Polyamory Third is Encroaching

[YZF]

Mrs. YZF here. Earlier today I answered a post and when I looked at what I wrote I realized something that I had not wanted to admit to myself.

The very first time I had sex with YZF was the night we first met. We had chatted online for a couple of weeks and finally got together. We went to a movie and then to dinner and I found him incredibly charming and cute. He was so not my type. He was a cowboy wearing a ponytail that went down to his belt.

We went down to the local riverwalk and walked for hours. Talking, sitting on benches for a while and we finally made it back to his motel room. The whole time we spoke about getting together I had been adamant that there was going to be no sex on the first date. When we got to his room he kissed me and was reluctantly going to let me leave. I had decided once I met him that I was horny for this guy.

I shoved him back on the bed, straddled him, opened his snap western shirt and bit him on the chest. If that was not enough to give him the idea of what I wanted, I pulled off my t-shirt and bra and pressed my boobs to his face.

I rode him like that after putting his cowboy hat on. Here is the start of my problem. When he started to come, I slid down his body and took him in my mouth. When he came, I swallowed everything he had for me. He loved it and I fulfilled a fantasy I had had for a long time.

We went out for a while then got married and I would do this a couple of times a month. I got alot of enjoyment out of it. We got into swinging and while I have taken many loads in my mouth, I never slid down and took one when my partner was about to cum from fucking me. Thing is, I had never thought about doing it and never wanted to. It is something that has never come up. Though I have do it a couple of times with YZF at parties and stuff. I guess it is just something that I have subsonsciously kept as an intimacy between YZF and me. It is not something that I ever want to do, plan to do or think about doing. It just happens. Who knows, maybe with the right play partner it may happen also.

Last year Quita our polymory third came to us and we have been living together for almost a year. I do not mind sharing YZF with anyone and it was me insisting that Quita stay anyway. But there have been times when I have been riding YZF, gotten ready to slide down and give him our special finish and she is there to beat me to his cock or we share when he comes. I do not mind and in fact enjoy when we give him a blow job together and she swallows every last drop. Or he fucks both of us and he cums in her pussy or ass, but god dammit, this special finish is mine and I can't have it like I want.

Am I just being petty here or what?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by YZF

Last year Quita our polymory third came to us and we have been living together for almost a year. I do not mind sharing YZF with anyone and it was me insisting that Quita stay anyway. But there have been times when I have been riding YZF, gotten ready to slide down and give him our special finish and she is there to beat me to his cock or we share when he comes. I do not mind and in fact enjoy when we give him a blow job together and she swallows every last drop. Or he fucks both of us and he cums in her pussy or ass, but god dammit, this special finish is mine and I can't have it like I want.

Am I just being petty here or what?

I think you just like telling your story.

Reminiscing can be satisfying for those telling their story.

I don't think you have a problem, based on what you've written.

LM

[BiloxiCouple]

Don't have to be petty.

Just tell her how you feel. He is still your husband. I think you are still entitled to certain things.

[ncmd_couple]

Quita is in reality new to your relationship. She isn't encroaching on you, she is sharing with you. I'm sure that there are times where you are with him alone, those are your special times, and those are the times where you can do that.

S

[two4youinswva]

I'm trying to figure out how it is physically possible for her to get to his dick before you do. If you are on top, and then slide down his body, his dick is never exposed, making it impossible for anyone else to bogart the penis.
The only way I can see her getting to it first, is if she literally pushes you off the bed, and him, as you are about to dismount.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I think you just like telling your story.

Ditto.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by YZF

But there have been times when I have been riding YZF, gotten ready to slide down and give him our special finish and she is there to beat me to his cock or we share when he comes. I do not mind and in fact enjoy when we give him a blow job together and she swallows every last drop. Or he fucks both of us and he cums in her pussy or ass, but god dammit, this special finish is mine and I can't have it like I want.

Am I just being petty here or what?

Tell her that when she sees you sliding down like that it's yours.

[YZF]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

I'm trying to figure out how it is physically possible for her to get to his dick before you do. If you are on top, and then slide down his body, his dick is never exposed, making it impossible for anyone else to bogart the penis.
The only way I can see her getting to it first, is if she literally pushes you off the bed, and him, as you are about to dismount.



