My GF Is Lonely

[eurotrash]

Interesting.

Why do you think this?

Originally Posted by mackie44

Eurotrash,

I just get the feeling that your girlfriend is more comfortable with women and may be simply depending on you to provide for her financially etc. I could be wrong but this is the impression I'm getting.

[Kilauea]

I'm glad to hear it worked out for you, but it sounds to me like you may have broached the subject without enough grace. Then again, I only know how it was brought up to me so I don't know how most people can have the discussion (I don't know if I could ever bring it up myself).

Again, congrats on the success.

[eurotrash]

How was it brought up to you?

[empedocles]

Pick:

Your job or your girlfriend

You don't seem to be in a position to have both. What's more important to you at this stage of your life?

[Soapbubbles]

My husband works in the oil field so I have lots of long lonely nights. What I do is find an adult chatroom, and get on the webcam. I still have to go to bed alone but I don't feel ignored and I'm sexually satisfied by the end of the night. Of course, I'm into exhibitionism so it works for me.

I think being away from hubby for so long makes us even closer when he gets back. The missing him is almost worth the wonderful feeling I get when he comes home.

[Tom4Fun]

Originally Posted by eurotrash

Due to my profession, I am away from home for a month to 4 months at a time. I'd like to just stay with her, but there's no work for a U.S. filmmaker in Paris. She can't travel with me due to health issues, money issues and her citizenship.

My girlfriend and I are very in love with each other. The separation is difficult, but she suffers the most.

Last week, after a heart-wrenching telephone discussion about how lonely she felt, and how hard it was for her to sleep in an empty bed, among other things, I asked her to find herself a lover.

The decision was a tough one. We aren't swingers. However, I don't want to lose her because she is lonely and feels trapped by our relationship, and I want someone to take care of her and her needs, whatever they may be, while I'm away.

I've never been with a girl that swings, but it is a fantasy of mine. In my mind, I accepted the fact that my GF would be with someone else. Instead of being jealous, I liked the idea that my GF would have someone to give her the some of what I can't while I'm away.

She was shocked. Then she accused me of proposing this so I could do the same. I assured her that I had no intention of being with anyone else. I want this to be like a gift of my love to her.

She's bi... In fact, she was thinking she was a lesbian before we met. While I was away a previous time, she'd had a sexual encounter with a female friend of mine. The two of them had gotten very close. They were drunk after a party and voila!

However, now she was against the idea. She wanted me, not someone else.

Since then, she's had our friend sleep over several times. Nothing's happened, but I know they kiss each other a lot. I feel so relieved that my GF is not alone in bed.

Then, she proposed that I find her someone. She didn't want to find her lover. So, I asked asked another girl I know, and guess what? She didn't even blink!

Of course, my GF was shocked again! She didn't think I would seriously do something like that! LOL! So far, nothing has happened. They've started writing emails to each other.

Now, the idea of my GF with other people totally turns me on, and I feel good inside knowing that she's not alone during those cold Parisian nights.

She's worried about where this will lead, and even thinks that maybe I'm just trying to get rid of her... to pass her off to someone else. (I can assure you that's not the case. I wouldn't propose this if I didn't trust and love her completely. I just want her to be happy until I can be there with her.)

Am I going about this the right way?

Nope.. Better step up to the plate and give some attention.. Otherwise, you will find out that the idea that - "in absence the heart will grow fonder" is a bunch a BS.. Good luck.