Entry to clubs with our third???

[nmgrrrl]

Sometime back we met a terrific guy for an mfm. We have become quite close and spend lots of time together as a 3 in life.

We want to attend a local swing club, but it has rules barring single men. Well, he isnt exactly a single man... he is my other man.... and we want to go party together. We have thought about having a friend pose as his signifacnt other but none of us is really comfy wiht that. Any ideas on how we can explain this to the club and gain entrance together, as a 3, the way we like to be??

[Tybee Swing]

I would just contact the owners or managers of the club and just tell them the truth of your relationship. Seems they'd make an exception for you.

Lots of clubs will admit "single" men if they're accompanied by a couple - if not every time the club is open, at least on certain nights.

[wifes_sex_slave]

I totally agree with Tybee Swing, talk to the club owner / operator about your situation and see what the response would be. No harm in asking.

[avid]

We're in the same position. I am in a committed relationship with my husband of 11 years, and my partner of 1 year.

As for getting into the club that we're members of, it's been a long, slow process, because, while the club owners seem quite supportive, the "membership" seems to have a lot of misconceptions about any relationship like ours.

Now, we do have a female friend who enjoys coming to the club with us, because she feels freer to dress and act sexy. (By no means would she consider herself a swinger, though!) So, while we get into the club as two "couples", as we talk to friends and mingle, I make sure to let people know that my partner and our friend are NOT a couple, and that he's my partner.

Over the past year, my husband and I have worked at becoming known as friendly, (relatively) normal people, so I think people are becoming less "threatened" by our triad. The club is also beginning to run events where "boytoys" can come. Now, I don't care for that label, but I think we're getting somewhere.

I also believe that this board goes a long way towards us gaining acceptance. I can't even imagine how many people read the board daily. Open dialogue about how swinging and poly can fit together can only help.

[flkeyscouple]

Originally Posted by avid

I can't even imagine how many people read the board daily. Open dialogue about how swinging and poly can fit together can only help.

Julie,
Can you tell us how many individuals, on an average, are active on this site each day? It would be interesting to know.

Sarah

[good times]

Most clubs we go to allow a couple to invite along a single male on couples only nights. They do have very strict rules for the extra male though. Those rules can be quite involved but basically he has to stay with the couple at all times and can't approach anyone else on his own.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Being a triad ourselves we have been fortunate to not have experienced this as much or often as you have and probably will, as we are a FMF triad and not viewed as having a single man but rather having the elusive golden unicorn. But it has happened. Desire's resort for instance will only allow couples. NO SINGLES at all and no same sex couples. I had the opportunity to meet and talk to the advertising director for Desire and was so surprised by their policy. I just simple told them well then we will never be visiting your resort.

For us the direct, open and honest approach is what works best for us. We feel VERY strongly in the lifestyle especially you shouldn't have to hide or disguise your relationship. We would call the club explain our relationship and go from there. We are either accepted or we don't go. Period end.

The Menage's