Taking the next step

[Tadahiko]

well we are going to take our three way relationship to the next level...anna's moving in with us later this year. it just makes sense now.

while todd was over seas, anna and i were basically a lesbian couple. she slept in my bed 4-5 nights a week. once todd got back i realy missed not having her around so much and started discussing the idea seriously with todd. everything fits now. we moved to a new house last fall that is in a completely different part of town from anna's...we used to be just a couple of miles away. anna's daughter is on out her own and our son has enlisted in the military and will be leaving home this fall.

we were concerned what our daughter would say. we asked her how she felt about aunt anna coming to live with us. her response was to ask if she was still going to get her bothers room in the basement.

anna was concerned about feeling she was going to feel like she was in someone elses territory, which really surprised me. she needed some reassurance that we would find room for all her stuff, that she would be a full partner in the household and would not just control over one little room.

as part of all this, i have fiinally started identifying myself as a lesbian, which is really what i am. it wont have any impact on my marriage to todd or our sexual relationship, but i have to be honest about what i am attracted to. sex for us has never been about penetration all that much anyway.i love todd and love being intimate with him, hes the greatest husband and father and friend i could wish for. but men in general dont turn me on. i dont crave cock like i know anna does. from the time i was 14, i have lusted for women and never really got hot over men, no matter how pretty their face. i have a fascination with pussies. both mine and other ladies. the site of a bald beaver with proud lips does it for me in a way no cock ever has, even todds. when i go online, i am always searching for pretty girls and especially gg stuff. todd is supportive and encouraging and accepting. the fact that hes going to have a true bi cockhound in the house 24-7 probably is softening the blow a bit!

[SecretAsianMan]

Best of luck to all of you. I with y'all nothing but happiness & blissful times ahead

[ncmd_couple]

Kari,

Having someone else living in your home is a different situation. I don't know if you have ever had someone else living in your home other than your husband and kids, but it is a different situation. I have had that, and though it went well, after time, when they left, I was glad that they did.

The key is that all of you have your eyes open and continue to openly discuss and deal with issues, and not let them fester.

Good Luck!!

S

[Tadahiko]

yea, its a little bit scary. but life is scary. and this is the next step for us, we all agree.

anna has never been a stranger in our home. ive been her best friend since before either of us had tits. ive spent almost as much time with her in our married life as i do todd. five years ago, she probably spent one or two nights a week at our house. a year ago, it was more like two to three. last winter is was pretty much full time. she has a dresser full of clothes here already, a draw full of her stuff in the bathroom, and she knows where everything is in the kitchen. she already stocks stuff in the fridge regularly. she is going to contribute to the mortgage and utilities as soon as she sells her condo. Fortunately, we dont have to rush that.

if it cant work for the three of us, my view is that it basically wont work for anybody.

[slevin]

Originally Posted by Tadahiko

yea, its a little bit scary. but life is scary. and this is the next step for us, we all agree.

anna has never been a stranger in our home. ive been her best friend since before either of us had tits. ive spent almost as much time with her in our married life as i do todd. five years ago, she probably spent one or two nights a week at our house. a year ago, it was more like two to three. last winter is was pretty much full time. she has a dresser full of clothes here already, a draw full of her stuff in the bathroom, and she knows where everything is in the kitchen. she already stocks stuff in the fridge regularly. she is going to contribute to the mortgage and utilities as soon as she sells her condo. Fortunately, we dont have to rush that.

if it cant work for the three of us, my view is that it basically wont work for anybody.

Have you planned for the possibility that it doesn't work out? If she is contributing to the mortgage, what do you do about that equity if she moves out?

[funcoupledayton]

Good luck to you guys. Sounds like a fun adventure!

[gatorvol64]

Best of luck to you all!

[Tadahiko]

Originally Posted by slevin

Have you planned for the possibility that it doesn't work out? If she is contributing to the mortgage, what do you do about that equity if she moves out?

yes, we're working though a lot of of those sort of questions. as far as the housing issue, its come up before and it part of why this is happening now. when we built our dream home back in 2002 and it had a large guest room with its own bath and balcony that was designed with anna and her daughter in mind and it became her room at our house. but like a lot of people at the time, we built more house than we could afford long term and we were forced to put it on the market. we talked several times about having her move in then, but it never went any further. we sold it a couple of months before todd went over seas and we bought a 2 bedroom ranch in an older section of town. it is a lovely home and very affordable but it is a lot, lot smaller. we let our son turn the finished basement into his bedroom, so anna slept in my bed while todd was in europe. now that he's back, she is forced to sleep on the living room couch, which i hate. it made me realize how much a part of our family she already is. i sorta regret selling our old house now, cause she could have helped us keep it, but we all love our little house now to and the good side of it is that shes now moving in strictly for love, not for any economic reasons. we dont have any money pressures as we work all this sort of stuff out.

[ncmd_couple]

Tadahiko,

Why don't the three adults turn the basement into a suite for you three and let your son have a bedroom upstairs?

S

[Tadahiko]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

Tadahiko,

Why don't the three adults turn the basement into a suite for you three and let your son have a bedroom upstairs?

S

our son has enlisted in the navy and will be leaving in late sept.
our daughter will get the basement and anna will move into her old room across the hall from ours

although your idea for a suite is kinda cool...we could have to do some remodeling but there is plenty of room for a big bathroom...hmmmmmm now you got me thinking...

[swmnkdinthervr]

Originally Posted by funcoupledayton

Good luck to you guys. Sounds like a fun adventure!

It really does! We have been considering this course for a while now, it seem natural to us both to want to include another in our arms/heart. Now finding that "other" is the challenge!

Good Luck!!!