Are you aroused by your partner having sex with someone else?

[Karen12345]

Hello,

planning our first full swap, my husband and me are discussing a lot about it. He told me that he has no problems with jealousy when I have sex with another man. What make me wonder a bit, is that it really arouses him to picture me with another man.

Its ok for me that he has sex with another woman, but i am not aroused by this...

Looking forward to your opinions!

Karen

[newgentry]

He may be very surprised at his reaction. I know I sure was, and it gets back to the old "fantasy is different from reality" thing. The first time I saw the missus hooked up with someone I was surprised at my reaction, for sure - it was just "ok." Didn't really turn me on, didn't really bother me - basically a middle of the road 5 on a 10 scale. That huge rush of intense erotic feelings that I just knew I was going to have was nowhere around.

[GirlieZ]

Aroused is putting it mildly. I love watching him getting his "thang" on with another woman--that is such a hot sight! I get so hot and turned on that everytime we swing I wonder if it can get any better!

Hubby loves to hear me orgasm with another man...he says me getting off with another fellow is what gets him off.


I love the fact that we turn each other on so much!

Zgirl

[alyricandced]

same here, he loves watching me with another guy. I think he's a true voyeur by heart b/c during our full swap/group sex experiences, he's orgasmed more by watching and giving oral sex to others rather than when he's the recipient of any play.

I wanted to vote HOT because that is my favorite part of swinging.

But I voted arouse because I also have sex!!

[C&D]

Actually aroused is an understatment. One of my favorite things about swinging is seeing C with another man or woman. Now, while C does find it very arousing she's still getting use to me being with another woman.


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[meowkittyhascla]

We love watching each other with others, that is the fun part of swinging,....well...okay..one of the fun parts of swinging.
However, we did have an experience with a couple, where the male of the couple got very upset watching his wife with my hubby. He loved being with me, but got all pissy when he saw his wife getting off with another man. We have never played with them again. We told them they needed to rethink this lifestyle before continueing. Any one else ever go through such a situation?

[VegasLee]

I love wathing Laura have fun and get off with other people.

She is a very exciting women to watch.

Due to the business I am in I have seen thousands of people have sex but watching her tops them all for me!

When we get together after she has partied with others our own play is very intense.

[good times]

I am in the "it's hot" camp but voted it aroused me because of the way the questions are worded. It was intersesting to me that before we started swinging my wife thought she wouldn't even want to watch me with another women. Just a few weeks ago she was kicking back watching me, as she and her partner had finished before us, and she said it made her so hot watching me go after it with the other women. It's all good.

[Spoomonkey]

Being as having sex with other people is sorta what the lifestyle is about, I'd have to admit that it turns me on to watch Mrs Spoomonkey with another man. Watching her with another woman is cool too. (Rare, but cool).

Mrs Spoomonkey is a great "performer" and watching her have sex is absolutely mind-blowing.

Spoomonkey

[2New2it]

I also would have picked the 'hot' option, but I don't just watch. She enjoys it so much, I love watching her getting her pleasures nearly as much as joining in.

[biblonde]

I would have to say both of us are in the "ITS HOT" zone. It is a turn on to watch him and here them both!! And he says he loves watching me! And of couse he loves watching me with the ladies! that is even hotter!! Makes for hours and hours of fun fun fun!

my 2 cents for the day!

[WA_Cple]

GirlieZ - I am so with you - it is a huge turn on for me to see my hubby with another woman. My favorite bit is watching and helping him get another woman off - sucking and licking while he is fucking. His favorite bit is watching me go down on another woman. I don't have a strong desire to be with another man but we both want to try it just to see what it is like.

Yippee! Whew!



Mrs WA

[BodyScape02]

Seeing my sweetie enjoying herself is the biggest turn on imaginable to me! If she is getting some pleasure from another man, as long as I am in the loop and present, we don’t play separately, then it’s all good. We’ve had no bad encounters and are careful who we let into the bedroom in the first place, so they have always been gentlemen who have treated her with respect.

Now if we could just find a dude who could maintain or even get a full erection she would be oh so happy…LOL

[Chemistry_0518]

Actually seeing my lady angrossed in sexual activity is just OK, but what turns me on is seeing her actually ENJOYING herself! She has said on many occasions that seeing the look of pleasure on MY face provides her with a large amount of her own pleasure. And since we are always together (same room, same bed if possible) we have multiple opportunities to make contact with each other and enhance the moment for each of us as much as possible.