Swinging with Kids in the House

[omneesx]

Originally Posted by 4forfun

EUcpl Are yours and your friends children sleeping in a crib? Probably not by their ages, so what if the children wake up and happen to catch you with a different partner? How do you explain that? It seems to me that having fun is first and foremost in your lives than worrying about your children walking in on you. Shame on you. Mrs

Our experience has been similar to EUcpl and "Protecting the Children" was never a factor in the situation because if this one fact. To those kids of similar ages at the time, bedtime was bedtime and to disregard that rule resulted in dire consequences for them. Unless the house was burning, they understood they were to stay in their room.

If the child knows the rules and tends to obey them then you most likely wont have any of the embarrasing situations people have mentioned here, which has been our experience. If your children are the type to constantly interrupt your favorite movie after they've been told to go to bed then we agree that swinging in the house may not be for you. Worrying about children does not keep us from having fun any more than worrying about a new partner's breath. We are prepared and usually manage ok. Is it also shameful when parents hire a sitter to "have fun" instead of being there for their children? Is it shameful to keep pornagraphy in the house because the child might get into it? Is it shameful to be nude in front of your child?

We also would like to mention again that we don't believe a child witnessing a sex act is immediately hurtful to a child. Seems to us that when a child walks in on their parents (provided those parents have not laid ground rules concerning entry into the parents' bedroom), the resulting apparent shame and extreme discomfort of the parent is what the child remembers. A calm explanation to the level of the child's understanding would be much better than, "Oh my god! Go to your room now!"
Are we way off here?

[intuition897]

In general, it is highly preferable to send the kids to Mom's house in any circumstance as far as swinging is concerned. However, it is absolutely necessary to have a sitter lined up if they are of an age that they can get out of bed themselves. There's no way we're taking a chance with our little insomniacs, and we would politely decline an invitation at someone else's house if they had kids there...at least until we could arrange a sitter or rent a room. It's not worth the risk.

[C4CIN]

As far as responsible parenting goes- kids can walk in on the parents without being swingeres! We always lock the doors alone or with company. We usually prefer to go out but we like the surprise 3-some every so often and kids don't allow for much spontaneous fun... We alson have an outside door to our master bath from the yard...

[mlsngoldnxx]

OMG i was starting to think we were freaks. thanx for sharing a differant opinion and your not alone in your thoughts.

[DBL D]

Kids in the house...

Fem D

[Zoe&Wash]

We've been walked in on too many times that the idea of having friends over while our little sleepwalker is in the same county, let alone the same little pink house, scares the hell out of us.

Gonna have to go with door locked, lights out, sleepwalker with relatives and us 200 miles away on this one.

[wiscpl]

Have we? yes! Do we do it as a rule, no. We would much rather pack up for a weekend get away to play than risk getting "caught" in a situation such as this. However, lock the door, put a chair in front of it and keep the moans below a fog horn and we're fine.

[C4CIN]

Originally Posted by wiscpl

...and keep the moans below a fog horn...

Good point, we are not a noisy couple but your comment cracked us up!

[WillnWoo]

WE have 2 kids.. and voted other.. mainly because we have swung with the kids in the house... but it's with a regular friend (and our sons Godfather)... basically.. husband number 2.. more of a polyamour relationship...

Whenit comes to others... we would be wary of inviting people back when the kids are home...

2 reasons really... Firstly: if the kids woke up... or needed attention it would interupt the natural flow of the evening..
Secondly.. and more importantly.. the other people's embarisment factor... this is difficult to explain... but .. try and imagine the situation... and I'll think you'll understand..

As for the kids walking in on the act...OK... it's easier to explain when it's mummy and daddy... than if it's mummy and some person they have never seen before... but...you still ahve to explain the "Special cuddle stuff".. no matter what.. however.. with the way our kids sleep... (we are very lucky)... the walking in on us possiblilty is dramtically reduced... that said... this is another reason to avoid the Swinging when Kids are home.. at least until they are mature enough to understand what is going on, and sexually mature enough as well...

to summarise.. no we wouldn't swing with the kids at home.. except with Husband number 2... or .... someone else that knows the kids, and the kids know them as well as mum and dad..

W&W

[JustAskJulie]

We are not kid friendly, not even in the vanilla sense, so likely if we knew someone's kids were going to be home we wouldn't even be over there. We can deal with older kids and some of our good friends do have little ones that we can handle, but for the most part we try to avoid them.

[havefuninsun]

No way. Our kids are older, which means we don't need a sitter. Which ALSO means that they come and go. Bummer that we can't host at our house.

[cubnamy1995]

Are you kidding me ?????

I love my children, don't get me wrong, but part of the reason we swing is to take time off from those little bastards!

Seriously, swinging is our adult play time, and the last thing we would want or need is to have kids around. If we can get a babysitter for our 4, you can for your two. Know what I mean?

Part of swinging is being able to cut loose. You can't do that with children in the house.

[Ellyanne77]

We say no kids in the house ever. As a matter of fact (maybe it's because we are newbies) but we don't swing at our house or others. We (just the hubby and I) have always gone to a hotel once every couple of months just to get out of the house and spice things up. So now its really no different. There is just something great about getting a hotel room making a mess of it with clothes flying and condom wrappers and then just leaving the mess and going home lol.
We have been invited to house parties and have yet to go to one but will eventually. As for just 4 people hanging out at each others homes...just not going to happen for us. We love the sex but can do without it just to go out and have a great dinner or dancing night out! Just our way.

[sweet_tna]

We have played with kids in the house (asleep), but not something we care to repeat.

[Trace Ekies]

Like TNA, we have played with kids asleep in the house and care to never do it again.