Not a Liar! Just a Happy Guy!

betty1213 · 08-13-2004, 07:45 PM

It's what everyone will say when they read this but it is true. We are fairly new in the lifestyle. Our first experience was with another couple and a single female. She is Bi and my wife and I have explored that side of life since then on numerous occasions. In the mean time a straight female friend has joined the two of us in a more or less Poly relationship, I love her as a friend and she loves me. She says she has no designs on stealing me away and said it's to bad were not Mormons because she would love the role of wife #2. OK, no guy is that lucky. Well, it may get more complicated, there's another woman who has made overtures to me and man I am confused. Everything I have read has said "there are no single women willing to play so give it up!" I am in my fifties and overweight and ugly as the day is long. Soooo what's the deal??? I love to make women laugh. Average penis, on Cialis, no money! I do shower daily. Is it the laughing? Is this OK?

EternallySingle · 08-13-2004, 08:52 PM

You are married. You are happy. Your wife is happy. And these other women see you as an easier way to have a happy life than finding a single man and taking a chance at building a life with him. Seriously. It is much easier to hop on a train that is already headed where you want to go than to wait for one to arrive.

Two questions. How well does your wife trust these women, and how well does your wife trust you? If everyone agrees, it can work. Check out www.libchrist.com for more links and info on the poly lifestyle, including the pitfalls.

But if I find out you are pulling our collective legs, I have the training to find you, and the friends to make you pay.

just kidding (a little)

betty1213 · 08-13-2004, 11:32 PM

Eternally Single,
Just got back from dinner and my wife said I have to answer you (she's the boss!)
No, not pulling legs or anything else for that matter and the kids are all gone for the evening...what the hell am I on line for!! We just talked at dinner and the friend we are having the Poly thing with has made my wife have a little twinge, but she is an amazing woman and able to dialog about it. We have noted that the longer the duration between playing makes for way to much analysis and she said if it were more frequent she would be fine.
She has also said, ( a wise woman), like you (wise man), that it's the same with men as women, "why buy the cow when the milk is free!" Married men are not a threat and you don't have to hear them snore or fart all night (I'm getting her earplugs.)
Thank you for the insight, very thoughtful.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-15-2004, 07:37 PM

I think a big difference for you vs for many people is that you are open to poly relationships. Most people are not. Also, it sounds like you make friends with these women first or they are your friends then the swinging/poly issues enter in... rather than you going out looking for women specifically for this purpose (am I correct?).

I have talked to couples who have had no trouble finding 3 or 4 or more single female playmates... but it seems like even they are some of the same ones complaining that there are no single females out there (evidently 1 - or 3 or 4- is never enough).

The advice I have given many times regarding finding single females to play with is to look at those women you already know, friends you already have rather than trying to go out and meet women specifically to play with and from what you posted, it sounds like that is what you are doing.

betty1213 · 08-17-2004, 12:12 AM

Julie,
You are right. The last thing I want to do is be a predator and "hunt" for single females. I take it by your's and eternally single's comments that it's ok to go on with this as long as it's ok with my wife.
Thanks guys

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-17-2004, 01:39 PM

As long as both you and your wife agree then whatever you agree upon is ok. You are in this together.

inbeachcouple · 08-18-2004, 10:40 PM

EternallySingle, Hope you don't mind me saying this, but you are to this site what Chef is to South Park. Only without the hat.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-19-2004, 01:02 AM

"C'mon darlin I just gave you sweet lovin 10 minutes ago!"

EternallySingle · 08-19-2004, 08:08 PM

I've never seen a Southpark episode with Chef. Actually, I've only watched Southpark four times.

CuriosityKilt · 08-19-2004, 08:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by inbeachcouple

EternallySingle, Hope you don't mind me saying this, but you are to this site what Chef is to South Park. Only without the hat.

Hehe, I've never heard that one before.

ES - Think sex therapist that delivers his advice Barry White style.

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08-13-2004, 07:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
betty1213 Active Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Oregon Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:betty1213	Not a Liar! Just a Happy Guy! It's what everyone will say when they read this but it is true. We are fairly new in the lifestyle. Our first experience was with another couple and a single female. She is Bi and my wife and I have explored that side of life since then on numerous occasions. In the mean time a straight female friend has joined the two of us in a more or less Poly relationship, I love her as a friend and she loves me. She says she has no designs on stealing me away and said it's to bad were not Mormons because she would love the role of wife #2. OK, no guy is that lucky. Well, it may get more complicated, there's another woman who has made overtures to me and man I am confused. Everything I have read has said "there are no single women willing to play so give it up!" I am in my fifties and overweight and ugly as the day is long. Soooo what's the deal??? I love to make women laugh. Average penis, on Cialis, no money! I do shower daily. Is it the laughing? Is this OK?

08-13-2004, 08:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Re: Liar! You are married. You are happy. Your wife is happy. And these other women see you as an easier way to have a happy life than finding a single man and taking a chance at building a life with him. Seriously. It is much easier to hop on a train that is already headed where you want to go than to wait for one to arrive. Two questions. How well does your wife trust these women, and how well does your wife trust you? If everyone agrees, it can work. Check out www.libchrist.com for more links and info on the poly lifestyle, including the pitfalls. But if I find out you are pulling our collective legs, I have the training to find you, and the friends to make you pay. just kidding (a little)
	__________________ "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too." Prince

08-13-2004, 11:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
betty1213 Active Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Oregon Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:betty1213	Re: Liar! Eternally Single, Just got back from dinner and my wife said I have to answer you (she's the boss!) No, not pulling legs or anything else for that matter and the kids are all gone for the evening...what the hell am I on line for!! We just talked at dinner and the friend we are having the Poly thing with has made my wife have a little twinge, but she is an amazing woman and able to dialog about it. We have noted that the longer the duration between playing makes for way to much analysis and she said if it were more frequent she would be fine. She has also said, ( a wise woman), like you (wise man), that it's the same with men as women, "why buy the cow when the milk is free!" Married men are not a threat and you don't have to hear them snore or fart all night (I'm getting her earplugs.) Thank you for the insight, very thoughtful.

08-15-2004, 07:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Liar! I think a big difference for you vs for many people is that you are open to poly relationships. Most people are not. Also, it sounds like you make friends with these women first or they are your friends then the swinging/poly issues enter in... rather than you going out looking for women specifically for this purpose (am I correct?). I have talked to couples who have had no trouble finding 3 or 4 or more single female playmates... but it seems like even they are some of the same ones complaining that there are no single females out there (evidently 1 - or 3 or 4- is never enough). The advice I have given many times regarding finding single females to play with is to look at those women you already know, friends you already have rather than trying to go out and meet women specifically to play with and from what you posted, it sounds like that is what you are doing.

08-17-2004, 12:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
betty1213 Active Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Oregon Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:betty1213	Re: Liar! Julie, You are right. The last thing I want to do is be a predator and "hunt" for single females. I take it by your's and eternally single's comments that it's ok to go on with this as long as it's ok with my wife. Thanks guys

08-17-2004, 01:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Liar! As long as both you and your wife agree then whatever you agree upon is ok. You are in this together.
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08-18-2004, 10:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
inbeachcouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 102 Location: NW Indiana Status: Couple	Re: Liar! EternallySingle, Hope you don't mind me saying this, but you are to this site what Chef is to South Park. Only without the hat.

08-19-2004, 01:02 AM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Liar! "C'mon darlin I just gave you sweet lovin 10 minutes ago!"

08-19-2004, 08:08 PM	#9 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Re: Liar! I've never seen a Southpark episode with Chef. Actually, I've only watched Southpark four times.
	__________________ "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too." Prince

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