Swinging with Kids in the House

[Alura]

We only played one time with our children at home. They were very young and upstairs asleep. The action took place outside in the swimming pool.

Had they awakened and come outside, which they never did at that age, the motion-sensing lights would have warned us in time.

We would not do the same thing today. They're teenagers and very aware of most everything.

Mr. Alura

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by Alura

We would not do the same thing today. They're teenagers and very aware of most everything.

Mr. Alura

I think that is a very significant comment! Teenagers (and even younger kids) really do seem to be far more aware of what is going on around them than many of us (I suspect) give them credit for. Red and I have one "child" still at home (the other two have long since got their own places). She is nearly 20 now and we are pretty sure that she has a good idea of what we are up to, though she is tactful enough not to ask the questions which might result in answers she wouldn't want to hear. I don't think she would be shocked (we didn't bring up the kids to have those sorts of hidebound attitudes) though it might make her uncomfortable if she knew the truth.

Needless to say, we don't play at home. There's no knowing what hour of the day or night she might show up!

Food for thought.

CB

[xxoticangel]

Years ago we played with children in the house. One couple had a toddler of about 18 months and we always played behind locked doors. We also had a one or two playdates while our childern were home but again they were very young (4 and 2), our guest arrived after they were asleep, and we locked the bedroom door before anyone got naked. Now that they are older we would never consider doing anything with them in the house. The only time we get online for adult purposes is after they are asleep or while they are in school.

I also grew up in a swinging household. When I was young (5 or 6) my "Uncle" Bill would come into town once a month or so and he slept in my parents room (where else would he sleep? my friends that slept over slept in my room). We also had joint vacations with other families where the children had one room and the parents had an ajoining room. I was 8 or 9 and didn't think anything about it. Looking back my parents were not very discreet but I didn't realize anything was going on until I got involved in the the lifestyle. Thoughts or situations pop into my head and it triggers a memory from my youth and I realize what was happening.

[two4youinswva]

I remember my high school girlfriend telling me that her parents were swingers. I barely new what that meant at the time, so she explained it all to me. Her parents weren't very discreet about it either. They had one couple they played with. She said they would all go in the bedroom, tell the kids to "stay downstairs and play", and lock the door behind them. How hard would that be to figure out for even the youngest of kids? I met the other couple a few times, and can tell you, they were the type that give swingers a bad name. They were the cliche of bad swingers. Absolutely no discretion, using lots of sexual innuendo around the kids , and generally loud and mouthy.
As for the girlfriend, she was really embarrased about it. Of course most 16 year old girls are embarrased about anything their parents do. Looking back on it, I felt bad for her that her parents didn't use better judgement in their recreational activities.

[Atilla]

Never!!!!

I understand someone playing with the children asleep upstairs and having some sort of warning system if that child awoke but to have children in a seperate room, NO WAY!!!!

I never have sex with DH if my child is awake so why would I swing if children were awake even if occupied. Children are unpredictable and this is defiantely something that I don't want our child knowing. It's our business what we do not our child's business.

[J & K]

We have and I "J" didn't like it. Matter of fact I even hate to party or drink with kids around. Seems like a lot of folks we know it is ok when their kids are around and the adults drink and flirt.

One cpl we know is so lame with sending their teenagers off their excuse is nobody can watch them. Duh...what about the 5 straight cpls you know that have kids to babysit? We send ours off for overnight stays with grandma, but we know Grandma isn't in every city.

If you have swinging friends with kids take turns asking to watch eachother's kids, but set aside for a private meeting to make up for it. Now-a-days babysitters are hard to find and trust.

Make the best of it folks!!!

[DBL D]

Pretty Bizarre Behaviour!

Is the chance of being seen by the kids a sexual exciter of some kind?

Not sure why someone would do that just to save a few bucks on a babysitter.

Male D

[mf69_98]

I was recently with a new lady friend's house & we were playing in her living room on a foldout bed. In the middle of the action, I thought I heard someone cough upstairs. I found out the next time we were together that her grandchildren were upstairs. Now she's very vocal in bed, so it really bugged me to find out they were up there & could probably hear everything.

