Swinging and Poly-words

[Chicup]

Dunno if there are enough threads to make it a forum in itself, but if it 'fails' you can always merge it back.

[KittKatt]

Thank you Julie for making a poll.......And hope you are feeling all better from your strep throat!!

xoxoxoC

And thank you all for your honest comments, we are all differant, and that's what makes us the same

xxooxxooC

[JustAskJulie]

If there were such a topic, where would it go?
It's not really a swinger topic, it's not really a sex topic... thoughts?

[annebobl]

I have seen poly cpl. on Real Sex. It looked great, with real caring. It may be a man's dream, but do women really want it? In general, I mean. Wouldn't they feel too threatened, too disposable, like used kleenex. Whoops, I mean Kleenex as word is/was copyrighted. BOb Lambert annebobl@hotmail.com

[WesternSwing]

Of course, annebobl, you are assuming it is another woman being introduced into the relationship.

[Concupiscence]

I'd say that any topic that helps clarify issues in the individual reader's mind is a useful one. Especially when it can educate those who might have otherwise been misinformed or ignorant of what it was. Plus we can hear how Poly's deal with emotional/psychological issues that swingers touch on but don't have to deal with on a long term basis.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If there were such a topic, where would it go?
It's not really a swinger topic, it's not really a sex topic... thoughts?

I think seeing that 51% of respondents on the poll voted "Yes, We are polyamorous or possibly on the border" that the subject of polyamory would fit best in the "Swingers Topics" section. At first glance it may seem like it isn't a swinger topic, but from the poll I'd say it is much more a swinger topic then originally thought.

Mr. WS

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If there were such a topic, where would it go?
It's not really a swinger topic, it's not really a sex topic... thoughts?

Just an observation -
It seemed that the OP's request wasn't really for a poly forum, but rather for a cross-over swing/polyamory type of forum, because they feel they are somewhere in the middle. I think it sounded like they travel in swingers' circles, identify with many of the swinger's issues, too. It seemed that several other people in this thread identify as swingers, yet also have leanings toward the poly lifestyle to varying degrees. The OP said that since they have become sort of cross-overs, they're not feeling they fit in quite as much here now, but that a forum for cross-overs would feel comfortable for them. Going by the poll, it seems a lot of people (so far) share the same interests.

Some of these swing/polys are experiencing this duality as a couple with another couple (4 intermingled together), but may still swing, too. Others are experiencing this as open relationships, with separate/outside relationships that they pursue individually (unlike the 4some style above), though with mutual consent. These are different styles, but both may be cross-over swing/poly.

I agree that it would be a good idea to have a forum for this.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Just an observation -
It seemed that the OP's request wasn't really for a poly forum, but rather for a cross-over swing/polyamory type of forum, because they feel they are somewhere in the middle.

The forum would have to be a bit of a cross-over (as far as dealing with issues that cross the boundaries) but it would also have to be open to topics dealing strictly with poly. It is also VERY important that should there be a topic that it is made abundantly clear what Poly is and how it differs from swinging, not doing so would just invite a lot of negativity from strict polys who find themselves on a swinger site by way of a search for a poly forum... which is another issue altogether....

In order to understand how they overlap we have to be able to separate them, which is often the hardest part for many.

[KittKatt]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

The forum would have to be a bit of a cross-over (as far as dealing with issues that cross the boundaries) but it would also have to be open to topics dealing strictly with poly. It is also VERY important that should there be a topic that it is made abundantly clear what Poly is and how it differs from swinging, not doing so would just invite a lot of negativity from strict polys who find themselves on a swinger site by way of a search for a poly forum... which is another issue altogether....

In order to understand how they overlap we have to be able to separate them, which is often the hardest part for many.

Here's some links to all the poly terms definitions:
this one clearly is poly vs. swinging : http://www.libchrist.com/poly/polyvsswing.html

alot of the standard questions asked are here:
http://www.libchrist.com/poly/contents.html

http://www.apologeticsindex.org/82-polygamy
this one just has clear definitions:
Polygny is the condition or practice of having more than one wife at one time.

Polygandry is the condition or practice of having more than one husband at one time.

Polygamy is a “marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time .”

The term plural marriage is used as a synonym for any of the above.

The term polyamory refers to an intimate, romantic relationship that involves more than two people - with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved.

Bigamy is “the act of entering into a marriage with one person while still legally married to another.” .


For us is simply this: we are open to one another to swing, to share and in that we are not worried of being replaced. As in all relationships, we never know if "love" will happen, but we are open to it if it does, not to get a divorce as monogomy would have it, but to love more than one.

xoxoxoTnC

[Amanda69]

I think seeing that 51% of respondents on the poll voted "Yes, We are polyamorous or possibly on the border" that the subject of polyamory would fit best in the "Swingers Topics" section. At first glance it may seem like it isn't a swinger topic, but from the poll I'd say it is much more a swinger topic then originally thought.

First off only 45 people have voted...this does not by far make an accurate polling of those who frequent this site...until today I didn't even see this poll.

[WesternSwing]

What we need is more of the lurkers who don't post to answer the poll. It is anonymous and you don't have to post to respond to the poll.

I would say though, that the ratio of those frequent posters on this board is pretty well represented.

Mr. WS

[good times]

I think the poll is a bit flawed in one way. I think based on the amount of inquiries we see here about poly that a forum specifically for that would be a good idea. Yet in the poll I couldn't answer yes because a yes answer would be saying that I am in a poly relationship or was possibly interested in being in one, which I am not, even though I would vote yes for having a forum addressing the poly lifestyle here. I voted Maybe intstead, because it is the best answer given my feelings on the subject. So, if the poll answers had been just a simple yes/maybe/no I would have voted yes.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Being a triad we would welcome a forum - this is something we live everyday of our lives.

Personally I would love to see the site profiles allow for adding multiple partner information...........in our case Him - Her & Her.........he he......anyway - the forum is a big yes for us.

The Other Mrs. Menage

[fun4Ds]

i , mr.fun voted maby also. we are not poly so id probably be more of a lurker than a poster, i see nothing wrong with the poly lifestyle, but i certanly couldnt post anything any more than i could in other alternative lifestyles that dosent pertain to our lifestyle. its like , we are not gay or bi but we dont see anything wrong with being gay or bi as long as its healthy. a fourum about the poly lifestyle would be helpfull though if we were with a swinging poly couple.