Swinging with Kids in the House

[BiloxiCouple]

2neophytes:

Obviously no one wants their kids to catch them in the act. But what I wonder is what's the difference between being caught together (you and your spouse) and being caught with another person or couple?

That's the way we feel. We have brought partners over while the teenagers slept. And let our new friends know that up front before they come over. Our kids also know (to a point) what we do. They don't wear our swinger t-shirts (which is another funny story). But one of them likes the Miss No Swimsuit t-shirt from Hedo.

[akamgaxoxo]

We have had our friend over while our child was home. Actually this was the first time he was able to meet our kid, so that was kinda cool. Though before hand I totally made sure if he was fine with meeting our child and knowing that he would be there and may wake up. HOWEVER our child is very young still and is in a crib and though they may wake up, they won't get outta bed and walk in on us either. Such a scary thought!
I would like to have an open and honest relationship with my child in the future about sex, but I still don't think I would feel comfortable with discussing swinging with him either!
That being said, as soon as he is old enough for a big bed and could get out of the bed, then I guess we will have to resort to nites out on the town and have fun in a hotel room...which by that point will be fine and dandy for us as I love to get a nite out!!!

[eroticsensation]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

And what if you are caught? How do you explain that to your kids? Aren't your kids more important than getting an extra rush over the fact that they might catch you?

This is what I was thinking! We have a 5 year old daughter. I would never forgive myself if she caught us in the act. She is old and smart enough to remember this for good. In my opinion it is careless to do it while kids are in the home. it is just not right with us.

[stoutgatte]

As with many others our child (baby) sleeps in a cot, which she can't get out of on her own. Once she starts sleeping in a proper bed and the risk of her walking in on us becomes realistic, swinging with her in the house is not an option.

[us2maybe]

I just don't think that's a good idea. I mean its kinda asking for an issue to happen...lord knows its bad enough if your kids were to catch the two parents together...what would you tell them with an "outsider" being intimate. It would truly be asking for a potential issue, and inviting issues...this could potentially border on an issue that if the wrong person got hold of - child endangerment or reason for someone's kids to be taken. Perhaps if it was an infant, but even then with swinging safety has to be key and god forbid some issue arouse of jealousy or violence that your child would be in that environment.

[akamgaxoxo]

[akamgaxoxo]

Originally Posted by akamgaxoxo

Perhaps if it was an infant, but even then with swinging safety has to be key and god forbid some issue arouse of jealousy or violence that your child would be in that environment.

Quote from US2maybe

Of course we are all entitled to our own opinions, however, if I had that much of a fear about whether any violence would happen to my child while a friend was over, then I would NOT be swinging with that friend just for my own safety's sake.....

[tazzie_n_truck]

We have been with another couple while our kids were in the house sleeping, but we feel alot more comfortable doing it without the kids around. Lately when we have swapped with another couple, the kids havn't been there.

[EUcpl]

Our kid is 3 and the kid of our friends 4. So we have no problems. We have fun and great pleasure when the kids are sleeping. Why not? Mostly we starting, all are naked, with dancing, kissing and touching. After that we have fun in the bedroom. Next day we have a fine breakfast with our kids. That is life and we love it!

[4forfun]

EUcpl Are yours and your friends children sleeping in a crib? Probably not by their ages, so what if the children wake up and happen to catch you with a different partner? How do you explain that? It seems to me that having fun is first and foremost in your lives than worrying about your children walking in on you. Shame on you. Mrs

[LikeMinds321]

I don't have children, but I remember babysitting children who were sleeping in cribs but would climb right over the top and appear in the living room.

If a child can walk - as do three and four year olds - they are old enough to walk in on your activities. I think this would be inappropriate.

LM

[JustAskJulie]

I just finally had a chance to watch the Oprah: After the Show follow-up to the show she did on Swinging a few weeks ago.

One of the things that caught my attention was a letter she read from a woman who wrote that her father was a swinger (from what she wrote/said I wouldn't really call him a swinger but that's another discussion) and would take her to swing parties.

Basically, all the people he played with had kids and they would rotate houses, the kids would be sent off to a separate area of the house or sent outside, but the kids all knew what was going on inside. Her words (and something I have said many times) "Kids are much smarter than they are given credit for".

So the poll above, and please give your thoughts and experiences as well.

[mwsw4ever]

As a child of former swingers my parents never did anything at home when me or my sister were around.I caught on when i was in my early teens from all the strangers calling, lots of mail from all over,and condoms in their bedroom(my mother had her tubes tied).I don't know even at that age how i would have been affected by being at the same place they were swinging at and possibly seeing more than i had wanted too.I had a hard time trying to understand why they would do this and felt very confused at the time.Now that me and my wife are in the lifestyle i fully understand why now.I would think for a younger child to be in that situation and find out would leave a mark on them emotionally.Recently i had the chance to chat with a couple we met on SLS where she had found out her parents were swingers by seeing her parents in a 3some with a family friend when she got home from school,she was 9 at the time.She had told me they had planned to swing up to the time they had a child. Me and the Mrs would never swing with any kids around ours or the other couples.I feel the right time for our children to know is when they are old enough and mature enough to fully understand.

[Spoomonkey]

When we were first being "introduced" to the lifestyle, our "older, wiser" mentor couple had us over for some "innocent" nakedness. We played strip games and that was as far as it went.

Their kids were asleep upstairs, but the games took place in the living room - right at the bottom of the stairs. We just followed their lead and figured they knew what they were doing...

Looking back on it now, it makes my stomach twist in knots. What if the kids had come down for water and seen four adults bare-assed naked? What sort of damage would that do to a kid?

We were new and naive...

Never, ever again...

Spoomonkey

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Mr Spoo said it. It sometimes sickens me to think about that time, we were new and trusting them to show us the "ropes" so to speak. I can't believe they were willing to do that and as Mr Spoo indicated. . . . NEVER EVER AGAIN!

Mrs Spoomonkey