would you have any problems swinging with a couple that has a huge age gap?

[JustAskJulie]

The thread, I'm here with my mom brought up some interesting questions on age differences.

More often than not we think little of an older man with a younger woman, but people seem to find an older woman with a younger man to be more of a taboo for some reason. Why is that?

Would you swing with a couple who have a major difference (say 10 years or more) in ages? Would it make a difference if it's an older woman/younger man vs. an older man/younger woman?

[RedRobin]

I voted for sure, no problem, but it would depend on the people. I've known some younger people that were really old and some old people that were really young. The person/people would be the deciding factor for me. Not just a number.

[sexypairca]

I voted for sure, no problem. Most of our swing couples tend to be older, up to 15+ years. Some of our friends are younger and we are trying to meet a variety of people, not based on age. I had real issues with guys under 30 (just a flat out immature impression) but gradually this is changing, depending on the guy of course.

Annette

[NightGoddess]

Someone once said,
"People just look down on younger men and older women, but you put a younger woman with an older man and its ok."
-- It seems to be true there is a stigma attached to age differences between an older woman and a younger man. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but when there's an age-gap of 10 or more years, one gets funny looks. I wonder why that is, and what couples have done to get over the discomfort. Any voices of experience out there?
Thanks, interesting poll, Julie!

[b_and_sc]

I voted 'sure' as well, but like everyone else, it sure would depend on the people. I've met some very mature 'youngins' and some really childish older people too.

I don't have a problem with an older woman with a younger man...I always think 'way to go mama!!' when I see that!!!!


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[Brit_Pair]

Yep, can't imagine how it would make a difference to us. There are more important things to judge potential playmates on IOHO.

[fun_pairTX]

There is almost 10 years difference between Mrs Fun (50 & 40) and I, but it hasn't seemed to hinder us at all. We have played with folks both older and younger. The only elimination we base on age is when the other couple is down around the ages of our kids, (early 20's), that is just a tad too weird for even us LOL. But we have played with some in the mid 20's and had a great time.

[yawanna]

when the guy is 45 and the woman 21....

I almost always think what is wrong with them. Sorry. I do.

My first husband was/is older than me.. I remember people meeting me first.. then him...and saying to him "I was just telling your daughter here...."

[funforall]

For missus and I there is a 12 year difference.
When people meet us they say "you go girl!", and wonder what her secret is to keeping a young guy like myself. LOL
In her first marriage she was the younger half by at least 10 years.
I love older women and find it harder to keep up with her than the girls my own age of 31. LOL
We are new to the whole swing scene and looking forward to our first encounter. Through the help and guidance of this site we are sure it will go well. Thanks all

[OhioCplLooking]

well, heck, yeah.,.. LOL I am 13 yrs older than my partner & he loves how passionate & fun-loving i am. Dont exclude yourselves from some great friends & lovers by being anti-age.

[SluttyWife]

Sir Mike and I are a "May/December" couple!

I'm 32 to his 54. That's 22 years!

And yes there are times that we get
glares of disapproval, but often from "vanilla folks" or younger men in their 20's. Nothing suspicious about our pairing. We are genuinely into each other and it really shows. Once people take an interest in getting to know us...they can clearly see what makes this work so beautifully.

And it's been going on for a few years now. facelick
When I was in my 20's I used to cast my judgement on couples like us...thinking it was a midlife crisis or something.

The tables have surely turned now.
I feel the same way about the older woman/younger man relationship model. They compliment each other in a very wonderful way sexually and otherwise.

;-*

[JustAskJulie]

Do you feel that there is a certain age at which it becomes ok? Whereas perhaps when the younger partner is under a certain age it is more looked at as "cradle robbing"?

Is 50 and 30 better than 40 and 20?

[good times]

sure, no problem. For us we have only one criteria, if we each find the other couple attractive and compatable we will play. If either one of us doesen't click with the other couple we don't . Age is not a consideration for us.

But as for the Mom Son thing, we pass, sorry we're not going there.

[Sadie6969]

I have no concept of age. That might be because I'm on the younger side of the scale (27 here) and just clueless. Most of my friends are older (15+) so it seems only natural that I would find the older couples to swing with.
Of course, it's not that I seek out older couples. It usually works out that we meet a couple, we hit it off.....they happen to be older, which of course I don't figure/find out till after we've been talking a while. And if it doesn't bother them, it does not bother me!

Julie - I would say that 20-40 is a big difference between 30-50. That's only because of the 20 side of things. When you're 20, you've only been out of high school a couple years and probably still in college. You more than likely have never been married, nor do you have kids. All of these things I think "mature" a person.

Take me for example, I'm only 27...but I got married when I was 21 and have been for 5 1/2 years. Most people think I am 30-35 when they talk to me, and I attribute this to my years of marraige and committment. Having to think of someone other than myself for a few years......

I have a friend, same age as me-never been married, and all of our "older" friends will complain to me about how immature she is. Funny, huh?
I just do not see how a 20 year old would have enough life experience to be able to handle a relationship with a 40 year old who has. Of course there are exceptions to every rule......

Saidie

[Vjklander]

We don't care about age at all. I'd do Raquel Welch right now. And MrsVjk has a thing for Sean Connery
And we've both done 20somethings.
J R