Interesting Article on Polyamory found on msnbc.com

[jennandjamesinm]

I have two husbands: A polygamist’s diary - TODAY: Relationships- msnbc.com

Although the site calls it polygamy, its really about polyamory. It's an interesting read, plus the comments are generally supportive.

Jenn

[ncmd_couple]

A very interesting article, thank you for posting it. What she describes is what I would expect a healthy poly family.

S

[lustylearning]

That was interesting - complex and difficult to make work, but interesting. Poly families must compromise so much.

[gatorvol64]

Originally Posted by lustylearning

That was interesting - complex and difficult to make work, but interesting. Poly families must compromise so much.

Just so I understand what you are saying....compromise how?

Vol

[WesternSwing]

I also was surprised at the number of positive responses on such a public news site. You expect it from Ask Dan & Jennifer because of who their readers are, but not MSNBC.

Also, I don't think there is any more compromise is poly relationships than in any other relationship. Compromise elludes to giving-up something to gain something. I don't see how there is amy more giving-up in a poly situation than in a one-on-one relationship. More coordination? Yes. More compromise? No.

[lustylearning]

Originally Posted by gatorvol64

Just so I understand what you are saying....compromise how?

Vol

Individual compromise - the good of the many, or in this case, the others, outweighs the good of the few, or in this case, the self. There is compromise in any relationship, but self-interest, I imagine, is more greatly diminished in a polygamous family than a monogamous family. Time and resources can only be split so far.

[gatorvol64]

I don't think we compromise more necessarily. We schedule more. But it isn't a compromise to see Gator happy with Kitten. Are you talking about something like the time I would have spent with him he now spends part of that with her? I spend time with Tech. It's all about seeing each other happy. And isn't that what's important in a monogamous relationship as well? Do we compromise on some things? Sure. But I wouldn't say more than Gator and I compromised on our own. It's just different in a way I'm not good at explaining.

Vol

[Tadahiko]

As part of a three-way relationship, I can say that I feel lucky that I don't feel there's any compromise...it's all plus. My wife and I love and are committed to each other first. That's understood. Anna, our lover, is happy being single and doesn't want to have a full-time housemate, to say nothing of a husband. Sexually, my wife is "meh" on penetration - Anna and I love deep stroking more than anything. Our threesomes are usually me and Anna on the bed, and my wife in the recliner with a vibrator. She gets off on masturbating while watching us, and watching her heightens sex for us. (The image of my wife nude, spread eagle, in the throes of multiple orgasms, is still one of the things that makes life worth living.) Anna has been my wife Kari's "BFF" since they were 14, and she was my girlfriend before I hooked up with Kari. When Anna's daughter was younger, we babysat her quite often. For a single mom, that was invaluable.

I don't know, for us it just works.
But like I said, I am about the luckiest guy on earth.