Poly partners and age gaps

[jon0468]

As I listed in an earlier post, I commented that my wife's OSO was younger than she is. I was wondering, what kinds of age gaps are out there? And what kinds of other "issues" this brings to your poly relationship? I feel that most of the poly community is accepting of anything, as long as it is legal, not hurtful of anyone and all parties are adults. I am concerned more about how people will view us with the age difference being so big, than I am over how people will view us for being poly. Actually, I don't worry too much about who knows what, lol, but I am curious to know how my life can change when we come out, and she openly refers to him as her boyfriend instead of best friend.


Thanks again!


John

[intensity_too]

My boyfriend is 18 years older than I. My hubby's girlfriend is 14 years older than he. I wouldn't say we are "out". Hubby is much more "out" than I am for certain reasons.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Well Mr. Menage is 46 and Mrs. Menage is 31 and I'm 45. Most people "assume" Mr. Menage and I are the "Married" couple because of our ages.....lol

intensity_too I'm curious as to what your certain reasons are for not being as "out" about your relationship. Is it work, comfort level in general, etc......

Thanks.

The Other Mrs. Menage

[intensity_too]

I'm setting myself up for an ass kicking here . . . . . but here it goes.

My hubby is involved with a women who is very out about being poly and her husband is very supportive of the relationship she has with my hubby.

I'm involved with a man who is poly . . . . it's just that his live in girlfriend doesn't know he is.

I think that explains enough.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by intensity_too

I'm setting myself up for an ass kicking here . . . . . but here it goes.

My hubby is involved with a women who is very out about being poly and her husband is very supportive of the relationship she has with my hubby.

I'm involved with a man who is poly . . . . it's just that his live in girlfriend doesn't know he is.

I think that explains enough.

I am a little confused. I am not being rude, I have my share of 's in my past so I can't question yours, I just can't make sence of this.

You are married..with a live in girlfriend(for him). He also has a female friend that is married to another man. So, Is that three women in his life. You, the "poly friend", and the live in girlfriend.
You and the "poly friend" know about the girlfriend, but she does not know about the "polyfriend". Am I any where near?
If not and you don't care to elaborate, that is fine. I am trying to get a clear picture and nothing else. Like I said my skeltons would wag a boney finger if I ever questioned anyone on their life choices.
Your friend,
Prettylady

PS. If I used "Polyfriend" in a way that is offencive PLEASE let me know. Like I have said in other threads, I am still learning "lifestyle" manners.

[prettylady]

OH,
Sorry, never mind, I reread the post really slow and now I get it.
It is YOUR friend that has the girlfriend.
It was one of those, my sisters friends brothers uncles grandfather, kind of things for me. :rollseyes
Your friend,
Prettylady
I have nothing intelligant to add.
So, I hope all works out for the best for all parties concerned.
Be careful my friend.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[jon0468]

Not as unusual as I thought. My wife's boyfriend is 20 years younger than she, which is not too far off from an 18 year difference, lol. Again, thanks for the input and I look forward to reading more.

[flirty]

There is now a term for women who date younger guys....they call us "cougars" lol ...oh well at least I like cats!

My boyfriend is much younger than me, it was part of his original charm....of course there is much, much more depth than that now. My husband (married 16 years) is one year younger than me, but when I met him he was much younger than I in terms of relationship experience, so in a lot of ways he seemed younger than his actual age. facelick

My daughter is 14 years younger than her husband,, the hardest part for her was when people didn't take her seriously due to her young age. They married when she was 16 and will be married for 10 years this June.

I say if they can handle poly they can handle the age differences.

[jon0468]

some info that may be related somewhat to this thread, I posted in my other thread, the one involving discrimination etc. check it out if you are following any of this.

:-)

[Orchid]

My OSO is 12 years older than I am. He is also 6'5" while I am a mere 5'(almost ). We haven't really been out and about yet so I haven't experienced any discriminations as of yet, but I'm sure that I will, (even if they are just figments of my somewhat overactive imaginations) and when that happens I will come running here to post about it. I also happen to look like I am much younger than I am, and sound even younger than I am, which can be quite handy when telemarketers call and ask if my "mommy" is home. I just say "no" and hang up!!

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by Orchid

I also happen to look like I am much younger than I am, and sound even younger than I am, which can be quite handy when telemarketers call and ask if my "mommy" is home. I just say "no" and hang up!!

Lucky girl!!!!!!!!!!!! I wish I had that problem. LOL - Seriously we look forward to hearing from you when and if you ever need to "vent".

The Menage's

[Twolovers01]

Originally Posted by jon0468

As I listed in an earlier post, I commented that my wife's OSO was younger than she is. I was wondering, what kinds of age gaps are out there? And what kinds of other "issues" this brings to your poly relationship? I feel that most of the poly community is accepting of anything, as long as it is legal, not hurtful of anyone and all parties are adults. I am concerned more about how people will view us with the age difference being so big, than I am over how people will view us for being poly. Actually, I don't worry too much about who knows what, lol, but I am curious to know how my life can change when we come out, and she openly refers to him as her boyfriend instead of best friend.


Thanks again!


John

Well Mrs. Twolovers01 OSO is 5 1/2 years older than her. Mr. Twolovers01 OSO is only 1 1/2 years older than me.

As far as any other problems with poly relationships we haven't run into any yet. As far as we know only one couple from outside the lifestyle knows about our poly relationship. Both of us have children from previous relationships. So we have to be very carefull of allowing anyone to know about our lifestyle....Due to the possibilities of problems with the law/court about custody issues, we keep it very quiet.

If it wasn't for the children of our other relationships I would like to be alot more open about it.

[luvscum1]

Hello group
We are an older couple, Been swingers 40+ years. I think we also qualify as being polys. Many (maybe most ) of the men and couples we see have been much much more than just sex partners. Some we have had as friends and that does include Sex for most of that time (40 years)We do many things as a family.camping , dining out, little league, soccer moms and dads, sleep overs,our extended family is
very large, I have been addicted to cocks and cum for many years now, I am a cock and cum slut lol. But we love it, Bob my husband loves to see me with other men and makes most of the meatings