Great idea!

[MRandMRS]

Thanks for adding the Poly forum! It's a great idea and I know I will be spending a lot of time here reading so I can better understand the subject.

MR and I are very very new to the swinging lifestyle...in fact we've only been with one other couple, but feel a huge bond with them. We've already broken rules with them (we agreed to break the rules) because we are just soooooo comfortable and have so much in common. I think they'd like for us to "go steady" ...which seems like more poly than swinging. I don't know... this sure as hell isn't something they taught in school!

[Menage_a_Trois]

Welcome to the Poly forum Mr. & Mrs.! And you are sooo right - they never did teach this in school. Being new to swinging can make it easy for your first couple to become "extra special" so to speak. I would suggest you both discuss to what level you are comfortable with on this potential for "going steady". We have observed situations such as this ending in drama when both sets of couples are not on the same page. So our only words of wisdom would be to talk to each other and especially together with the other couple. Make sure what you think this type of relationship means is what they in turn think it means.

Far too often one couple considers "going steady" to mean that you will be exclusive with them and not pursue other couples. Many couples have gotten into the lifestyle for variety. All of which are acceptable AS LONG AS both couples are looking for the SAME things. There are alot of couples in the lifestyle that have close friends who are also playmates but not exclusive. So like EVERYTHING in the lifestyle it boils down to communcation, between you and Mr..

Originally Posted by MRandMRS

I think they'd like for us to "go steady" ...which seems like more poly than swinging.

Only time will tell as there are lots of couples in the lifestyle that develop close friends with another couple even becoming best friends and play exclusively with each other that are nowhere near a poly relationship.

[JP51]

Welcome...

And go slow...your first couple may seem like a poly relationship...but then again...it could be just the great sex too. Having feet in both worlds, poly and swinging leads one to a conflect at time. See my post on "Green Eyed" with the secondary...

Most of all have fun, and enjoy life! Keep posting, we all want to hear from you!

[Cowgirl]

Originally Posted by MRandMRS

MR and I are very very new to the swinging lifestyle...in fact we've only been with one other couple, but feel a huge bond with them. !

I am so glad to see your post, as we are in the exact same situation, and wanted to find others to talk about it with. Mr. and Mrs., how are you handling the emotional issues such as jealousy? Some days, all 4 are happy, and other days, feelings are hurt and we all have to communicate back and forth to work it out. But all 4 of us seem very eager to make it work. The logistics are complicated, 4 people's busy schedules and so on. The 2 couples are 2 hours apart, so any get togethers must be planned in advance. Baby sitting issues and having enough time to really relax and enjoy each other's company have limited our time together. Neither couple was looking for a Poly relationship, but we can't deny that it is one. We are all going to Desire together. I can't imagine having 5 days with no kids, no responsabilities and all 4 of us together. I think it is going to be amazing.