The overlap between swinging and polyamory

[mick2150]

I'm not a prolific poster, however I do read and I suppose, 'lurk' at times; & then, every now & again I get this 'note' & I am encouraged to come back & post again - OK, so since I have no problem with that, here is another post (BTW, I really do 'get' the openness & honesty in the swinger LS, it is where we poly's - maybe "sw'olys" - really do overlap.)

For those on SB, who are OK & comfortable leaning towards the poly world, there really is a lot going on in the mainstream media; NYC Pride w/end attracted a great deal of coverage, most of which was either open, supportive, but very little really negative stuff.

As a polygeezer (google it!) who has been open to the concept of poly before the word was coined, I am, in my maturity, really happy to see that at least a small but significant group of thinkers are breaking out of the undergrowth and presenting a balanced view of some alternative lifestyles.

Main point for me is that if 50%+ of marriages are ending up on the rocks, then we need to step back & re-think this mantra. (OK I am a sailor from waaay back!)

And this board is a great spot to present ideas - ways of life that can & do work positively in various modes in the world of 'alternative' lifestyles.

<< There now Julie, you got me back on the board & posting again!! >>>

Just trying to start an open & constructive post with those of us that 'get' and are OK with the poly-leaning end of the spectrum.

M.

[ncmd_couple]

Hi Mick,

Glad to see that you posted! Being poly is as varied as being a swinger I think. There are purist in both groups, and there are those like me who understand both lifestyles. There is a lady who is in our life who at one time could possibly have joined with us. But unfortunately, life and time doesn't allow that as a possibility anymore. There are several folks here who are in poly/swinger relationships.

S

[JustAskJulie]

That overlap is exactly why we have this forum here. It wasn't here for a long time but overtime we noticed more and more couples who were here that while they considered themselves swingers, they leaned more towards poly type relationships and because of that felt they didn't fit in here. The hope was that in adding this section to the forums, it would allow those couples (and others like them) to feel more comfortable here.

Now stick around and keep posting

[WesternSwing]

Mick2150, you are very right about the cross-over. Although some swingers recoil in fear of any mention of the word "emotions" regarding their relationships with others, many have found that they like some kind of connection with their swing partners beyond just a fuck with no last name. Some develop friendships, some take it further. Mrs. and I fall into the cross-over in that although we started as swingers and maintain a sexually open relationship, if and when poly situations arise we are totally okay with them, and we do indeed welcome them.

Thanks for posting again.

Mr. WS

[TheDeal]

The crossover point is definitely the more popular thing. Actually, I believe most folks that swing are really overlappers with poly. I find it unnatural to share only the physical and to leave out the emotional. Half the fun of new people is the emotional connection. It just makes the sex that much better. Also as humans, it's hard to not develop feelings for other people we share such a physical entanglement with.

G