Welcome to Polyville

[Menage_a_Trois]

Hello everyone and welcome to Polyville! Welcome Let us introduce ourselves. We are a triad :slam" which consists of a married couple and a live in girlfriend. We are Tom, Annie & Pam. While polyamory relationships take on many different forms, our relationship is like a marriage between the three of us, all of us being equal, sharing in all aspects of this relationship and we are ALL active in the swinging lifestyle (just like couples swing together, the three of us swing together).

We are open to discussing any and all questions regarding polyamory and how it does or does not relate to swinging. While we are a triad in a polyamorous relationship we do not pretend to have all the answers to all your questions HOWEVER we will do our best to find them for you or at least provide a discussion for them. Something we have noticed is that a lot of swingers are “offended/intimidated” by those who are polyamorous and vice versa. This usually is a result of not really understanding the other side. We hope this forum will help bridge the gap in understanding for all parties. We are not here to CONVINCE or CONVERT anyone – only to help understand. Just like swinging isn’t for everyone, neither is a poly relationship.

There are no stupid questions only unasked ones……so the forum is officially open – let the questions/thoughts begin.

The Menage’s

[avid]

I'd like to introduce us as well, and offer my thanks for providing this forum.

We are a triad tool. We are a married couple, and I have another partner who lives several hours away with his female partner. He splits his time between there and here, about 50/50. His son often stays with us as well.

I like the extended family that we're forming, as my husband enjoys spending time with his son, and my kids care for his family as well.

We're trying to make things up as we go, because there aren't a lot of instruction manuals about this stuff.

The relationship we have with my secondary partner's partner isn't perfect, but I think we've kind of resolved that as long as we're on the same chapter, not necessarily the same page, we're doing okay.

I look forward to contributing here.

Edited to add: Yes, we swing too. That one's a challenge. Most couples prefer couples, not triads, but as we make friends, that too is becoming easier.

[JP51]

Well as for intro... I am J and the primary is D, the other couple in the poly are A & A, they are signing up for the board. So they can intro themself's when they feel secure about this board. We (J&D) have known each other since we were kids and been married forever...met A&A and formed what we all think has becomed a poly relationship in all aspects. Yes we do swing too...but right now that is not a priority on any of our lives.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Welcome to the poly forum avid and JP51, we look forward to your insights and post.

Originally Posted by avid

Edited to add: Yes, we swing too. That one's a challenge. Most couples prefer couples, not triads, but as we make friends, that too is becoming easier.

We too have to deal with this on an ongoing basis. It does seem to get easier as people get to know us. When we first got together and started swinging, we thought it wouldn't be a problem, especially since there were two women involved and that seems to be what a lot of people are intersted in. But we have found that our relationship seems to put off some people and make others very uneasy. We try not to let peoples attitudes about our relationship bother us and we are always open to answering any questions they have for us about it. We would be very intersted in hearing how you deal with your triad when swinging.

T, A, and P

[Cowgirl]

Hi, this is my first post, and wanted to make sure I put it in the right thread. My hubby and I are the A and A in JP51's post. I have been lurking on the board for a month, trying to read as much as a can. I have learned a lot during my "research" on this board. I have hesitated posting, because I am not sure where we fit in. But I finally decided to take the plunge and post. We are new to swinging, and have only swung with one couple. Amazingly, it has quickly become way more than swinging. As the feelings we all have for each other have turned into "love". We are all surprised at how quickly this has happened. We are still trying to figure it out. It is good to have a place to discuss it!

[JP51]

Welcome love...gald you posted!

[Menage_a_Trois]

Cowgirl, so nice to have you join us! Sorry it has taken us awhile to greet you, it has been a bit crazy around here the last week or so. Don't be shy and just jump right in. We look forward to reading your post and getting to know you better through them. Please feel free to let us know if we can be of any help. It is an old cliché, but it is true " There are no stupid questions, just the ones you don't ask".

