What is your preferred method of meeting new playmates?

[DandS]

Hi all,

First poll I've ever posted....and the question is....

What is your preferred method of finding/meeting potential playmates?

Please share the reasoning behind your selection in a post

Also...I'm sure I have not covered all possible answers so if your response is not an option please select "other" and respond in a post.

Thanks,

Mrs DandS

[Miss_Piggy]

Actually, I picked friends. Although we haven't managed to "catch" any of our friends I think this would be a fun way to go. We have used the ad route and that has worked nicely. I don't think we'll try clubs just because we really aren't club going types.

~Piggy

[Vjklander]

The people we have actually met from Swing Lifestyle have all been great. A few contacts we declined before meeting for various reasons. Only one rude guy so far but 'ignore' cured that problem.
We also have many contacts from the TBDSM community, but I don't really count those in the swinging domain, even if we do share pleasures.
J R

[Spoomonkey]

Clubs work for us and our busy schedules. It is easy to say, "we have this Friday off - let's party!" There are usually attractive couples and or single guys to help in our desire to play.

We've never been invited to a house party, though I suspect we'd go if we knew the people involved (hosting). I think the club would still be nicer since the serendipity of the club experience is quite a turn on.

On-line ads are okay, but you just have to work with so many schedules it can become irritating. If the other couple has kids, then you feel bad that they have to pay for a sitter everytime we go out for dinner - and if we want to actually play... Well - that involves calling out favors from grandma. We've met good people on-line, but it isn't a preferred choice, simply because we're just too damn busy...

Now - what we'd like eventually, is to have a small group of playmates we rotate houses with. But - at that point they would no longer be "potential" so I guess that doesn't count

Spoomonkey

[j57andj56]

Selected Friends because that is the only method we have to success with todate. Have not really tried ads or clubs. Just getting started in this vougue.

[CB_n_Red]

On-line adverts mostly for us so far, though having just recently (at long last) found the local group, we suspect things may get a lot easier soon

We have also played with friends, though not often.

[married_lovers]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

On-line ads are okay, but you just have to work with so many schedules it can become irritating.
Spoomonkey

Our preference is definitely clubs. As Spoomonkey says, it avoids a great deal of irritation while trying to match schedules. With clubs, there are no surprises and no multiple "meets." The down side is that there is no in-depth matching of personalities that can lead to long term friendships. But you can certainly acquire friends by going to clubs.

This said, we do meet people through Swing Lifestyle. It's just not our first preference.

[C4CIN]

Online services, then off to clubs to meet... and then...

[eazy]

We like online adds, Sometimes those work great.

[Vespertine]

I picked other.

I wish I had two options, I'd have picked friends too.

We've had a lot of fun at vanilla clubs, we enjoy trying to convert people.

[funtoplay]

Being from rural Nova Scotia...well, relatively rural anyways, our preferred method is through online ads. We also belong to some online clubs that hold dances and various other functions. I don't believe there are that many clubs per se in the Maritimes. Most of the action seems to be happening in these online groups that have functions every month

[vancpl]

Hi Vespertine

have you been successful at converting vanilla people?
can you recount an experience of doing so..?

Just curious as to how you went about it...

best
Vancpl

[warkman]

Originally Posted by vancpl

Hi Vespertine

have you been successful at converting vanilla people?
can you recount an experience of doing so..?

Just curious as to how you went about it...

best
Vancpl

Are these vanilla people that you meet for the first time at these parties that you try to convert, or are they longer term friends? Either way, I think I would be too scared and intimidated to have my "conversion attempt" blow up in my face and all the subsequent possible fallout. Maybe you're much better at assessing the prospects/risks than I would be.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by vancpl

Hi Vespertine

have you been successful at converting vanilla people?
can you recount an experience of doing so..?

Just curious as to how you went about it...

best
Vancpl

Originally Posted by warkman

Are these vanilla people that you meet for the first time at these parties that you try to convert, or are they longer term friends? Either way, I think I would be too scared and intimidated to have my "conversion attempt" blow up in my face and all the subsequent possible fallout. Maybe you're much better at assessing the prospects/risks than I would be.

We have a great track record for picking up singles at vanilla clubs for threesomes.

We like not knowing what the outcome of a seduction will be. We like working for it, it makes playtime so much more rewarding. We don't like a sure thing. We like a challenge.

Both my husband and I are outgoing people, we love to meet new people and have fun. You usually get a feel if someone would be receptive right off the bat. We usually just look for singles that interest us, and flirt with them. More often than not, they're receptive. We don't wear wedding rings, so that's a good ice breaker for us. When we tell them we're married, they'll usually ask why we don't wear rings. Our canned reply is "'Cause it makes it that much harder to pick someone up, we're pretty open in our relationship....etc....". They bite if they're interested.

We haven't been slapped in the face yet.

We're a younger couple (30, 33), down here in Florida the weekends get pretty wild. I've also noticed that 2/5 women my age here are bi, or open to it.

As far as friends go, we're just open with (most of) them. If they're interested, they'll approach us.

[BradAndJanet]

We like clubs. It's so much less time consuming to meet people and you get to see what they're like right away.

At first we were afraid to go. We didn't know what to expect. Would there be pressure to swing? Would anyone talk to us? Would there be naked people running all around the place? (Well, OK, that last one wasn't really a fear!! )

It turned out to be a great experience and we wonder now why it took us so long to go in the first place. We're pretty much done with ads now.

-B