Vacations in a poly relationship......

[mwc_mich]

I think the title of this thread defines my response. When I've truly had a poly "relationship" I've wanted to spend some time alone and away from my everyday life with my boyfriend. Vacations are one of the things that take dating to the level of a true relationship. When I ask my husband if I can take a trip with a friend he knows that I'm serious about the person I'm seeing that I need to spend the time away. Although he's never said no, it gives him a signal that I'm more serious about the person I'm seeing and is a point where he has some say in my realtionship.

If you are poly you know how difficult it is to juggle more than one relationship. Its really nice to just get away and enjoy each other for a while and connect and focus on the person in front of me. On vacation I try and maintain good contact with my husband but its not constant... calls are pretty infrequent and I try to be discrete about them too. I am lucky to be married to someone that understands and lets me take the time to spend developing my relationships into more than just casual friendships.

As far as my husband coming along, we've talked about that and vacationing as a triad is not something that we would do. It kind of defeats the purpose of the vacation as well. Vacations with friends are infrequent enough and usually different enough from things that we like to do together that its never really been an issue between us.

[gatorvol64]

I'm a bit of a greedy thing I guess. I like time with all four of us on a trip, I like time with just my two men and myself and I like time with each of them separately.

I see no reason not to have it any of those ways as long as everyone is ok with it.