Poll: Are You Willing to go Bareback?

[Greg & Sheryl]

This particular thread Bareback Swingers made us curious about how common bareback sex is among those of us on the Board. The following is a poll we saw on a Yahoo! group earlier this year. We are looking forward to reading your feedback.

[oliverx]

Interesting poll. We usually do not go bareback with our playmates. But a couple we know and trust is our bareback playmate couple.

There is always a risk but when we have reached our age and feel comfortable with our players we do take the ride.

Life is a risk anyway and it is much more exciting and enjoyable to ride bare. As for oral sex it is like chewing the candy with the wrap around if it is not bare.

Even our condom players do not use saran wrap orally.

Al fun is risky and we do not use guns or do mountain climbing and also drive carefully.

Enjoy life it is too short anyway and can end anytime and the fun should not be taken away.

Oliverx

[Spoomonkey]

We voted the middle one... But like we said in the bareback thread - it really depends on really getting to know the couple. We've never done - may never do it - but wouldn't be opposed to getting to know a couple well enough to play unencumbered...

Spoomonkey

[good times]

It appears we are in the minority here, but we take the position that we don't need to use condoms but will if requested. In reality we usually do use them because I have had a vasectomy but my wife is very fertile. For medical reasons my wife can't take birth control or use the morning after pill and abortion doesn't seem like all that good of an option. So if the male of the other couple isn't fixed my wife lets him know that he needs to put on a helmet.

As far as std's go we have spent many hours discussing it and many more hours researching them, and these are our conclusions.

The one we are most afraid of, would be aids. After reading many studies, many focusing on heterosexual transmition, we have come to the conclusion that given the demographic makeup of the group we hang out with, our chances of getting hit by lightning while walking from our car to the club is much higher than getting aids from somebody while we are there. In our opinion the odds just don't justify a large amount of concern of contracting this desease.

The next most concerning would be hepatitus. This one could be a biggie in the future but for the common strains currently out there, their is a vaccine the gives more protection than would be afforded by using a condom.

HPV, herpes and probably a couple I forgot are currently uncurable, but from my research the protection provided by the use of condoms from the transmition of these is pretty much non existent as they can be easily transmitted by touch or contact.

Then their are the list of std's that can be treated like syphilis, gonerhea (sp?), chlamidia, etc,, These respond well to drugs so while they are a concern I don't think I will lose a lot of sleep worrying about them.

So after studying up on all these things I have come to the conclusion that even though we have sex with others, I'm still much more likely to die of more conventional causes than from an std transmitted through hetrosexual sex.

If we have sex without using a condum, are we taking a risk? Absolutely, but we have come to the conclusion that for the type of partners we choose, the risk is minor and so we generally have decided that it is worth the risk. Some of the most enjoyable things in life carry a risk, I intend to enjoy life to the fullest.

[BettyAnnMBSC]

We really look at the middle responses as about equal -- couple months, couple weeks -- same, same.

It's about comfort levels with the partner and it's my decision. I generally use the same rationalle I would if I were a single girl dating again -- if I'd go bareback if I were single, I'll trust him now.

I can't really describe the method I use to decide -- I'm not sure if it's a look or a feeling or what.

Most simply put, some guys get to go bareback and some don't -- and I decide. A sure way to make sure you don't go bareback is to insist that you never wear a condom or make some other lame excuse. Virgins almost always get to go bareback facelick

[Alura]

Anal sex is the most likely act to transmit aids because the rectum almost always gets small tears, giving access to the blood stream. Both of us don't really care for it anyway, so write off that risk.

We consider the activity of a couple we're interested in. The less activity, the less risk of STDs.

The time we've known a couple is not so important to us but how much we trust what they have to say about their history is.

We also believe that reading eyes can tell us a lot about anyone. If we "like their eyes" we're much more likely to trust someone. "White eyes," the Native American term for white men, has nothing to do with the color of their skin but their propensity to lie. My grandfather was much better at "reading eyes" than I am.

I think the best advice in this thread (sorry, forgot who wrote it) is "find a couple with whom you feel you don't need to worry about STDs and use condoms anyway."

Mr. Alura

[Chris&Amelia]

We use protection (condoms) almost all of the time, but go bareback with select couples (most recently, check out our thread HERE). Unless we've known you for a significant amount of time and we trust you, it's "no glove, no love".

I had one woman who we knew for only a week try to "sneak" the condom off of me during play. That was awkward, but we decided to go our separate ways when that happened. I later heard rumors that her husband was naturally sterile, and she was looking to get pregnant.*

But we also acknowledge that there is a time and place for bareback sex as well. We play with two other couples sans condoms. And, frankly, everybody enjoys it.

Addendum: Anal sex with any other woman other then Amelia is always with a condom. No exceptions to that rule at all.

The motorcycle metaphor was appropriate. Yes, there is a chance that we may pick up a bug, but it's unlikely. There's also a far greater chance of me getting killed by a deer running in front of my car while I go down the road, but that doesn't mean I think all the deer in my neighborhood should be hunted down and shot.** After weighing the risks and benefits of going bareback with a very select number of couples (currently only two), we've decided to go this course of action. And we've been pretty pleased with it.

* - Boy, she would have been disappointed!

