tell your husband, "We are having a baby". Put a smile on your face when you do it.

We both got "clipped" knowing we were going into this lifestyle and have 4 kids already. We didn't want any accidents to happen since I had a vas 5 yrs before going into this swinging. Condoms work, BUT accidents do happen. If your husband doesn't wear a condom then more-than-likely it is his and present it as his.

Our Motto always is...."You put it in so you might expect something to come out"

Only way to tell if it is your husband's baby is a DNA test afterwards, but go with the mindset it is his and be happy either way.

[Belkin]

Wow. A woman from North Dakota posted she was pregnant from swinging a little over a month ago. Now a woman from South Dakota is pregnant from swinging. We're working our way south!

We're all dying to know: is it possible it is hubby's?

Belkin

[catherine1962]

No, no....you don't understand....my husband had a vacectomy..........I am destroyed.....I don't know what to do.....

[HotCoupleGnS]

my opinion, is to not have it

[biblonde]

how long ago was his surgery? sometimes you can still get prego after that is done...very rare but happens...but please tell him it isnt fair to keep something like this from him. It may be hard and painful but tell!!

[SexAtItsBest]

Well, the wya I see it is it's not like you were out cheating. You have openly been allowed to have sex with other people, so at least that is not an issue.

I am not going to argue the abortion/pro-life debate...but you have options. Number one: tell your husband. From there, just talk. Our bodies make babies sometimes whether we want them to or not. It's okay...

This may be a blessing in disguise, a wakeup call or a call for more attention to the matter of birth control. Whatever it is, if you have a strong relationship, you can talk through it and your options. If you don't want to talk to him, at least go to planned parenthood and talk to them. They have a very easy way of talking through your options/calming you, etc... (gee, my teenage years are visiting me all over again!) But seriously, this can be worked through one way or another...

Good luck! Take a deep breath and all will be okay one way or another. This is a huge oops, but take comfort in the fact that millions and millions of people have been there (including myself though not in the same way).

[Belkin]

Very first thing, tell hubby. The two of you must decide the way forward together. Do research so you know in great detail what your options are.

Only you two can decide what course of action to take. Either choice will be very difficult and I will be giving you all the positive energy I can from my location.

Remember that things are always darkest before the dawn and please feel free to use us as your support system.

We're all behind you Catherine.

-Belkin

PS - any of you have suggestions on where Catherine can look for advice? This is not my area of expertise.