What are your rules?

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by MrSnozzberryBlu

Also, what you may feel should be a rule because you don't know these people, may not be an issue after you meet. There have been several couples that my wife and I have felt less restrictive about after meeting them.

This is how we feel and something we always keep in mind. Our rules totally depends on our comfort level with the other couple. And that's great, that's how we want it. We want to enjoy and be so comfortable with another couple that we can let go of some of the limitations and just have a good time and go with the flow.

[lonesomedove341]

We have a few..One is Safe Sex..Always use Condoms no matter what..No Anal...And we only swing with couples togather. Same Room only...I will not meet couples on my own hubby has to be there..And No means No..If one doesnt want then the other doesnt either.

[txduo2000]

Well … we have a few rules (one I just learned about ):

1. No anal with others (this was the one I just learned about … hubby is very adamant that no one goes “there” but him)

2. No separate room swap – we are in this together, to be together and share everything together

3. Initial contact with single men must be between the men, with couples, it doesn’t really matter if I or he talks with the woman, but the males must communicate early on in the game. This one is fairly new because we have had problems with posers and liars and men of couples who are just trying to notch their bedposts with every other man’s wife.

4. Safe sex … unless we are very comfortable with the other party and feel secure in their honesty about their “cleanliness”

5. Open and honest communication

6. No one "takes one for the team" - If we don't agree, or if one is not comfortable in a situation, it's called off.

[katejustkate]

i agree toyally, Except the no pain....No..don't ask!

Originally Posted by smileytattoo

I guess I did leave off a few that I thought were a given as well:
No children or animals (We stick to over 21 yrs old)
No pain unless I ask for it!
No body functions (Do I look like a toilet?)

[nicecpl89511]

We have a few basic rules. The usual about no kids, no water sports, no potty games, etc.

We both have to feel very comfortable about the other couple.
We only swing together.
Unless we know the other couple(s) very well safe sex is the rule.
We are same room swap couple.

Wanda

[greatesc]

We have strict rules
No Anal, just never have gone there
Must be spontaneous and not planned
If we play it's all of us together at the same time, no going off into diffent corners
Have to be friends first
No Pain, water play, hate role playing

[twobears]

Hi there everyone we always use protection for intercourse and somtimes if we know the couple, if in thier work where they are tested yearly, then oral sex we may not use anything. We are new and my husband had the same thoughts as the couple stated on here, I put my foot down! I am in the health field and know the chances we take just being in the lifestyle but that is what we want. With our age a STD could cause health issues I don't want my husband to take, so ALL intercourse is with protection. We are trying in our sex life to find the best style of condom that fits my hubby. I want him to have all of the pleasure that he can. Most people only try one type and one size, so try something different. There are all kinds of condoms for everyone.! If I do not know the couple and we are in club setting even my oral on the male will be with condoms, some men have leakage during oral sex an I DO NOT WANT TO Swallow fresh seman. To the lady that is having difficulty enjoying seeing her hubby enjoy sex with other's, I have to keep in mind, when it comes up in my feeling, that I do want my hubby to be pleased he is only sharing his body functions, not his heart feelings. Safe and pleasure to all!!!

[Atilla]

Our rules are simple: same room, condoms always, no MM action, and if one of us or both of us aren't happy or comfortable then it's done and it doesn't go any further

[pairbond]

We have just 2 rules.

1) Have fun.

2) Remember who you are going home with.

[Tia Vampire]

Safe sex is a must, no oral sex for him and think he's going to kiss me, no anal sex for me, because that's only for my man, and no letting another man cum anywhere on my body.

[twobears]

Hi there again, they do have a protective sheet of real thin latex I think can order from one of the sites on internet,drugstore.com or whatever. Oral sex is a big part of our fun we love oral sex,I can cum myself giving head,it is a real turn on for me(female) here and my husband. Each of us draw our of all of our ideas and it makes it great for everyone I hope and think it should. Take care,have safe fun!!!

[LFM2]

Mr. LFM and I have discussed this until we're blue in the face. We used to have this list as long as Al Capone's rap sheet.

We've pared it down to just a few things now...

• No anal for me. It's not that I don't like it, it's just that I don't want some over-eager man going wild in my ass. Mr. LFM is allowed to perform anal if his partner wishes. He is excellent at giving!
• No condoms mean no intercourse. That is something only reserved for Mr. LFM
• No one-on-one meetings
• No kids or bathroom stuff
• Same room only
• Our number one rule: Have fun for Gawd's sakes. Isn't that the reason we wanted to try this?

*disclaimer: These rules may change as we see fit.

[telly2]

Biggest rule, always together, no seperate meetings.
after that what EVERYONE is comfortable with.

[r_poseidon]

No cumming in her mouth (unless we both say ok). Same with cumming on her face. For something like that, have to really like and trust the guy.
No kissing. But with the right couple, we agree that one can go.
Same room only. But again, with the right couple, it would be ok to go seperate.
No anal. She just doesn't like it.
Present and conduct yourself with class. If we were to be seen in public, we would not want to be embarassed.
Be respectful.

None of those are too out of line, am I right or wrong?

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by LFM2

*disclaimer: These rules may change as we see fit.

There has been one significant change to a rule with which JoAnn and I began. The change in attitude was needed on my part. The original rule, "You don't play with the husband unless I get to play with his wife." This rule still holds for occasions when we invited a couple to our home. But I was trying to maintain it for private parties. It ruined the spontaneity. JoAnn would be aching to jump some sexy guy’s bones. Instead she was anxiously watching me to be sure I was making time with the guy’s wife. Finally I said, the hell with it, I'll be OK even if I go home from a party without having had any sex. The dynamics of a party situation are just too subtle and complex to assure that I am going to get intimate every time. I am ready to report to you that this rule change has proven to be very liberating – for the both of us.

Michael