my poly experience

[raziel]

i am married, and love my wife dearly . our relationship has always been open and we also decided that we were capable of loving others as well as each other.its been sort of hard for her to find another guy who gets this and will form an emotional bond with her. i do not seem to have this trouble, as i have 2 other "girlfriends"

is this a common thing for women in a poly relationship?
i dont know
most of the couples our age seem very immature and look at it ike a game.
even when we make it clear at the begining we are looking for an emotional experience as well as a sexual one

ah well such is life i suppose

personally i have found it very emotionally fulfilling

each person i love dearly and would do anything for her

[TheDeal]

To each his own, but... When we decided to look at swinging and then at poly, we determined the best, albeit slowest process would be a team approach. We wouldn't try and find others that were not connected. I have seen several poly persons that are in a chain of him + her + her + him +... I know of one group that each person is connected to only one other person and there a five all together. I know everyone has different tastes and tolerances, but I would hate to be in a position where I was splitting my time between my wife and some other girl(s) and she had only me. Actually, that happened with the foursome I was in and it was not fun at all! We feel that if we can't go at it as a team with another couple, then we won't do it at all. I know that tends to be real popular with swingers, and maybe easier that way too, but... I wish you both luck on finding a balance.

G

[WesternSwing]

I blogged recently about this under the title Men vs Women and finding partners in open relationships. It can be hard both ways. I did not get into the finding another male thing too much in that blog because that is a subject on it's own. It is hard to find another guy that "gets it". Most only want to non-committed sex with your partner; a fuck em' and forget em' thing. It seems many guys looking to get with couples are thinking with their dick and nothing else (which is why Uomo's post is so great, he verbalized it very well).

For us it is important that our thirds are also our primary's friend. We want to be a group, not just someone one of us sees alone all the time and the other never gets to know them. And we also have seen many poly relationships this way.

All I can say is "keep looking, eventually you'll find the right guy".

Mr. WS