Now on another hand, my wife & her lover played in our bedroom a couple of times after our kids went to bed a couple hours earlier on a school night. They kept things quite (I was downstairs in the room under our bedroom so they could have some solo time together) and as both of our kids are heavy sleepers, I don't think they knew what was going on up there. They only did it the 2 times, as I felt they were pushing their luck too much. Now we make sure the kids are at my mom's or go over to his place.

[F16AV8R]

We've done the wild thing with friends while the kids were home but they were in diapers and asleep. They were so young that even if they'd woken up and gotten out of tghe crib, they wouldn't have known what was going on. The kids are 9 and 7 now so no we would not run the risk of getting caught by them. We don't feel there is anything shameful about what we do, but as responsible parents, you never want your kids to see any of this even if it's just you and your spouse. However, if the kids were asleep and friends were in the jacuzzi with us we might do some playing under the water.

[puneswings]

We once had a group scene with 5 couples (us included) involved. We had rented a villa quite far out from everyone's respective places of residence. However, one of them had a babysitter cancelling at the last minute, and had no choice but to either cancel their own plans of joining us, or bringing the children along. They went with the latter.

We (me and asha) were a bit nervous about it initially, but it turned out fine in the end. The children (3 yrs and 5 yrs, if I remember right) went to bed early, and didn't wake up even once, despite the fairly loud noises coming from our designated Temple of Wanton Lust.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by puneswings

We once had a group scene with 5 couples (us included) involved. We had rented a villa quite far out from everyone's respective places of residence. However, one of them had a babysitter cancelling at the last minute, and had no choice but to either cancel their own plans of joining us, or bringing the children along. They went with the latter.

We (me and asha) were a bit nervous about it initially, but it turned out fine in the end. The children (3 yrs and 5 yrs, if I remember right) went to bed early, and didn't wake up even once, despite the fairly loud noises coming from our designated Temple of Wanton Lust.

I'm glad it worked out and the children slept through it but I do have to admit that if I was one of the five couples who had split the cost of the cabin, got my own babysitters for a stress free, "no holds barred" weekend with some lifestyle friends and one of them brought their kids, I'd be very upset. That to me is very selfish and inconsiderate on that couples part. They should have just backed out and planned for the next time.

Just my 2 cents on how it would make me feel. I've had vanilla situations where you plan an adult thing and someone brings their children. I love our children with my life but if I make plans for some adult time (kids to grandma or sitter) regards of what it involves I don't want to list or deal with someone else's who thought it would be okay to bring their children even though no one else did.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

if I was one of the five couples who had split the cost of the cabin, got my own babysitters for a stress free, "no holds barred" weekend with some lifestyle friends and one of them brought their kids, I'd be very upset.

Dito Me too!

I'd leave.....after asking for my money back.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

We once met a couple for the first time & they brought their 5 year old daughter to the meet. It was, how shall we say, off putting. She was a sweet child- we bought her some pie. Nothing sexy about THAT conversation. We know the problems of baby sitters- we have three kids. But still, not good form.

There is a reason that we did not start swinging until two years ago- it coincides with our oldest being 16- old enough to baby sit.

I've been an employment manager. I've interviewed people for a job with their 4 year old in their lap. No problem. The person is unemployed and can't afford a baby sitter. I understand. But not the same in swinging.

Swinging and children have NO PLACE- it's selfish- pure and simple- sorry, just our take....

[birdieone]

Great topic, simple response. By being in this lifestyle most assume that you are in a secure , structured and deeply committed relationship with your s/o. having said that, your family should always come first, no matter what. It is our responsibility to filter, teach and be mentors and role models for our children. Therefore it is our responsibility to filter children from this lifestlye until they are of the age to make their own decisions. We hope we do not offend anyone with our comment but if the situation ever arose, and we went to a house party or the like, and children were present no matter what the age or situation we would simply excuse ourselves.

[HotMoCpl]

We wern't swinging, just with each other. This happened not too long after my wife and I met about fifteen years ago. She had a fifteen year old daughter. We were buck ass naked and she giving me one hell of a bj when I noticed her daughter peeking into the bedroom. When she noticed that I spotted her, I got the "deer in the headlights" look and she ducked back. I just put it out of my mind until a couple of years ago and told the wife. We both knew that her daughter had been sexually active for awhile at that time and she made light of it. Hey, afterall, I did marry her mom.

As far as actually swinging? If there are kids in the house....we're outta there!