Swinging with Kids in the House

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-14-2002, 10:59 AM

This question applies both to those who have kids or don't.

If you have kids, do you swing with your kids in the house? Or do you go elsewhere or at least make sure they aren't home?

Whether or not you have kids, what are your feelings towards the idea of parents who swing, swinging with kids in the house? How would you feel if you were at someone's home to play and knew there kids were just upstairs or in the next bedroom?

ILcouple · 05-14-2002, 11:56 AM

from our post on Unforgetable Swinging Expierience I would have to say we prefer the no kids in the house period approach unless of course they are not able to walk yet then I would feel a lil more comfy and willing to play but with children in the house it does run its risks and try explaining to them why mommy and or daddy is doing those things to that person is a topic im sure most who have children do not want to explain and you know know kids in the school yard my mommy and daddy did this and having your child pipe up OH yeah well my mommy and daddy was doing....... reminds me of the show kids say that darndest things or the new commercial ad I have seen where the child answers the phone and tells the caller that mommy is in the shower and then adds that daddy is there also hmmmm add a lil twist about walking in on mommy and daddy with a few strangers and you have yourself a visit from mom and dad teachers couselors etc. lol so no not going to contribute to that. there is my 2 cents.
Rachel the better half of ILcouple

PA_RACERS · 05-14-2002, 12:14 PM

We have a had a threesome a couple of times while our kids were sleeping. But our kids knew this guy and he comes to house on a regular basis. It was nothing new for our kids to wake up and find him crashed on our couch. But We would not do anything with any other person or couple while the kids were home. We keep our swinging friends apart from our children. And if I went to somone house an their kids were there we would leave. I think there are somethings that children should never be exposed to. We were just lucky that our kids are heavy sleepers. I honestly don't think we will ever do anything with them home again.

**TNT** · 05-14-2002, 12:41 PM

We never play while our kids are in the house. We have had one person come over, but our kids were all gone for the night and were not expected home until the next afternoon. We do our playing usually in a hotel room. To us, it's just safer that way for all concerned.

I don't think I would be comfortable while my kids or anyone elses were in the house.

ciscosv · 05-14-2002, 01:41 PM

That is an interesting question. My wife and I do not have kids that we know of yet. We would be uncomfortable if there were kids in the place and therefore would not participate in any "sexual swinging" activity. Hanging out and playing cards or something non sexual would be fine.

CanadianCouple · 05-14-2002, 05:31 PM

Our two kids are both grown and out of the house, but under no circumstances would we ever play with others while they're under the same roof. Just us.

Dan

kennlea · 05-15-2002, 12:25 AM

We make sure that the kids are not around when we play. They are at a sitters. We have several couples that we are friends with that we also play with. If they come over when the kids are home, nothing sexual happens. We don't even swear when the kids are around and awake. Well...ok...there was that one time, but when one cuts their thumb open with a knife, one should swear a little. <img border="0" alt="[Tongue]" title="" src="graemlins/tongue.gif" />
Lea

**Alura** · 05-15-2002, 10:46 AM

Generally we arrange for the kids to overnight with their grandparents, forty miles away, when we play. Well, okay, one beautiful summer night we were playing cards with some playmates when a moonlight swim was suggested. We checked, found the kids were asleep upstairs and gave in to the temptation. Fortunately, the children slept through it. The pool is secluded, can't be seen from the kids' windows or by neighbors and we were very quiet so there probably wasn't much danger of "being caught." Still, the danger was there and neither of us was really comfortable. Later we discussed what had happened and decided not to repeat the experience. We're not big risk junkies.
Alura

Trish · 05-15-2002, 06:43 PM

I think its actually sort of a turn-on to do it while the kids are asleep, the risk of being caught makes it so naughty,lol.....

The only time we've done it while the kids (who are 2 and 7) were awake was the time we did an impromptu 3some with the lawn guy, which is a loooooong story,lol.

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-21-2002, 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Trish:
I think its actually sort of a turn-on to do it while the kids are asleep, the risk of being caught makes it so naughty,lol.....

And what if you are caught? How do you explain that to your kids? Aren't your kids more important than getting an extra rush over the fact that they might catch you?

invictus · 05-21-2002, 10:37 PM

Never at home!! Some kids wake up, some kids drop in from ther own house, some kids who still live at home drop in to pick up something.

We have occasionally "skinny dipped" in the pool with other couples, but we feel we could explain that as good clean fun. It is on a much different level than explaining why 4 poeple were all locked in our bedroom and took several minutes to open the door...

The lifestyle is a blast but not something to explain to kids. Do not open that "can of worms" with them.

In our ever so humble opinion.....

Flori_DAMAN · 05-22-2002, 10:32 AM

My 8 kids range from 3-23. From old stories from the older ones we have never done anything that hey were not at least pretty surely aware of. They don't tell you untill you are older but they are smarter and much more observant than you think.
We never do any playing with others at home and would never consider it. But things like caller ID, where ya going? Why does mom have her negligee and your boxers in that bag in the back seat next day? Also, private conversations are quite often heard between walls, through furnace ducts, and just plain forgetting who is in the house. Be prepared to be caught whether you swing at home or not. Kids are just little people but have huge curiousities about what parents do.

