Are you Single?

sexyshelby · 09-17-2006, 11:48 AM

How do you answer when someone asks if you are single???
My boyfriend and I were discussing what you should say when asked if you have a SO or if you are single. We aren't comfortable just shouting out that we're poly (which we aren't yet). We don't want to close off opportunities by saying we're involved in a long-term relationship, but we also don't want to flat out lie and say that we're single.

So, how do you answer these questions?

~SS

Lady Yes · 09-17-2006, 03:12 PM

I tend to tell the truth -- I'm married, and happily so. No matter how they answer, their reaction to this always tells me something important about them: Are they the type of person who honors their commitments, and/or the commitments of others?

An important piece of information to know...

Any details can come after that, if everyone negotiates those opening hurdles successfully.

sereneiders · 09-17-2006, 08:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Yes

I tend to tell the truth -- I'm married, and happily so. No matter how they answer, their reaction to this always tells me something important about them: Are they the type of person who honors their commitments, and/or the commitments of others?

An important piece of information to know...

Any details can come after that, if everyone negotiates those opening hurdles successfully.

I agree, we say we're married, even when we didn't signed up the papers... but's it's what we feel after living tgheter for more than 15 years and having a strong commitment. By saying "we're married" we simplify this explanation while making a statement about the strenght of our bond and commitments.

Menage_a_Trois · 09-17-2006, 08:39 PM

I get this quiet frequently and even thought this is a triad I'm in, I tell people it's marriage between the three of us :slam". I'm committed to them and our relationship no differently then if it was a typical relationship.

But for me I will alway continue to get people thinking I am just a "single" woman in the lifestyle...................

oh well.

The Other Mrs. Menage

StacyCat · 09-18-2006, 02:02 AM

I consider myself single when I dont have a "primary" type relationship. If someone asks if I am single, I tell them that I am in an open relationship. Depending on their responses, we can discuss further from there.

sexyshelby · 09-18-2006, 09:33 PM

Thanks for all the replies. I guess honestly is the best policy.

~SS

Amanda69 · 09-19-2006, 05:28 AM

Honesty saves those nasty conversations of explanation later when they find out things are a bit more complex than you originally let on.

You can simply say " I have a significant other."

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09-17-2006, 11:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Are you Single? How do you answer when someone asks if you are single??? My boyfriend and I were discussing what you should say when asked if you have a SO or if you are single. We aren't comfortable just shouting out that we're poly (which we aren't yet). We don't want to close off opportunities by saying we're involved in a long-term relationship, but we also don't want to flat out lie and say that we're single. So, how do you answer these questions? ~SS
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09-17-2006, 03:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
Lady Yes Active Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Northern California Status: Couple	Re: Are you Single? I tend to tell the truth -- I'm married, and happily so. No matter how they answer, their reaction to this always tells me something important about them: Are they the type of person who honors their commitments, and/or the commitments of others? An important piece of information to know... Any details can come after that, if everyone negotiates those opening hurdles successfully.

09-17-2006, 08:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
Menage_a_Trois Sex is emotion in motion! Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 576 Location: Reno, NV Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Menage_a_Trois	Re: Are you Single? I get this quiet frequently and even thought this is a triad I'm in, I tell people it's marriage between the three of us :slam". I'm committed to them and our relationship no differently then if it was a typical relationship. But for me I will alway continue to get people thinking I am just a "single" woman in the lifestyle................... oh well. The Other Mrs. Menage
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09-18-2006, 02:02 AM	#5 (permalink)
StacyCat Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 114 Location: Texas Status: Single Bi Female	Re: Are you Single? I consider myself single when I dont have a "primary" type relationship. If someone asks if I am single, I tell them that I am in an open relationship. Depending on their responses, we can discuss further from there.

09-18-2006, 09:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Re: Are you Single? Thanks for all the replies. I guess honestly is the best policy. ~SS
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09-19-2006, 05:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
Amanda69 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 907 Location: Mississauga, ON Canada Status: couple	Re: Are you Single? Honesty saves those nasty conversations of explanation later when they find out things are a bit more complex than you originally let on. You can simply say " I have a significant other."
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