** - Nothing wrong with a controlled harvest, though. Venison's quite tasty, especially in a stew.

[Paul&Audrey]

In the few FFM threesomes
(and the one cumming up this weekend ) I have yet to use a condom due to the "fetish" Baremama has with eating the creampie the gal & i have created. Baremama & I have been tested since our last "adventure" and both of us are clean as can be . If we had ANY fear of one of the women having something, the intimacy would never have taken place to begin with...

~~bare~~


P.S. In the immortal words of Sam Kinison: "If you dont trust the pussy, WHY are you fucking the pussy??!?!?"

[lcjtsd]

Originally posted by good times
It appears we are in the minority here, but we take the position that we don't need to use condoms but will if requested.

I don't know if we're in the minority here (seems like it) but we agree with you.

Our attitude is that if the husband of the other couple wants me (Mrs.) to give him head without it covered or his wife wants my husband to lick her coochie without it covered, why use anything when it comes to actual intercourse? If anyone has anything, it's most likely already spread around to everybody.

Think about it, with unprotected oral sex it seems that the concern is with the mans ejaculate. STD's such as gonorrhea are in the mans penis. (That's why it's called The Drip)

From the other postings I have read on this subject, the odds of catching anything is pretty low and HIV is almost non-existent. It seems that the only thing you are likely to get is something you probably already have anyway.

Please, this is only what WE believe and not meant to say that everyone should believe this way.

There is a risk to this lifestyle and it's all a matter of what level of risk you want to take. Let's be honest, except for monogamy, the only other way to be 99.99% safe is to have everyone wear a full body latex suit. What fun is that?

I remember reading on another post that someone stated that they choose to swing with others who had been married for quite a while. That's what we do also. We feel that by choosing others who are fairly new to this and have been married for a while (10+ years) and have kids, the odds of catching anything are pretty low.

I'm not saying that there is no need for condoms. If both the man and woman are fertile then, yes, use them. I have been tied but my husband is a fertile as they get. I would NEVER let him have sex with a woman who was not on birth control without one on!

Anyone else here with the same attitude?

Mrs. LCJTSD

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally posted by lcjtsd
ILet's be honest, except for monogamy, the only other way to be 99.99% safe is to have everyone wear a full body latex suit. What fun is that?

Well... what color latex suit we talking here?

[da2ofusgb]

Originally posted by good times
It appears we are in the minority here, but we take the position that we don't need to use condoms but will if requested. In reality we usually do use them because I have had a vasectomy but my wife is very fertile. For medical reasons my wife can't take birth control or use the morning after pill and abortion doesn't seem like all that good of an option. So if the male of the other couple isn't fixed my wife lets him know that he needs to put on a helmet.

As far as std's go we have spent many hours discussing it and many more hours researching them, and these are our conclusions.

The one we are most afraid of, would be aids. After reading many studies, many focusing on heterosexual transmition, we have come to the conclusion that given the demographic makeup of the group we hang out with, our chances of getting hit by lightning while walking from our car to the club is much higher than getting aids from somebody while we are there. In our opinion the odds just don't justify a large amount of concern of contracting this desease.

The next most concerning would be hepatitus. This one could be a biggie in the future but for the common strains currently out there, their is a vaccine the gives more protection than would be afforded by using a condom.

HPV, herpes and probably a couple I forgot are currently uncurable, but from my research the protection provided by the use of condoms from the transmition of these is pretty much non existent as they can be easily transmitted by touch or contact.

Then their are the list of std's that can be treated like syphilis, gonerhea (sp?), chlamidia, etc,, These respond well to drugs so while they are a concern I don't think I will lose a lot of sleep worrying about them.

So after studying up on all these things I have come to the conclusion that even though we have sex with others, I'm still much more likely to die of more conventional causes than from an std transmitted through hetrosexual sex.

If we have sex without using a condum, are we taking a risk? Absolutely, but we have come to the conclusion that for the type of partners we choose, the risk is minor and so we generally have decided that it is worth the risk. Some of the most enjoyable things in life carry a risk, I intend to enjoy life to the fullest.

Dito

[sensualtouch]

As the poll was for couples & I am a single male, I did not respond to it beause I did not want to affect the results. However, as a single male who swings with couples, I wanted to give my input. I prefer being bareback whether it's vaginal, oral or anal because of the heightened sensitivity. I love the feel of a woman & want us to enjoy my being inside her to the maximum. I realize that there are disease risks, but I am very selective in my partners. I also know that this is not foolproof. As far as pregnancy is concerned, my vasectomy has been tested quite often for over 30 years & seems to have proven to be effective.

[dc29]

As a couple new to the lifestyle, we would want to use condoms. She is on the pill, but any extra protection against pregnacy helps. We would still want to use condoms later, unless we were sure we could not get an STD. Any extra protection, is helpful.

[St. Augustine]

Mike does not like using condoms, but we agreed that if we are connecting with a couple or a single for play, that he would use a condom in the beginning.

Once the relationship became a long term thing then we would not be so strong minded about it.

Condoms do not prevent pregnancy 100%, but I feel a little safer knowing that at least we did our part in trying to prevent it.... I can't imagine what it would be like to swing with another couple and have the female partner in her fertile stage and become pregnant... and us not knowing who the father would be....

[ch85books]

I am right there with you, my wife loves to eat those creampies, and that gets me going all over again to watch her! We usually know the couples we play with, but have to admit there have been a few big orgies where we just did whoever, wherever, however.