Kids ability to percieve is terribly underestimated I have found. John

invictus · 05-22-2002, 08:59 PM

"Kids ability to percieve is terribly underestimated I have found"-michigancouple

Well said!!

We have kids with an age range not much smaller than yours and have had the same type of "feedback". Our 17 year old stumbled into this site when one of us forgot to clear the history and has had many questions since then. "We got there by accident" does not really satisfy the curiousity of a young intelligent mind.

As we siad in our first post on this topic....

NEVER AT HOME!!!

While we are talking about kids I will stay "on my soap box" and offer another opinion. Often at nudist resorts we will see kids with parents who are into "family naturism". This makes both of us very uncomfortable. Kids should be raised "middle of the road" and left to explore their own boundaries as adults. Too much religion, too much sex, too much whatever should not be taught to children. "Middle of the road" should be the example and they can "swerve" on their own from there as adults, with a well balanced upbringing.

<small>[ 05-22-2002, 09:07 PM: Message edited by: invictus ]</small>

MiCpl · 05-23-2002, 03:46 PM

While we don't have kids, we have been guilty of swinging with other couples who do while their kids are home. It's definatley not something we are remotely comfortable with and in most cases we do avoid it. The one occasion that comes to mind was a night when we had all been out together and came home quite late after their kids had long since been asleep. The way their house is set up also helps a bit since there are two doors to go through before accessing their bedroom (which could be locked) - but we would have been able to hear a knock had one of the kids needed anything (and we would have been able to hide I suppose). All in all I think these kids know way more than their parents give them credit for. They are quite open around them and assume that the kids don't "get it". Which also makes us a bit uncomfortable.

jcbicouple · 02-12-2004, 07:57 PM

We don't entertain at home, and most of our experiences have been at hotels or a club. We have met people at their home before, but no way we would play if there were kids in the house. Having kids walk in on their own parents can be traumatic enough, let alone explaining why mommy and daddy were doing that with someone else.

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View Poll Results: How do you feel about swinging with kids in the house?
I won't swing with kids in the house (mine or someone else's)	209	56.03%
I would as long as the kids are asleep.	66	17.69%
I don't like the idea but I've done it.	72	19.30%
As long as it's not my kids!	15	4.02%
Other	11	2.95%
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05-14-2002, 10:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Swinging with Kids in the House This question applies both to those who have kids or don't. If you have kids, do you swing with your kids in the house? Or do you go elsewhere or at least make sure they aren't home? Whether or not you have kids, what are your feelings towards the idea of parents who swing, swinging with kids in the house? How would you feel if you were at someone's home to play and knew there kids were just upstairs or in the next bedroom? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-14-2002, 11:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
ILcouple Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 97 Location: Illinois Status: couple	from our post on Unforgetable Swinging Expierience I would have to say we prefer the no kids in the house period approach unless of course they are not able to walk yet then I would feel a lil more comfy and willing to play but with children in the house it does run its risks and try explaining to them why mommy and or daddy is doing those things to that person is a topic im sure most who have children do not want to explain and you know know kids in the school yard my mommy and daddy did this and having your child pipe up OH yeah well my mommy and daddy was doing....... reminds me of the show kids say that darndest things or the new commercial ad I have seen where the child answers the phone and tells the caller that mommy is in the shower and then adds that daddy is there also hmmmm add a lil twist about walking in on mommy and daddy with a few strangers and you have yourself a visit from mom and dad teachers couselors etc. lol so no not going to contribute to that. there is my 2 cents. Rachel the better half of ILcouple __________________ "Sex is like a game of cards...... if you don’t have a partner you better have a good hand cause you aint playing in my playground =)"

05-14-2002, 12:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,196 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31	We never play while our kids are in the house. We have had one person come over, but our kids were all gone for the night and were not expected home until the next afternoon. We do our playing usually in a hotel room. To us, it's just safer that way for all concerned. I don't think I would be comfortable while my kids or anyone elses were in the house. __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

05-14-2002, 12:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
PA_RACERS Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 84 Location: Titusville, PA, USA Status: couple str8m/bifem	We have a had a threesome a couple of times while our kids were sleeping. But our kids knew this guy and he comes to house on a regular basis. It was nothing new for our kids to wake up and find him crashed on our couch. But We would not do anything with any other person or couple while the kids were home. We keep our swinging friends apart from our children. And if I went to somone house an their kids were there we would leave. I think there are somethings that children should never be exposed to. We were just lucky that our kids are heavy sleepers. I honestly don't think we will ever do anything with them home again.