T, A, and P
The Menage's

[Mr.T]

Well I have a silly question.How did you come to be in a poly relationship?

I'm just curious to now how you(as couples initially) came to make 2 into 3 or more.I know I couldn't handle such a situation.My Mrs. is more than enough to handle full time ,but it could be good to have an idea where that comes from.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by Mr.T

Well I have a silly question.How did you come to be in a poly relationship?

I'm just curious to now how you(as couples initially) came to make 2 into 3 or more.I know I couldn't handle such a situation.My Mrs. is more than enough to handle full time ,but it could be good to have an idea where that comes from.

If you click on this link there is already a thread going on this............Thanks! and glad to have you here.

The Menage's

[VanHlebar]

Originally Posted by Menage_a_Trois

We too have to deal with this on an ongoing basis. It does seem to get easier as people get to know us. When we first got together and started swinging, we thought it wouldn't be a problem, especially since there were two women involved and that seems to be what a lot of people are intersted in. But we have found that our relationship seems to put off some people and make others very uneasy. We try not to let peoples attitudes about our relationship bother us and we are always open to answering any questions they have for us about it. We would be very intersted in hearing how you deal with your triad when swinging.

T, A, and P

Hi Folks, not sure if this should be in a different thread, so feel free to move it, but I was curious about this statement.

Since, we are not looking for a long term, classic relationship per say, in swinging, I just would not have figure this to be an issue. Well I guess it would be for us anyways. As long as your relationship was solid, which most poeple can see pretty quickly, what is the problem? I am just curious, is it because the other couples feel threatend that you might try to "include" them into your relationship? If so, that seems absurd to me, just like it would seem absurd that someone might feel that I wanted to include them in a longterm relationship with MrsVan...

Not sure if that makes sense...but I really amazed me when I read this, that because you happen to be a triad, that is actually caused issues with finding playmates..

-Van

[jon0468]

Just wanted to intro myself and say hi, I am the married M portion of a triad, my wife has another significant other who lives with us. I am very enthusiastic about the forum, because this is our first time with an experience like this, and have all kinds of questions. I look forward to benefiting from everyone here and sharing what I can to help others.

[Menage_a_Trois]

We are thrilled to have you and your family here on the board with us! We too are also a triad. We are a married couple with a live in girlfriend. Feel free to ask away and tell us all about yourselves.

We don't have all the answer as we are all new to this as well but the board has some incredible people here so I'm sure you will find alot of what you seek by just asking. You can always reach us directly as well as we always welcome contact from other's living at life such as ours!

The Menage's

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by jon0468

Just wanted to intro myself and say hi, I am the married M portion of a triad, my wife has another significant other who lives with us. I am very enthusiastic about the forum, because this is our first time with an experience like this, and have all kinds of questions. I look forward to benefiting from everyone here and sharing what I can to help others.

Welcome to the board. I am one of a couple so I have not triad knowledge to share, but I look forward to chatting with you on other topics.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[luvjazz]

Originally Posted by avid

We are a triad tool. We are a married couple, and I have another partner who lives several hours away with his female partner. He splits his time between there and here, about 50/50.

Okay, get ready for the stupid questions....lol!

How do you manage a poly-type relationship when your partner lives so far away? Does his female partner know about you? Does she ever participate? My husband and I have a great relationship with a male friend which recently became sexual, on the advent of his moving several hours away. I'm probably grasping at straws here, but if he happens to form a relationship with another woman but would still be allowed to join my husband and me again, I would consider myself extremely fortunate! There are definitely strong feelings all around. I'd love any insight as to how you all make it work.

[Twolovers01]

We are a married couple of a Quad poly. (MFMF) Both couples have children still at home and around the same ages. We enjoy spending "family" time toghether almost every weekend. We do the same things any normal family would do, camping, fishing, going to the beach, cooking out....etc....

I hope anyone with any questions concerning our relationship or there relationship would feel free to ask.

Good luck in all your searches for "happiness"

J and M