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This is a discussion on Poly Relationship and Legal Issues within the Polyamory & Swinging forums, part of the Swingers Topics category; We were just wondering for any of you in a long term poly relationship how you have handled things such ...
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| Sex is emotion in motion! | We were just wondering for any of you in a long term poly relationship how you have handled things such as your wishes for your funeral and making sure your "family" doesn't exclude your "SO's/Partner's" from the event. Has anyone had a will drawn up? Has anyone ever done a name change when marriage wasn't an option? Would be curious to hear your thoughts..............Thanks. The Menage's |
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| Open to the Universe Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 286 Location: Oshawa, ON Status: Female part of MFM triad | I'm concerned with some of these issues as well. One night I dreamt that something happened to my partner when he was at his other home, and no one told me. I think in my dream he might have died. Since that dream, I've been more conscious of the issues of "formalizing" our relationship. I have no answers, but I sure wish I did. |
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| Sex is emotion in motion! | Avid, Thanks for the reply. Keep us posted and we'll do the same on how this all goes for you..............Was hoping some of the other's here would have chimed in but it must be something no one else has encountered yet........ The Other Mrs. Menage |
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| Sarah&Roger's Female Half | I have no answers for you, but a pretty obvious suggestion.... have either of you talked to an attorney and asked his/her opinion? I would guess that if you explain the situation and the relationship, the attorney could suggest the best legal course for you to take. Quote:
I would make sure my wants were spelled out legally - there you go again - ask an attorney! Sorry - no help here. Just eye opening for me. I hadn't thought of the legal ramifications or planning that a poly relationship would need. Sarah | |
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| Here to Stay | You know, I do not know the answer to this, other than the fact that a decent power of attorney is an amazing thing, but if I was really wanting the very best of answers i would go find a gay marriage forum. Gay couples have been dealing with exactly this issue and would probably offer the best advice.
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| Here to Stay | This is much the same as the planning we do for gay couples. In addition to Durable Power of attorney, health care proxie and trusts will wil allow you to maintain control of assets, income and health decsions. If children are involved you also need to make sure you have will that cover care and custody, in some states adoption by life partners work in other states adoption is not a option. We are not attorneys and legal councel should be consulted look for an attorne that workswith the gay community as they may have a better understanding of life partner arangements. We are however accountants and finincial advisors and have worked with many gay couples with and with out children on protecting the rights of themselfs their partners and their children. Good luck
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| Sex is emotion in motion! | Well luckly for us (Mr. Ménage and myself, The Other Mrs. Ménage ) our children are all grown so the issue of children isn't critical other than wanting to make sure that our wishes for our SO's being included, God forbid something tragic should happen to one of us. Our relationship is still in it infancy but it is for the long haul so this are concerns we discuss and will need to address at some point. Just as I have seriously considered doing a name change to take their name, however, that leads to all the issues with my current employer and them knowing him as my boyfriend. Unfortunately I'm in a VERY conservative environment that wouldn't handle our relationship well at all. So to do that I would have to explain why I have his name but we aren't married and he isn't going on my health insurance policy...........lol Who would have ever though of all the nuisance’s to a relationship such as this one? The Other Mrs. Ménage |
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| Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 406 Location: Kentucky Status: Couple | Quote:
You say your job is very conservative. Depending on how conservative, you could say you are taking his last name because you are living together, but for personal reasons (children having concerns about him getting stuff when you die or whatever, just blame it on the kids...) you do not want to make the marraige official. Like I said, just tossing ideas out, none of which will probably work, but maybe someone else can generate an idea off of em.
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| Here to Stay | Seems to me that just taking someones last name one ties you to them by name. I am relativly certain that you would still have NO LEGAL recourse or rights to any thing like final wishes, personal property, money and such. I am no lawyer but i share a last name with thousands of people I am not related to, and they have no right to anything in my life. Ergo seems logical that a SO would have no rights just by changing there name to the SO's. Now on the other hand as an SO it would be a SUPER SWEET and romantic/loving gesture to change your name (heiphenated or otherwise) to that of your SO's... That said we are in a MFMF poly relationship and IT'S GREAT!!! My wife and family know my final wishes and i would not expect my SO to be involved anymore than to go to my funeral if something tragic were to happen. My family knows our SO's and would inform them as friends I am sure. No one knows of our poly relationship. ![]() |
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In order for there to be something more binding one would by all means need to seek legal representation and have a formal document (will) drafted to make anything stick in the event of a death. | |
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| Here to Stay | I just wanted to give my two cents about the name change thing. Wanted to make sure that no one thought you could get anykind of legal rights from a name change!!! Would def. be a great way to show your commitment to your OSO/OSO's. Last edited by Twolovers01 : 06-21-2007 at 04:58 PM. Reason: I can't spell......lmao |
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