opening the door

[curiouscpl72]

Hello-

My husband and myself, after much deliberation, have decided to give open marriage a shot....it seems our relationship is ever changing on this path,( elementary my dear watson!)and here we are with the doors (and windows)opening up.I know we haven't posted much here, before this, well I had felt pretty intimidated, as Ive said in another thread amounting to shyness(yea me ha.)At any rate, I have an encounter on friday,see how it goes!

P

[3sumff]

Good luck! I am sure you don't need any advice, but all I want to say is keep all communication lines open.
Even after a short time of being in the swing life. Well I should say being in the swing life off and on for the past 5 years. Things have changed a lot in our relationship! We have opened our relationship to an open status also. Actually, she is meeting a man to play with on her own tonight. I am truly excited by it and excited for her. Nothing makes me more happy to have her get her thrills. I have been lucky enough to play on my own also. It brings a different aspect to the relationship....absolute trust! Well like I said, "good luck," and hope you have a very good experience.

[fun4Ds]

Hey, don't be shy around here

If I may ask, how has this moved in this direction ?

Are you now playing alone and single without your partner there at all ?

Is this date with someone new ? or are you going with someone you've know together, in the previous swinging you have done this far ?

[3sumff]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Hey, don't be shy around here

If I may ask, how has this moved in this direction ?

Are you now playing alone and single without your partner there at all ?

Is this date with someone new ? or are you going with someone you've know together, in the previous swinging you have done this far ?

We have been talking about this since the beginning. We are keeping things open to everything. Playing on our own, playing together, what ever sounds good to us at the moment.
I think we would only play with someone we felt comfortable with. Friend or someone from a previous swinging experience.

[mervsmom97]

Good luck and keep us updated!

[curiouscpl72]

hey guys and gals-

well to start, my husband and I have been together for fifteen years...we've spoken for years of swinigng(I was a rather wild young lady and had many interesting encounters before we got together.)So about four or so years ago after I had my daughter we began our adventures together.In recent months we have spoken of a completely open marriage,and now have embarked on this route....Friday night was incredible.I chose well, the man I picked to be my first solo was great, respectful, generous lover,and well endowed to say the least.Im hoping My J can find a suitable playmate,whenever he decides he wants to go solo as well.Funny because I planted the seed with my tales of my youth, and J was the one who put into words our dual desire to swing and even after it was he who suggested open marriage tho I was definitely thinking it.he knows me so well it seems he knows my deepest desires.From here, who knows where our road will go?

[WesternSwing]

curiouscpl72, it's great to hear you had a good experience the other night and it sounds like you to are well on your way to some happy and healthy explorations together.

Mr. WS

[avid]

Very cool that you both have found something that works for you, uniquely.

Are you planning to enter long-term relationships with the others that you've met? I'm curious how you see this entering the realm of polyamory.

[curiouscpl72]

he mentioned (as far as polyamory is concerned)that it is sure that we would grow to care those we encounter on a regular basis, and I agree....as far as love honor obey etc...I don't believe we would share that part of our lives with others.If we were to start to have deeper feelings for some play partners it would mean time to rethink that particular relationship as we do not wish to lose ourselves to others; it is an interesting subject to ponder.I do not wish to fall in love with another person than my spouse,though I have affection for some that I play with.This is an exciting venture-

P

[avid]

Gotcha.

I believe this to be much closer to swinging than it is to polyamory. Poly is about letting someone in, and allowing those feelings of love. The idea that you can love more than one person, in a deep and meaninful way, is central.

[3sumff]

Late Update!
My Gf's experience wasn't the greatest time, but she also said it wasn't a bad time either. Perhaps it was the first time jitters. Who knows! This was her first experience with another man. She has played with other couples before and had good experience with that situation. She is definitely keeping the option open for another time with a single man. I know the other guy and I appreciated the fact he was true gentlemen to my gf. Overall, it was nice...since I was able to play with her when she got home. It was a very nice story to hear and it was nice to feel her excitement before we had sex.

[GoNatural]

curiouscpl72, congratulations for opening the door and taking steps to experience an open relationship. Thanks for replying back with a response also. I'm glad to hear that you were very satisfied with your experience! Oh, and he was well endowed. Now that would have been fun to watch. Ok,ok, you wanted it to be one one one...so...lol...

[dnmnms]

Actually we initially decided to live an open marriage. Neither of us acted upon it but knew that if the situation came up the other was ok with it. Discussed that in our opinion alot of marriages split because people confused love/lust. We knew that you could totally be in love with each other but yet be sexually turned on to another.
Well, when we spoke more about it we then decided that it swinging was more what we wanted. We both enjoy seeing the other on pleased.
Glad that we have forums where we can see all the opinions that others face. Really helps when you hear others talk about things that you cant just talk about with anyone LOL.

Melody