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[JustAskJulie]

Welcome to the Poly Forum. For the most part polyamory and swinging are two separate and distinct lifestyles; however there is a very small segment of each that does overlap. This forum will attempt to address that overlap.

Let’s start with just a basic explanation of what polyamory is and what swinging is. The two essential ingredients of the concept of "polyamory" are "more than one" and "loving." For the most part a polyamory relationship consists of a primary relationship (almost always a couple who lives together) and secondary relationships (which may or may not involve living together).
When polyamorists pursue secondary relationships they may do so together or separately with couples or individuals. Each person involved pursues their own relationships for the most part. Swinging of course is the desire of couples/individuals to experience having sexual activity outside of their relationship without the emotional attachments.

There are a small percentage of people in the swing lifestyle who desire to have a form of emotional attachment with the people they play with. “Poly Swingers” is the term used for this area where Polyamory and Swinging overlap. These relationships could be in the form of close friends or a romantic connection “i.e. dating”. This may or may not become an exclusive relationship. People who are Poly Swingers desire to establish a loving relationship with the people they swing with. Poly Swingers tend to look for some type of emotional attachment. They may not require it to swing, but they are open to letting it develop as things go along. They see emotional attachments as a natural progression. But it’s important to emphasis that most people who develop close friendships within the lifestyle are not poly swingers.

These have only been brief general basic explanations of Polyamory, Swinging and Poly Swinging. They are by no mean a “right way” or “only way” these relationships happen. However, like everything in Polyamory and the Swinging Lifestyle, each couple/individual has a different idea on what Polyamory and Swinging is and how it works for them.

We welcome any and all comments, questions & general posts. We are not experts by any means; however we do live in a poly and swinging relationship, so have first hand knowledge of a wide variety of the issues, challenges and joys faced in both lifestyles.

There have been numerous posts already on various aspects of this so please be sure to use the “search” option on the menu bar to hunt out topics related to your question. If you can not locate what you are looking for or an answer then please feel free to start your own new thread.

IMPORTANT THREADS
Users Guide: How to use the board.
Expected Behaviour On the Swingers Board


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