Type of Poly Relationship

[Menage_a_Trois]

We were just talking at dinner tonight about other members and wondered how many people on the board were in a poly relationship where you live together. Are you in a poly relationship with three, four or more? What are some of the challenges you have faced by living together, etc. Hope to hear you.

The Menage's

[avid]

My husband and I live together, and my partner (male) lives with us about 50% of the time, commuting about 4 hours from his other home. One or the other of his teenage children either goes back and forth, or stays (his 19yo daughter has been here for a couple of weeks, and might be here on a more permanent basis).

Challenges? Without a doubt, distance. The amoung of planning that goes into things is crazy.

And for me, when he's not here, I miss him terribly. That's a definite challenge, and one I'm working on so that I can put it into perspective a little better.

Oh, and tomorrow will be a year for us! It feels wonderful to know how far we've come.

[SouthBond]

How are you sexually shared between the two men? Together in the same bed? Different rooms? Alternating times? How difficult is it for you to balance your real love for them? It is one thing to have a date but much more complicated to live in a marriage situation. Thanks

[avid]

I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond to this, but I wanted to have time to sit down and answer the questions fully.

How am I sexually shared?

That question makes it sound like I'm a little bit of a commodity, I feel. That being said, I'm not averse to being a slutty little sex slave when I'm in the mood!

When my partner isn't with us, I sleep with my husband every night. Now, he's just started seeing someone, so I expect he won't be home EVERY night. When my partner is here, I kind of alternate sleeping with my husband and with my partner. If we're going to an event, and we're going to be out of town, we'll get a hotel room and all sleep together in a king bed. Of course, plenty of fun ensues in that situation. We also play together at home if the timing works out.

How do I balance my real love for them?

I think one of the most common responses that polyamorous people give to this question is how you would feel if you have more than one child. I have three children, and I love them all. If I had 6 children, I would still love them all.

I love my two men. They are both wonderful and unique and special. I'm a very lucky woman, and the two of them tell me that they feel lucky to be with me as well.