Ditto.

Mrs. YZF here. Usually she is either on his face and 69ing him as I get off from time to time or she is beside us. YZF will pull out (or I will get off) and she will suck on him before guiding him back into me. When I dismount she is right there. And there are times that I slide down his body and do not mind sharing so it really is not Quita's fault either.

I have never said anything about it. YZF and I have never even discussed it. It is just something I do for him and no one else. And as I said before, it happens in the moment. It just hits me to do this. I am usually down his body and on his dick before I even realize it. I doubt it, but I could do this with a play partner someday and I do not think that YZF would mind. I probably get more enjoyment out of this than he does.

[ebsfgncu]

If you've already entered into this poly relationship then communication had to be wide open. Use that and tell her what you feel! Don't be afraid to claim a move or favorite item as yours. Hell she may have some preferences too that you don't know about. Talk it out....

[YZF]

Originally Posted by ebsfgncu

If you've already entered into this poly relationship then communication had to be wide open. Use that and tell her what you feel! Don't be afraid to claim a move or favorite item as yours. Hell she may have some preferences too that you don't know about. Talk it out....

Mrs. YZF here. A slight problem with our communication is that Quita does not speak English and I do not speak Spanish. And I guess I need to be a litttle more forceful. She has already let me know, with body language and by pushing me away when she wants to enjoy YZF by herself and I respect that. I just haven't made it known to her.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by YZF

Mrs. YZF here. A slight problem with our communication is that Quita does not speak English and I do not speak Spanish. And I guess I need to be a litttle more forceful. She has already let me know, with body language and by pushing me away when she wants to enjoy YZF by herself and I respect that. I just haven't made it known to her.

So who is doing the translating?

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by YZF

Mrs. YZF here. A slight problem with our communication is that Quita does not speak English and I do not speak Spanish.

I'm wondering how you can have an effective polyamorous relationship for almost a year with someone you can't communicate with in words. After all, living with someone is about more than physical contact. Even if Mr YZF can speak Spanish, how can you two women be two thirds of a triad without being able to talk to each other? And isn't about time you both started learning the other's language? Just thinking it might make the long-term success of this arrangement more likely.

[YZF]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

So who is doing the translating?

Mrs. YZF here. Mr. YZF speaks four languages fluently and he has no trouble communicating with Quita. I have using the Roseta Stone program and it is helping. I think it is more that I am uncomfortable making my feelings known about certain things than I admit to myself.

I am not far enough along in my Spanish to articulate what is upsetting me in a neutral setting and I do not want to blurt out, "No slurpo cummo" in the middle of sex.

We get along great together and she has been a great addition. Sometimes we can't wait for YZF to get out of the house so we can play and it be just us two.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by YZF

Mrs. YZF here. Usually she is either on his face and 69ing him as I get off from time to time or she is beside us. YZF will pull out (or I will get off) and she will suck on him before guiding him back into me. When I dismount she is right there. And there are times that I slide down his body and do not mind sharing so it really is not Quita's fault either.

That still doesn't explain it. If you are in the cowgirl position on him, and slide down his body, there is no way she can get to his dick without pushing you off.


With all due respect, you three can't get through this basic, small problem you're having in the bedroom, but Mr YZF is planning on publishing a book on swinging?
Good luck with that.

[YZF]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

That still doesn't explain it. If you are in the cowgirl position on him, and slide down his body, there is no way she can get to his dick without pushing you off.


With all due respect, you three can't get through this basic, small problem you're having in the bedroom, but Mr YZF is planning on publishing a book on swinging?
Good luck with that.

Mrs. YZF here. If I lay flat on YZF before sliding down, she can't beat me to it. If I stay sitting up when I slide down she can do it easily. When I want to do it, I should not have to worry about it either way. I want it for me.

The comminication problem is not between the three of us because I have not discussed it with either Quita or YZF. It is just something that has been bothering me and I have kept it to myself until I brought it up here. YZF's book is not on swinging, it is a novel. He already bought a pipe and a tweed jacket with patches on the elbows. If his book does well there will be no living with him.