polyamory? What is it?

[Alura]

Originally Posted by BradAndJanet

Would you believe that we still have a copy of that? We both read it probably 20 years ago. Interesting book...

-B

Who wrote it, Brad? And does your copy list the names of the sequels?

Mr. Alura

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by Alura

Who wrote it, Brad? And does your copy list the names of the sequels?

Mr. Alura

Our friend the Google says Robert H. Rimmer wrote it and you can get a copy here. I cannot easily get to the box that contains my copy (someday, bookshelves for everything!), but this bibliography may be of some help in finding his other books.

He's an interesting fellow. Here's a tribute site.

-B

[viper31631]

I'm in a relationship very similiar almost identical to plzurezone's.......lmao sorry bad joke.

[wrnakedru]

In 1973, a movie was made from the book and it too was titled "The Harrad Experiment". Critics credited director Ted Post with creating a sensuous movie - and the ratings folks put an "R" on it.

Stars of the movie? Don Johnson Tippi Hedren Laurie Walters James Whitmore Victoria Thompson [seems the movie didn't make stars out of Laurie and Victoria - or am I the only one who is unfamiliar with them?]

An interesting side note: Don and Tippi played the lead roles opposite one another. [Tippi Hedren is the mother of an attractive female star - Melanie Griffith.] Melanie Griffith was also in the movie - as an uncredited extra.

Some may recall that Don Johnson and Melanie Griffith were married - not once, but twice.

Yep, I'm just full of scintillating trivia like that! None of which has ever earned me a durned dime!

WR

[Alura]

Thanks for the links, Brad. You always come through, not only quickly but with style! The visit to the links reminded me of how much I enjoyed the book when it was new and controversial. Thanks again.

Shucks, Wrnakedru, I was out of the country all during the seventies so I never saw the movie. I wonder if I could find a VHS version?

Mr. Alura

[wrnakedru]

Originally Posted by Alura

Shucks, Wrnakedru, I was out of the country all during the seventies so I never saw the movie. I wonder if I could find a VHS version?
Mr. Alura

You can check amazon.com for it. eBay offers quite a variety but I most often use amazon for book, tapes, CDs and DVDs.

Here's another source you can use for comparison pricing.

Enjoy!

WR

[JustAskJulie]

I typically define the difference between polyamory and swinging as that polyamory has that emotional (love) bond between all parties involved, whereas swinging seperates sex and love. The only emotional (love) bond you have in swinging is with your primary partner.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by chickadiva

Oh, and here's a "test" that one of my friends uses to distinguish poly from pure swinging (because there truly is a lot of crossover):

Would you let them/him/her know if you were in an accident? Would you invite them/him/her to the family cookout? Would you introduce them/him/her to your vanilla friends? (but not necessarily as sexual buddies, just as other friends...98% of us in these Lifestyles are never intending to "out" ourselves as anything other than monogamous)

If you can answer yes, then you are also Polyamorous in some form. There is more there than just casual sex.

YES, YES, and YES.

We already did with our girlfriend(s)... this included sharing Christmass dinner with the entire family of the "primaries" (us) and a girlfriend (of course, whout them knowing how far our "friendship" was ).

It's an interesting question, because here, even among swingers that define themselves as non-poly friendly, I know of several who would answer YES, YES and YES. I guess the question is culurally biased.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I typically define the difference between polyamory and swinging as that polyamory has that emotional (love) bond between all parties involved, whereas swinging seperates sex and love. The only emotional (love) bond you have in swinging is with your primary partner.

Julie, if you allow me rephrase this:

"The difference between polyamory and swinging as that polyamory has that emotional (love) bond between all parties involved, or at least, the involved people is open for these bonds to develop, whereas swinging intends to seperate sex and love. The only emotional (love) bond you want to have in swinging is with your primary partner."

As for polyamory, strictly speaking you're right, altough I believe the swingers around here defining themselves as "poly-friendly" not necesarily pursue to develop emotional bonds, but are open to the idea IF they meet people alike.

As for the swingers, I believe there is certaing degree of denial of the "emotional development" issue. There's no guarantee that a swinger wouldn't develop feelings just because the rules set inside the couple "forbids" those feelings, rather, swingers would avoid meeting someone again as soon as they perceive the risk of developing feelings or they already have some feeling, and I am not sure if this means they can properly deal with the issue when it brings up.