Interested in learning how to have a poly-relationship!

[blue_eyez]

Hi, Amanda!

I'll (male half) echo what others have said here--that you may find it difficult to actively seek a poly relationship... that you may have more luck letting it come to you. That was our experience.

Naturally, I have my primary relationship with my wife. We also have many mutual friends, one of whom is a single female. I was the closest to her and we would get together regularly (with my wife's knowledge) without there being any physical element to the relationship. Eventually, we all became closer as friends and then one evening we all mutually agreed to break the physical boundary, so to speak. It wasn't a conscious effort to make this happen; our relationship simply evolved that way. The relationship continues to ebb and flow.

So maybe there's someone you're already close to who could be a possibility for an expanded relationship--one that evolves from a traditional friendship into something more--with a little nudging on your part.

I would love to hear how things are going since your original post.

[txcplbiwife]

Originally Posted by blue_eyez

Hi, Amanda!

I'll (male half) echo what others have said here--that you may find it difficult to actively seek a poly relationship... that you may have more luck letting it come to you. That was our experience.

Naturally, I have my primary relationship with my wife. We also have many mutual friends, one of whom is a single female. I was the closest to her and we would get together regularly (with my wife's knowledge) without there being any physical element to the relationship. Eventually, we all became closer as friends and then one evening we all mutually agreed to break the physical boundary, so to speak. It wasn't a conscious effort to make this happen; our relationship simply evolved that way. The relationship continues to ebb and flow.

So maybe there's someone you're already close to who could be a possibility for an expanded relationship--one that evolves from a traditional friendship into something more--with a little nudging on your part.

I would love to hear how things are going since your original post.

Thanks for writing, I met this one guy that has totally caught my attention. He is married and they do swing. I was hoping that it would be a 4some. Not sure at this time if that will work or not. I have been doing alot of thinking on the dementions of the relationship that is already there. I know I want more but does he or they? I know my hubby was like really into her too and wanted to get to know her better but was having some difficulties in doing so. So in all truths... not sure where things are at , kinda thinking we all need to sit down and talk..
If this couple isn't wanting what we want then we will continue to search for a couple, or companionship with male/female looking for the same type of relationship we are..
I truelly appreciate you writing..
"A"