05-14-2002, 01:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
ciscosv Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 750 Location: Redford, Michigan Status: Married Couple	That is an interesting question. My wife and I do not have kids that we know of yet. We would be uncomfortable if there were kids in the place and therefore would not participate in any "sexual swinging" activity. Hanging out and playing cards or something non sexual would be fine. __________________ M&M Melts in your mouth, not in your hand

05-14-2002, 05:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
CanadianCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 1,139 Location: New Brunswick, Canada Status: Married Couple	Our two kids are both grown and out of the house, but under no circumstances would we ever play with others while they're under the same roof. Just us. Dan

05-15-2002, 12:25 AM	#7 (permalink)
kennlea Active Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 40 Location: Duluth,MN	We make sure that the kids are not around when we play. They are at a sitters. We have several couples that we are friends with that we also play with. If they come over when the kids are home, nothing sexual happens. We don't even swear when the kids are around and awake. Well...ok...there was that one time, but when one cuts their thumb open with a knife, one should swear a little. <img border="0" alt="[Tongue]" title="" src="graemlins/tongue.gif" /> Lea __________________ hmmmmm..... Let me see.... Yeah, we can do that!

05-15-2002, 10:46 AM	#8 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,126 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Generally we arrange for the kids to overnight with their grandparents, forty miles away, when we play. Well, okay, one beautiful summer night we were playing cards with some playmates when a moonlight swim was suggested. We checked, found the kids were asleep upstairs and gave in to the temptation. Fortunately, the children slept through it. The pool is secluded, can't be seen from the kids' windows or by neighbors and we were very quiet so there probably wasn't much danger of "being caught." Still, the danger was there and neither of us was really comfortable. Later we discussed what had happened and decided not to repeat the experience. We're not big risk junkies. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

05-15-2002, 06:43 PM	#9 (permalink)
Trish Registered Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 3 Location: GA	I think its actually sort of a turn-on to do it while the kids are asleep, the risk of being caught makes it so naughty,lol..... The only time we've done it while the kids (who are 2 and 7) were awake was the time we did an impromptu 3some with the lawn guy, which is a loooooong story,lol.

05-21-2002, 10:37 PM	#11 (permalink)
invictus Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 95 Location: SW Indiana Status: couple	Never at home!! Some kids wake up, some kids drop in from ther own house, some kids who still live at home drop in to pick up something. We have occasionally "skinny dipped" in the pool with other couples, but we feel we could explain that as good clean fun. It is on a much different level than explaining why 4 poeple were all locked in our bedroom and took several minutes to open the door... The lifestyle is a blast but not something to explain to kids. Do not open that "can of worms" with them. In our ever so humble opinion..... __________________ M is the male half. J is the lady. Invictus means unconquered

05-22-2002, 10:32 AM	#12 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	My 8 kids range from 3-23. From old stories from the older ones we have never done anything that hey were not at least pretty surely aware of. They don't tell you untill you are older but they are smarter and much more observant than you think. We never do any playing with others at home and would never consider it. But things like caller ID, where ya going? Why does mom have her negligee and your boxers in that bag in the back seat next day? Also, private conversations are quite often heard between walls, through furnace ducts, and just plain forgetting who is in the house. Be prepared to be caught whether you swing at home or not. Kids are just little people but have huge curiousities about what parents do. Kids ability to percieve is terribly underestimated I have found. John

05-22-2002, 08:59 PM	#13 (permalink)
invictus Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 95 Location: SW Indiana Status: couple	"Kids ability to percieve is terribly underestimated I have found"-michigancouple Well said!! We have kids with an age range not much smaller than yours and have had the same type of "feedback". Our 17 year old stumbled into this site when one of us forgot to clear the history and has had many questions since then. "We got there by accident" does not really satisfy the curiousity of a young intelligent mind. As we siad in our first post on this topic.... NEVER AT HOME!!! While we are talking about kids I will stay "on my soap box" and offer another opinion. Often at nudist resorts we will see kids with parents who are into "family naturism". This makes both of us very uncomfortable. Kids should be raised "middle of the road" and left to explore their own boundaries as adults. Too much religion, too much sex, too much whatever should not be taught to children. "Middle of the road" should be the example and they can "swerve" on their own from there as adults, with a well balanced upbringing. <small>[ 05-22-2002, 09:07 PM: Message edited by: invictus ]</small> __________________ M is the male half. J is the lady. Invictus means unconquered

05-23-2002, 03:46 PM	#14 (permalink)
MiCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2000 Posts: 106 Location: MI	While we don't have kids, we have been guilty of swinging with other couples who do while their kids are home. It's definatley not something we are remotely comfortable with and in most cases we do avoid it. The one occasion that comes to mind was a night when we had all been out together and came home quite late after their kids had long since been asleep. The way their house is set up also helps a bit since there are two doors to go through before accessing their bedroom (which could be locked) - but we would have been able to hear a knock had one of the kids needed anything (and we would have been able to hide I suppose). All in all I think these kids know way more than their parents give them credit for. They are quite open around them and assume that the kids don't "get it". Which also makes us a bit uncomfortable.

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